We start with a listener question…“Are ball gags meant to make you gag?”(Inspired by episode 52)Some about ball gags… purpose and safety.Stormy Daniel’s warning on the safe word that is NOT “safe” with a ball gag. Our relationship to sex? How do we engage in sex and sexuality… body, mind, spirit?What is it today, yesterday and how will it change and shift over time… to ourselves, our partners, our own evolution. Our values. Sex for sex sakeExplorationConnectionUsed for pleasureUSE for pleasureA giftValue in sexual experience… your value for you, how others value you, your body, Joy and fun How are your sexual experiences feeding you?Are YOU feeding them?Are they feeding you?How does role play and BDSM fit into this conversation? Journal? More with Judy and Patricia PATRICIA ENGELKING, PhD – Relationship Doula Learn more about Patricia, working with her as your coach on Patricia’s website at: https://www.patriciaengelking.comFind her on Facebook, Instagram, TikTokhttps://www.facebook.com/patricia.eng3lkingHer book – Crossing the river called sufferingOrHer latest book… Embrace Your Sexual EnergyYou can click right to amazon through this website… Look on the right side. JUDY BREUER– Weekly well-being Podcast and wellness advocate Connect with Judy and her weekly The Wellness Renaissance PodcastWellnessRenPodcast.comor listen on iTunes and other places you listen to podcasts.

Judy and Patricia came to this conversation with VERY different directions. The what. the why. the ego? Why do you ask to have sex with your ex? Why do you say yes if asked? What do you get out of it? Power? Disposable? Jack hammers? Empowered? Friends with benefits?  Just the benefits? A few questions to ask ourselves as we enter into relationships Is the “just one more time” REALLY just one more time??.. Are ya going in eyes wide open… or eyes REALLY tightly shut? There are real emotions and real people’s lives involved What do you think?? Instagram: @stylo_erotique More with Judy and Patricia PATRICIA ENGELKING, PhD – Relationship Doula You can learn more about and find Patricia’s main website at: https://www.patriciaengelking.comFind her on Facebook, Instagram, TikTokhttps://www.facebook.com/patricia.eng3lkingHer book – Crossing the river called sufferingOrHer latest book… Embrace Your Sexual EnergyYou can click right to amazon through this website JUDY BREUER– Weekly well-being Podcast and wellness advocate Connect with Judy and her weekly The Wellness Renaissance PodcastWellnessRenPodcast.comor listen on iTunes

A conversation Patricia had about gagging during a blow job sparked some interesting conversations… SO, we continued the conversation here… Take a listen and chime in. Hear the responses and where people weighed in… and our added conversation. We’d love to hear from men in relationships with men and women…. what do YOU think? As the gag-ER… Click the “ask a question” link above and share away! MORE EPISODES OF SEX MATTERS PODCAST. AT… https://sexmatterspodcast.com/Thank you for spending your time with us! Support the podcast! Your generous… or even conservative… support… be that monetary sharing, feedback, questions… it goes a long way to helping to keep Sex Matters. Podcast alive and kicking. THANK YOU!!!https://www.patreon.com/SexMatters Find more of Judy and Patricia PATRICIA ENGELKING, PhD – Relationship Doula You can learn more about and find Patricia’s main website at: https://www.patriciaengelking.comFind her on Facebook, Instagram, TikTokhttps://www.facebook.com/patricia.eng3lkingHer book – Crossing the river called sufferingOrHer latest book… Embrace Your Sexual EnergyYou can click right to amazon through this website JUDY BREUER– Weekly well-being Podcast and wellness advocate Connect with Judy and her weekly The Wellness Renaissance PodcastWellnessRenPodcast.comor listen on iTunes

