Fiji and Autumn check in this week with new tattoos, Billie Eilish, social activities, Ice Spice, Central Lee, Madeline Argy, and body insecurities. Next, we dive into this week’s topic: body insecurities and sex. We’re talking: Fat shaming, being more than our bodies, bullying from doctors, internalized body shame, body dysmorphia, body shaming, pre-meet-up anxiety, bush vs bald, smells, stomach rolls, period sex, body shaming from a partner, body insecurity disclosures, insecurities about being on top during sex, How women body shame men, penis size,  height, performance anxiety, not being able to get hard, sex in the dark, skinny guys, affirming experiences from men, guys putting in work, being lazy during sex, catfishing, listener stories, and more!👀 Join our community of confused pussies💦🌵  Sources:https://docs.google.com/document/d/1N85SwqxlQy1Mp7un9lL5Rayi2Vy0g6QHMMAT_pQeB6o/edit  follow us on instagram, twitter, youtube, and tiktok @s0wets0dry the s0 wet s0 dry team:  Autumn (host, editor)  instagram: @autumnkaira  twitter: @autumnkaira  tiktok: @autumnkaira  Fiji (host, editor)  instagram: @s0wet  twitter: @s0wet  tiktok: @fijithesiren  youtube: @s0wet  Mylao (Graphic Designer, and Artist) instagram: @xlaomedia  email: [email protected]  A.I.R. (Music Producer)  instagram: @airgoincrazy --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/s0wets0dry/support

Fiji and Autumn check in this week with visiting family on the East Coast, Becca Moore and Shannon Beveridge, my family making comments about my body, and breaking my favorite boots. Next, we dive into this week’s topic: political apathy and dating someone with different political views than your own, is it possible? We’re talking: What is political apathy and why are we experiencing it? Is political apathy a dating dealbreaker? How do we judge people on dating apps based on political associations? Is political apathy a privilege? Different politics depending on the area, religious preferences, voting access, access to information, Dating across party lines: young men are more conservative than ever and young women are more liberal than ever, how algorithms isolate us, arguing about politics with your partner, judging people off of their political affiliations, emotionally charged conversations, listener stories, and more!👀 Join our community of confused pussies💦🌵  🍄Use code WET for 50% Tailor Mushrooms at https://www.tailor.store/ 🍄 Sources:https://www.dazeddigital.com/life-culture/article/62882/1/a-fifth-gen-z-young-people-political-aPathy-dating-dealbreaker-tinder-tory https://mashable.com/article/politics-dating-tinder-surveyhttps://www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/love-sex/relationships/a61417629/general-election-2024-dating-politics/https://dailytrojan.com/?p=202772 https://www.nytimes.com/2024/01/03/opinion/politics-dating-marriage.htmlhttps://www.glamourmagazine.co.uk/article/dating-politics-women-2024https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZPREVe8Mc/  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ks5M32xEo60https://www.buzzfeed.com/meganeliscomb/dating-opposite-political-viewshttps://www.tiktok.com/t/ZPRE4ntdt/ follow us on instagram, twitter, youtube, and tiktok @s0wets0dry the s0 wet s0 dry team:  Autumn (host, editor)  instagram: @autumnkaira  twitter: @autumnkaira  tiktok: @autumnkaira  Fiji (host, editor)  instagram: @s0wet  twitter: @s0wet  tiktok: @fijithesiren  youtube: @s0wet  Mylao (Graphic Designer, and Artist) instagram: @xlaomedia  email: [email protected]  A.I.R. (Music Producer)  instagram: @airgoincrazy --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/s0wets0dry/support

Fiji and Autumn check in this week with wet dreams, the Dallas Cowboy Cheerleaders, T breaks, coochie hair, and articles behind paywalls, Next, we dive into this week’s topic: boyfriends being embarrassing and the female audience. We’re talking: Loving men in private, the anxiety of hard launching a relationship, when being cheated on is embarrassing, men going on podcasts, keke palmer, simone biles, halle bailey, jalen & monet, It girls, the female audience, girls girl culture, dump him culture, the bar is on the floor culture, capitalism, not telling your friends about bad things your man does, the second thought, should we judge women by who the date?, listener stories, and more!