This chapter talks about how we’ve been led to believe what love is and what it really is.

This excerpt goes into the I’m ok you’re ok scenario and what it means.

The do you best mechanism leaves you with a sense of never completing anything.

The “carry on” mechanism can lead to burnout via the release of hormones in the body. We need to create balance and space.

Adaptation is a mechanism learned to assist in dealing with relationships, whilst giving up your own autonomy.

The “Be Strong” structure, survival mechanism that has developed from childhood.

The “Be Perfect” structure, outlines learned behaviour & seeking approval from others in order for perfectionism.

Everyone has a mechanism for survival that they developed as a child that serves them as an adult, however quite often with the childhood memories attached.

Here Danielle talks about the connection between the 4 human systems

This chapter describes why we react to certain situations that present today, based on past/stored experiences