Today we explore…. Patricia’s inspiration… The Way off the Superior Man.   Patricia pulled out an intriguing section in said book… Tolerating her leads to resentment. (Written in 1997… this is the 20 year anniversary addition.) The whys… the hows. We explore the author’s suggestions and add some of our own. We also talked about Indian food and moods, partner equality and other fun stuff. Take a listen… what do YOU think? Does this resonate? The book this chapter of discussion was taken…The Way of the Superior Man [Paperback] [Jan 01, 2017] David Deidahttps://amzn.to/3jn6u9C Patricia also mentioned this book.Sex Matters: How Modern Feminism Lost Touch with Science, Love, and Common Sense by Mona Charenhttps://amzn.to/33kGXse MORE EPISODES OF SEX MATTERS PODCAST. AT… https://sexmatterspodcast.com/Thank you for spending your time with us! Support this podcast! Your generous… or even conservative… support. Goes a long way to helping to keep Sex Matters. Podcast alive and kicking. THANK YOU!!!https://www.patreon.com/SexMatters Find more of Judy and Patricia PATRICIA ENGELKING, PhD – Relationship Doula You can learn more about and find Patricia’s main website at: https://www.patriciaengelking.comFind her on Facebook, Instagram, TikTokhttps://www.facebook.com/patricia.eng3lkingHer book – Crossing the river called sufferingYou can click right to amazon through the website JUDY BREUER– Weekly well-being Podcast and wellness advocate Connect with Judy and her weekly The Wellness Renaissance PodcastWellnessRenPodcast.comor listen on iTunes

IT IS OUT!!! So is Episode 50 And so it is Patricia’s 50th Birthday! Half way to being a centurion! YOU GO GIRL! CELEBRATE WITH US! And hear more about WHO should get “Embrace Your Sexual Energy”… Patricia’s new book. Yes, EVERYBODY of course! Wink, wink. Nudge nudge. But WHO and WHY this book can speak to so many… walk them through a journey of learning ourselves and our own mind. (You can check it out here… https://amzn.to/2Fu1ktQ Judy shares some of her perspectives on the book and why it matters. There are so many ways you could use this book. Know, it is an introspective journey that you will be taking… You are invited! –Have questions you want us to chat about… about sex… about Patrica’s Books?Send your questions, comments and thoughts here. https://sexmatterspodcast.com/questions/ MORE EPISODES OF SEX MATTERS PODCAST. AT… https://sexmatterspodcast.com/Thank you for spending your time with us! Support this podcast! Your generous… or even conservative… support. Goes a long way to helping to keep Sex Matters. Podcast alive and kicking. THANK YOU!!!https://www.patreon.com/SexMatters PATRICIA ENGELKING, PhD – Relationship Doula You can learn more about and find Patricia’s main website at: https://www.patriciaengelking.comFind her on Facebook, Instagram, TikTokhttps://www.facebook.com/patricia.eng3lkingHer book – Crossing the river called sufferingYou can click right to amazon through the website JUDY BREUER– Weekly well-being Podcast and wellness advocate Connect with Judy and her weekly The Wellness Renaissance PodcastWellnessRenPodcast.comor listen on iTunes

Check THIS out!… (Oh Patricia… ya big tease!) Patricia treats us to a sneak peak read of the introduction of her new book Embrace Your Sexual Energy.   It is a lovely invitation and explanation of the book’s inspiration and her philosophy around sex and culture and US as individuals.   She gives us a peak at what we can expect to find.    After a chat about Patricia’s 2 experiences skydiving… and why! Patricia is also turning 50!!  HAPPY BIRTHDAY PATRICIA!   The same day her new book is released… So, lots to celebrate.  Her book releases in hard copy, Tuesday, September 15, 2020. If you can’t wait – it is available on Kindle right now. Embrace Your Sexual Energy by Patricia Engelking (IF the link does not appear properly please search on Amazonhttps://amzn.to/3ik3OJy Dr. PATRICIA ENGELKING – Relationship Doula You can learn more about and find Patricia’s main website at: https://www.patriciaengelking.comFind her on Facebook, Instagram, TikTokhttps://www.facebook.com/patricia.eng3lkingHer book – Crossing the river called sufferingYou can click right to amazon through the website JUDY BREUER– Weekly well-being Podcast and wellness advocate Connect with Judy and her weekly The Wellness Renaissance PodcastWellnessRenPodcast.comor listen on iTunes