👀 Join our community of confused pussies💦🌵  🍄Use code WET for 50% Tailor Mushrooms at https://www.tailor.store/ 🍄 Intro 00:00:00 - 00:04:52 What’s got us s0 wet and s0 dry this week 00:04:52 - 00:12:48 Boyfriends are embarrassing 00:12:48 - 00:17:22 Sabrina Carpenter’s song Please, Please, Please and the TikTok trends 00:17:22 - 00:23:46 Things boyfriends do to embarrass you: cheating and talking to you crazy in public 00:23:46 - 00:35:29 Men embarrassing their girlfriends in the media: Halle Bailey & DDG, Keke Palmer & boyfriend, Simone Biles & boyfriend, and  Jalen & Monet and the lack of media literacy 00:35:29 - 00:50:45 how your boyfriend treats you has become a status among women: it girls and the female audience 00:50:45 - 01:14:42 Toxic dump him and the bar is on the floor culture 01:14:42 - 01:30:51 Should we judge women by who the date and is it okay to date someone with different values? 01:30:51 - 01:39:44 Wrap up: what’s got us wet, dry, and still confused about the topic 01:39:44 - 02:01:35 Sources:https://www.refinery29.com/en-au/sabrina-carpenter-please-please-please-fan-reactions https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTNhJKGHn/ https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTNheUWTj/ https://youtu.be/dlOyMEfs-x4?si=K_ZFVLSj04QSPfWw https://www.teenvogue.com/story/tiktok-stars-monet-mcmichael-jalen-noble-dating https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTN61qgUm/ https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTN61qD1x/ https://youtu.be/nX6_X314P9c?si=_N-OYtgTihJlbp6V  https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTN61FJTB/ https://www.vogue.com/article/what-is-it-about-an-it-girl https://novaramedia.com/2022/09/03/dump-him-feminism-isnt-revolutionary-its-callous/https://graziadaily.co.uk/life/opinion/should-we-ever-judge-a-woman-by-who-she-chooses-to-have-sex-with/  follow us on instagram, twitter, youtube, and tiktok @s0wets0dry the s0 wet s0 dry team:  Autumn (host, editor)  instagram: @autumnkaira  twitter: @autumnkaira  tiktok: @autumnkaira  Fiji (host, editor)  instagram: @s0wet  twitter: @s0wet  tiktok: @fijithesiren  youtube: @s0wet  Mylao (Graphic Designer, and Artist) instagram: @xlaomedia  email: [email protected]  A.I.R. (Music Producer)  instagram: @airgoincrazy --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/s0wets0dry/support

Fiji and Autumn check in this week with being in love with flirting with ai, chapped lips, and crying in the shower. Next, we dive into this week’s topic: sex-positive feminism We’re talking: Rethinking sex positivity, reflecting on our sexual histories, critiques of sex-positive feminism, misconceptions about sex-positive feminism, the gaps between ideals and reality, slut shaming, the pressure to be more promiscuous, codes of how to act around men passed down by other women, prioritizing men’s pleasure, heterosexual norms, women’s desire, rebellion, Kim K, Sex Will Be Good Again by Katherine Angel, the popularity of profiting off of your body, hook up culture, Confidence feminism, the “hurtable” woman, the importance of preparing girls for womanhood, sex and relationship education, how sex-positive feminism impacts dating, the risks of being openly sex-positive, the shift to celibacy, women relearning themselves, listener stories, and more!👀 Join our community of confused pussies💦🌵 Intro 00:00:00 - 00:02:11 What’s got us s0 wet and s0 dry this week 00:02:11 - 00:06:46 Defining sex-positive feminism + our history and initial thoughts on sex positivity 00:06:46 - 00:14:00 The problems with sex-positive feminism & men’s perception 00:14:00 - 00:23:29 the pressure to be more promiscuous, our pleasure, and not knowing what we really want as women 00:23:29 - 00:28:14 consent culture, heterosexual norms, women’s desire, and rebellion 00:28:14 - 00:40:43 How sex-positive feminism gained and lost popularity 00:40:43 - 00:51:09 Confidence feminism vs the hurtable woman and the unachievable woman 00:51:09 - 01:02:23 Criticisms of sex-positive feminism, conservative tiktok, the anti-porn movement, and the pressures to have kinky sex 01:02:23 - 01:15:22 Where do men play a role in sex-positive feminism, how sex-positive feminism impacts dating, and the risks of being openly sex-positive 01:15:22 - 01:22:11 The gaps in sex-positive feminism, the 4B movement, and where to go from here 01:22:11 - 01:40:21 Wrap-up: Is sexual liberation truly possible? And What’s got us wet, dry, and still confused about sex-positive feminism 01:40:21 -01:54:19 