Trigger Warning: This episode addresses sensitive topics related to male sexual abuse, grooming, and rape.The inspiration for this episode came from watching the popular Netflix TV show "Baby Reindeer," which is based on a true story. It follows a struggling comedian who becomes the target of a mentally unstable woman. Simultaneously, he seeks the attention of a successful comedy writer who ends up abusing him. While the series explores various issues, one aspect that stood out to me was the intense shame experienced by the character due to the abuse. Additionally, it delves into the confusion surrounding his sexuality and the shame he carries due to the events that took place.It wasn't until I embarked on my own sexual journey in my forties, exploring alternative lifestyles and having conversations with men, that I began to comprehend the prevalence of sexual abuse experienced by older men. Often, these traumatic experiences occurred during their time in boarding schools or within the Catholic church. I heard their stories so often, that I began to believe that anyone aged 50+ who had not suffered abuse, whether sexual or emotional, was the exception that proved the rule.In this candid discussion with Dr. Graham Stevenson, an intimacy and relationship coach, we delve into his own childhood experience of sexual abuse. Dr. Stevenson shares the personal work he has undertaken to overcome his own shame and how he has assisted others in their healing journeys. We also explore how unresolved trauma can profoundly affect one's interpersonal relationships.Among the podcasts I have hosted, I firmly believe it is crucial to foster an environment where we can openly share our experiences. By doing so, we can offer support to others who may be facing similar challenges.https://www.doctorgraham.co.uk/Sex Advice for Seniors is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

Christine Baumgartner was an experienced dating and relationship coach when her husband died six years ago. Little did she realize back then that her own experience navigating grief, confusion, and reconnection would ultimately lead her to coach other widowers.In this episode, we discuss the unique experience of dating after loss, especially around body confidence and sexual dysfunction. Christine offers great tips on overcoming feelings of not feeling as fit and frisky as earlier in life, and how she works with both men and women to help them stop chasing unsuitable partners and find "the perfect catch."The good news is that many of Christine's clients have discovered there are safe and proactive ways to re-enter the dating world that truly work.Sex Advice for Seniors is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.The Perfect Catch/FacebookChristine Baumgartner/LinkedIn@coachchristinebaumgartner/ Instagram@ThePerfectCatch)/TwitterCoach Christine Baumgartner/ YouTube Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

In this week's episode, I delve into the topic of finding love as a woman aged 50 and above. Joining me as a guest is Lisa Copeland, a dating coach and the founder of Find a Quality Man, based in Cleveland, Ohio. Lisa brings her firsthand experience of seeking love later in life, having been married for over 20 years.Having spent more than 20 years navigating the world of dating, I understand that at this stage in life, we may seek a different kind of relationship than our younger years. However, it's common to fall into the trap of holding onto the old Cinderella concept, believing in instant attraction and the idea that someone out there will sweep us off our feet.Sex Advice for Seniors is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.During my conversation with Lisa, I thoroughly enjoyed exchanging dating stories and gaining insights on avoiding online dating scams. We also discussed strategies for navigating the crucial first date and the essential questions to ask during that initial meeting.Ultimately, it boils down to knowing what you truly desire. If you're uncertain about your own wants and needs, it's unlikely that you'll find a high-quality partner. So, to all the single individuals out there, I wish you fruitful searching, and I hope you find value in this episode!https://findaqualityman.comFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisacopelanddatingcoachPinterest: http://www.pinterest.com/lisaacopeland/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/copelandlisaInstagram: www.instagram.com/over50datecoachYouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKghu6KAXE2TecDc7SGygZg Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

This week, I'm having a conversation with sex coach Marie Morice, who uses the female archetype of Lilith to help women embrace their sexuality. I'm familiar with Lilith because I've read Monique Roffey's book, 'The Tryst.' It's a modern fable where Lilah's arrival transforms a couple's relationship, loosely based on Lilith's persona. So I was curious to talk to Marie and learn about her perspective on Lilith and how it influences her work.Marie is based in London and works with many older women. Some of her clients want to gain sexual confidence, while others who are in relationships want to enhance their sexual experiences.I encourage you to listen to the conversation, and if you have any questions or comments for Marie or me, please let me know!As always, I appreciate your support. I'll be adding an extra post each week exclusively for paid subscribers. These posts will usually be sex toy reviews, but they could also be answers to your questions. Do consider supporting Sex Advice for Seniors via a paid subscription if possible.You can read about Marie’s forthcoming novel: https://manhuntinginmanhattan.com/Find Marie’s website here: lilithyourlife.comSex Advice for Seniors is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

In this week's episode, we interview Suki Dunham, the creator of the first device that combines music and vibrations, developed in 2006. Since then, she has developed a wide range of innovative sexual pleasure products under her brand, OhMiBod.During the interview, we discuss Suki's career journey, from her time at Apple to her decision to start a sex tech business. We also delve into her latest creation, the Lovelife Rev, a specially designed toy for older individuals or those who may experience arthritis. Lastly, we touch upon the importance of being cautious when purchasing a sex toy to ensure that the materials used are safe and won't cause harm.We are thrilled to announce that OhMiBod is now a sponsor of Sex Advice for Seniors. Both OhMiBod and our team believe in spreading the message that people can enjoy fulfilling sexual experiences, regardless of their age.If you’d like to help us spread the word and keep Sex Advice for Seniors going, click on any of our affiliate links in the shop section. We’ll receive a small commission for anything you purchase. Sex Advice for Seniors is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support our work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