Judy and Patricia are taking a bit of a sabbatical from releasing podcast episodes as we both make some huge life shifts, focus on additional projects, education, regrouping and opening the door to possibilities. Please feel free to continue sending us questions and topic ideas through the website or facebook! We LOVE to hear from you! Some fun finds to share with you all! Girl Boner: The Good Girl’s Guide to Sexual Empowerment by August McLaughlinhttps://amzn.to/3eg4qh8 Hannah Gadsby: Douglas – Official Trailer – Netflix CONTACT https://www.patriciaengelking.com/ Her book – Crossing the River Called Suffering, by Patricia Engelkinghttps://amzn.to/2Ehpcg You can find the original episode, episode 68, at The Wellness Renaissance Podcasthttps://wellnessrenpodcast.com/

It is summer and there are a lot of shift and changes for everyone it seems.  They are also happening for Patricia and Judy.  Good changes!  We want to share one with you now! Patricia has broadened her work and scope over the last few years! Sexual authenticity and the power exchange are very much at the base of her work… but she is expanding that to becoming a Relationship Doula.  What is that, you ask!  Well, she will tell you in our introduction!  The short version is helping couples move through transition together toward the outcome they want to have.  Learn more and the new offerings she has with the expanded work. Then we will head into to playing you the original, entire episode we did on The Wellness Renaissance Podcast.   That information all still applies with the expanded work she is doing today! What is a sexual authenticity coach? Why is it so important for us to find and know our true authentic sexual self? What can be gained in our relationship with ourselves, our partners and all relationships when we are able to peel away the limiting beliefs, judgments, assumptions, “shoulds”, etc., that we catch and have instilled in us. “Sex isn’t good or bad, it just is”  There is a broad range of what sex and sexuality looks like and includes. Does it fell good, right, authentic to you? How can we get to a place of feeling comfortable not only answering that question but asking it in the first place. That is what Patricia helps coach and facilitate. Patricia shares about her story of being in a 25 year unintentional abusive marriage, maintaining her desired role as a faithful wife. And then the year that followed as she takes a very personal journey that brings her to where she is today as a transformation and sexual authenticity coach. She talks about her book and the significance of the title as it relates to her journey, wherein she shares the details of her life and how it all has prepared her for the work and life she lives today. Join us for a very intriguing, and I think important, conversation. CONTACT https://www.patriciaengelking.com/ Her book – Crossing the River Called Suffering, by Patricia Engelkinghttps://amzn.to/2Ehpcg You can find the original episode, episode 68, at The Wellness Renaissance Podcasthttps://wellnessrenpodcast.com/

Mark is a 68 year old, healthy man who has a high sex drive.   His wife is choosing the grandmother role over that of his sex partner and intimate connection.  They have been married for over 40 years.  He still wants her but she is saying she is done.  He wants to know what to do and where to find that intimate connection.   Listen to the detailed question and Patricia and Judy share their perspective and advice. RESOURCES MENTIONED BOOKS Mating in Captivity By Esther Perelhttps://amzn.to/3cFg2Zs The State of Affairs By Esther Perelhttps://amzn.to/374tLrz AASECTAmerican Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapistshttps://www.aasect.org/find-professional/listing/1/4373 Thank YOU for listening!   We truly appreciate you! SexMattersPodcast.comhttps://sexmatterspodcast.com/ Send in your questions, topics you’d love to hear us talk about, we love to hear from you.Leave a reviewSign up for the email list and get a PDF of daily positive sex affirmationsConsider supporting our work on Patreon.  Your support makes a difference.https://www.patreon.com/SexMatters PATRICIA – Relationship Doula You can learn more about and find Patricia’s main website at: https://www.patriciaengelking.comFind her on Facebookhttps://www.facebook.com/patricia.eng3lkingHer book – Crossing the river called sufferingYou can click right to amazon through the website JUDY – Weekly well-being Podcast and wellness advocate Connect with Judy and her weekly The Wellness Renaissance PodcastWellnessRenPodcast.comor listen on iTunes

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