Sources:https://www.nytimes.com/2021/09/24/opinion/sex-positivity-feminism.htmlhttps://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2022/feb/02/it-stopped-me-having-sex-for-a-year-why-generation-z-is-turning-its-back-on-sex-positive-feminismhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Idmegxtis8I&t=3s https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2022/feb/02/it-stopped-me-having-sex-for-a-year-why-generation-z-is-turning-its-back-on-sex-positive-feminismhttps://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/article/2024/may/21/celibacy-hetrosexual-women-boysober-4b-sex-positive-feminismfollow us on instagram, twitter, youtube, and tiktok @s0wets0dry the s0 wet s0 dry team:  Autumn (host, editor)  instagram: @autumnkaira  twitter: @autumnkaira  tiktok: @autumnkaira  Fiji (host, editor)  instagram: @s0wet  twitter: @s0wet  tiktok: @fijithesiren  youtube: @s0wet  Mylao (Graphic Designer, and Artist) instagram: @xlaomedia  email: [email protected]  A.I.R. (Music Producer)  instagram: @airgoincrazy --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/s0wets0dry/support

Fiji and Autumn check in this week with being in love with myself, new music, playing games with my roommate, Brat by Charlie XCX, expensive health insurance, and being out of my anti-depressants  Next, we dive into this week’s topic: AI and our love lives. We’re talking: Using AI to flirt better, the ethics of AI chatbots, sexting your fav porn star’s AI, AI taking on a mind of its own, content creators using AI to make money off of their image, the problem with an “ideal” partner, AI love stories, Eva AI, Soulmate AI, the sims, the dangers of unregulated ai, does AI contribute to misogyny, dating apps adopting AI features, Bumble, Match Group, Ashley Madison, the risks of sharing your data, dating app concierges, fake profiles and bots, gender disparities on dating apps, the social impact of AI, listener stories, and more!👀 Join our community of confused pussies💦🌵 Intro 00:00:00 - 00:02:06 What’s got us s0 wet and s0 dry this week 00:02:06 - 00:07:40 What do we know about AI? 00:07:40 - 00:10:48 Using AI to flirt better 00:10:48 - 00:13:18 AI sex chatbots: the financial opportunities, ethics, and dangers 00:13:18 - 00:25:16 People dating AI: an ideal partner or a risk to society? 00:25:16 - 00:30:34 Cody and Sophia: a tragic AI love story 00:30:34 - 00:40:08 A dangerous AI relationship 00:40:08 - 00:44:58 Dating AI to figure out your sexuality 00:44:58 - 00:46:29 How do we all feel about dating AI? Should we be scared? 00:46:29-00:57:19 Dating apps and AI: Bumble’s dating AI concierge and Match Group’s partnership with Open AI 00:57:19 - 01:10:53 Using AI to create fake dating profiles and bots and the gender disparities on dating apps 01:10:53 - 01:26:20 The future of AI and dating apps 01:26:20 What’s got us wet, dry, and still confused about AI and dating 01:32:43 - 01:45:25 Sources: https://www.engadget.com/adult-film-star-riley-reid-launches-clonaai-a-sexting-chatbot-platform-000509221.html  https://www.tiktok.com/@yourrichbff/video/7235347166678682926?_r=1&_t=8msOn7BG1VK  https://www.dallasobserver.com/arts/a-new-dating-app-pairs-humans-with-ai-companions-18586165  https://www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2023/jul/06/ai-chatbot-encouraged-man-who-planned-to-kill-queen-court-told  https://fortune.com/2024/05/10/bumbles-whitney-wolfe-herd-dating-concierge-artificial-intelligence/?utm_source=search&utm_medium=advanced_search&utm_campaign=search_link_clicks  https://gizmodo.com/tinder-owner-signs-chatgpt-deal-enjoy-the-ai-dating-ti-1851275100  https://www.bloomberg.com/news/newsletters/2024-02-14/scammers-litter-dating-apps-with-ai-generated-profile-pics  https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTLvsCeeK/ https://techcrunch.com/2024/02/05/bumbles-new-ai-tool-identifies-and-blocks-scam-accounts-and-fake-profiles/  https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTLvG1wXc/ https://www.tiktok.com/@expatriarch/video/7152918461969173803?_r=1&_t=8msOiZK81la  https://time.com/4013017/female-users-ashley-madison/  https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/dating-apps-frustration-premium-1.7144810#:~:text=According%20to%20a%20survey%20conducted,to%20have%20paid%20than%20women https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20240315-lidiane-jones-bumble-ai-bbc-executive-interview  follow us on instagram, twitter, youtube, and tiktok @s0wets0dry the s0 wet s0 dry team:  Autumn (host, editor)  instagram: @autumnkaira  twitter: @autumnkaira  tiktok: @autumnkaira  Fiji (host, editor)  instagram: @s0wet  twitter: @s0wet  tiktok: @fijithesiren  youtube: @s0wet  Mylao (Graphic Designer, and Artist) instagram: @xlaomedia  email: [email protected]  A.I.R. (Music Producer)  instagram: @airgoincrazy --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/s0wets0dry/support