I came across Maria Cyndi's Instagram profile recently, where she has started advocating for and celebrating the sexual rights of disabled people. I immediately felt that we should have her on our show. In the past, when Peter was a co-host, we did touch upon this topic, mainly from a male perspective as he lives with MS.However, we believed it was important to approach the subject again, this time from a female point of view. During our conversation with Maria, we discussed many aspects that we hadn't previously explored.One clear observation we made is that when it comes to inclusivity, particularly regarding sexual rights, older disabled women face significant challenges. There seems to be an assumption that they are asexual. Maria shared her personal experiences, including a visit to the doctor for a smear test that left her feeling uncertain, as well as another instance where her disability made it difficult for the radiographer to obtain a complete picture of her breasts during a mammogram.If you want to follow Maria on Instagram and support her work, you can do so here:https://instagram.com/maria_cyndi02Sex Advice for Seniors is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support our work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

This week’s fascinating guest is Dr. Eliot Justin, CEO and founder of FirmTech, a wearable tech company which has created an innovative cock ring, that provides men with information about their nocturnal erections, a leading indicator of vascular health. Did you know that a healthy man will have 3-5 nocturnal erections each night? And that erectile dysfunction is not just a later-in-life problem; 30% of men at the age of 30 suffer from ED. This number increases by 10% every decade of age. As Dr. Justin explains, ED can be caused by several factors including taking antidepressants and other medication, but several studies have shown that a man with ED has a greater risk of having heart disease. We’ve spoken about penis pumps as a way to improve penile health, but cockrings have also been shown to help maintain the blood in the penis, leading to longer-lasting erections. While most are quite rudimentary in design, FirmTech is producing something quite superior, with its MaxPR product, featuring an innovative easy on/off hook and latch design that can be comfortably worn for up to 90 minutes. We hope you enjoy this episode as much as we enjoyed recording it with Eliot. If you want to test any of FirmTech’s products, use the code SEXWITHNOBLE to get 10% off any product from their site here.* Website – myfirmtech.com* LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/elliot-justin-md/* Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/myfirmtech/* Code – “SEXWITHNOBLE” to receive 10 per cent off their next orderSex Advice for Seniors is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support our work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

Well, it was bound to happen sooner or later, and it happened this week. I found myself being targeted by a group of (I assume) Far Right, conservative men who took offence to my suggestion that excessive consumption of pornography could have negative effects on one's sex life.As one would expect, this rather unremarkable and self-evident observation triggered a barrage of abusive comments. Fortunately, those comments have been deleted, and the individuals responsible have been blocked. This all unfolded on Facebook because TikTok has a more effective system for removing hate speech compared to Meta.Despite claiming that I didn't care and wasn't paying attention, I couldn't help but notice as the notifications kept pouring in, one after another, each one mentioning my supposed lack of attractiveness, my delivery style being off-putting, or whatever else these trolls deemed worthy of commenting on.This week has been significant in various ways, mostly positive. A writer from the Mail newspaper featured me as a "granfluencer," even though I don't have grandchildren. Additionally, the Sun newspaper wrote today about my passion for experiencing orgasms, with or without a partner. Furthermore, we have secured a sponsor who will assist in covering the costs of running this podcast, and we will be collaborating with them on TikTok. The sponsor is OhmiBod, and together we aim to "Shift the Evolution of Pleasure." I'll be trying out some of their products, including the Lovelife Rev, which boasts an innovative design that is particularly suitable for women with arthritis. Go and check them out.All of these topics and more are discussed in this week's episode. Listen in and if you fancy subscribing for £4.99/month or £49.99/year to support our work and because you believe that what we do to help older people have a healthier sex life is worth the price of a cup of coffee, do consider becoming a paid subscriber. Every penny counts.SuzanneSex Advice for Seniors is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support our work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

We were delighted to have a very special guest on the show this week, Dr. Lauren Streicher MD, talking primarily about the research findings from the recently published ‘Kinsey Institute survey, executed in exclusive partnership with Cosmopolitan, in which a national demographically representative sample of 3,001 women in the U.S. ages 60 and up come clean about everything from their desire for sex to their deepest fantasies.’Dr Streicher is a gynaecologist and sexual health expert. She is an associate clinical professor of obstetrics and gynaecology at Northwestern University's Feinberg School of Medicine. She is also a Senior Research Fellow of the Kinsey Institute of Indiana University and the Medical Director of Patient Education and Community Outreach for Midi Health. She hosts her podcast, Dr. Streicher’s Inside Informationhttps://www.drstreicher.com/abouthttps://www.drstreicher.com/podcast#episodesLinkedIn @DrStreicherInstagram @DrSTREICH @MidiHealthFacebook @DrStreicherDr. Streicher’s Inside Information booksMidi HealthWe need your help! Sex Advice for Seniors is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support our work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Every new subscriber is two fingers up to a society who continue to ignore the sexual rights of older people. Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

Avoiding pornography is nearly impossible nowadays, unlike in the past when it was only accessible in XXX cinemas or hidden behind the counter in seedy magazine shops. Today, it's readily available on your phone, laptop, and home computer, allowing you to find whatever you desire with just a few keystrokes.While there's a lot of discussion about how young people are learning about sex from pornography, there's not as much focus on the harm it can cause to older individuals, both those in long-term relationships and those entering the dating scene. Particularly for men, if they've been without a partner for a significant amount of time, pornography can serve as a way to relieve sexual frustration. This doesn't mean that women aren't affected by it as well, but the statistics suggest that it's more of a problem for men.The Sex Advice for Seniors TikTok channel has received numerous comments from women over the past 18 months, asking for advice on how to prevent their male partners from watching porn. In this episode, we discuss how to identify a porn addiction and the steps you can take to rebuild intimacy in your relationship.Sex Advice for Seniors is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support our work, pay for our ongoing running costs, why not become a free or paid subscriber? Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe