Wear a mask - PLEASE!!! The reality of the COVID pandemic continues to get harsher and harsher, revealing more and more disparities. We could do so much better than we are IF WE CHOOSE DIFFERENTLY. So make the choice, wear a mask. Save lives.⠀ ⠀ Death.⠀ Unemployment.⠀ Evictions.⠀ Social isolation.⠀ ⠀ We can get through this #together but only if we all are on the same page. This shouldn't be political, but sadly it seems politics has become the lens through which response to #COVID19 has focused. ⠀ ⠀ I took this video up in Tahoe while walking a gorgeous single-track trail. Looking for a peaceful retreat in nature, I found out quickly my idea was anything but unique. Mask wearing was about 60% on the trails and in the town. I found myself so irritated, that even in when trying to refuel and relax in nature, reminders of the problems of the pandemic followed me north. ⠀ ⠀ I'm privileged and extremely grateful that I could escape up north while still working. Not everyone has this choice. The essential workers who have to report into work physically don't have this choice, making them more susceptible to catching the virus. ⠀ ⠀ The argument that it's a patriotic right to choose NOT to wear a mask in public is BS. If you find this offensive, sit with it. The data is clear- wearing a mask protects those infected with COVID from SPREADING IT TO OTHERS. This is key. Even if you don't think you're at high risk of dying or becoming extremely sick from COVID - not everyone has that choice. ⠀ ⠀ Politicians continue to spin/silence the data, but if you have the time and space to read this post, then hopefully you can use some of that to also remind yourself of the choice you can make to protect others and stand up to division to #copetogether⠀ ⠀ If you're wondering what voting has to do with sex & relationships. Here's the link: watching COVID death rates rise is leading to more and more fear, isolation - suppressing feelings of safety and empowerment, the two key ingredients to healthy relationships and mind blowing sex. This isn't trivial. The systemic socio-cultural factors that maintain oppression, continue to disconnect us from ourselves and divide us from others. ⠀

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