Fiji and Autumn check in this week with interesting characters, much-needed massages, dating app fatigue, and high school bullies hitting me up. Next, we dive into this week’s topic: is Gen-z losing their identity to TikTok aesthetics trends? We’re talking: cultural appropriation, the clean girl trend, sad girls, the mob wife trend, glorifying sadness,/that girl trend, morning routine videos, the unreachable bar for women, mono-cultures, tiktok good communities, how marketing influences identity crises, inclusivity, creative marketing tactics, the art of styling, what your style says about you, overconsumption, jealousy and hate between other women, aspirational influencers, rage bait, navigating social media in a healthy way, media literacy, brand identity vs human identity, influencers and niches, how we put people into boxes, giving credit to small creators, listener stories, and more!👀 Join our community of confused pussies💦🌵  Intro 00:00:00 -00:02:04 What’s got us s0 wet and s0 dry this week 00:02:04 - 00:10:02 Introducing Tiktok aesthetics  00:10:02 - 00:12:58 Have we identified with these aesthetics? 00:12:58 - 00:20:31  The sad girl aesthetic 00:20:31 - 00:25:26 The mob wife aesthetic 00:25:26 - 00:29:44 The clean girl aesthetic 00:29:44 - 00:34:34 Is Gen-Z having an extra hard time with identity than other generations because of micro trends? 00:34:34 - 00:41:13 Why is Gen-Z obsessed with micro-trends? 00:41:13 - 00:54:55 With so many trends at our fingertips: is it that bad?00:54:55 - 01:16:26 The marketing behind TikTok trends 01:16:26 - 01:39:27 Who is driving trends? 01:39:27 - 01:45:59 The environmental impact of overconsumption 01:45:59 - 01:55:05 What’s got us wet, dry, and still confused about tiktok micro trends and Gen-z lack of personal identity 01:55:05 - 02:12:45 Sources: https://www.strikemagazines.com/blog-2-1/the-art-of-the-aesthetic-a-rundown-of-gen-zs-favorite-tiktok-aesthetics https://www.dictionary.com/e/gen-z-fashion-aesthetics-terms/ https://www.watchusrise.com/why-the-sad-girl-aesthetic-only-deepens-teen-depression#:~:text=Similarly%20targeted%20towards%20teen%20girls,the%20photos%20to%20the%20captions. https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTLwomoAs/  https://www.instyle.com/clean-girl-aesthetic-fashion-trend-5496498  https://adage.com/article/opinion/gen-z-and-aesthetic-trends-how-brands-can-benefit-generations-desire-connection/2542261 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R-F9rFPtjIg https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kJiLzl-oWz0 https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTLwvP4HQ/  https://earth.org/fast-fashions-detrimental-effect-on-the-environment/ https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTLwpmNms/  https://thelion.sites.lmu.edu/culture-arts-entertainment/tiktok-and-microtrends-the-road-to-overconsumption/ follow us on instagram, twitter, youtube, and tiktok @s0wets0dry the s0 wet s0 dry team:  Autumn (host, editor)  instagram: @autumnkaira  twitter: @autumnkaira  tiktok: @autumnkaira  Fiji (host, editor)  instagram: @s0wet  twitter: @s0wet  tiktok: @fijithesiren  youtube: @s0wet  Mylao (Graphic Designer, and Artist) instagram: @xlaomedia  email: [email protected]  A.I.R. (Music Producer)  instagram: @airgoincrazy --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/s0wets0dry/support

Fiji and Autumn check in this week with going out, operation get my life together, people moving slow, and a dry sex drive. Next, we dive into this week’s topic: domming! Thank you to David Teitelbaum of Rose in Good Faith and Laurel Bath House for coming on the show! Follow @david_rigf @roseingoodfaith @laurelbathhouse We interviewed David to learn about his experiences as a trained dom and we’re answering the big questions: Why do people become doms? How do you become a dom? How does BDSM connect to trauma? And are subs really lazy? We’re talking: Obedient subs vs bratty subs, why people become doms, the personality traits of doms, common misconceptions about doms, BDSM and histories of SA or abuse, healing from sexual trauma with a dom, lack of trust in your sex life, rewiring sexual trauma, crying after orgasms, 50 Shades of Grey, the importance of communication in dom/ sub relationships, why “I don’t know” is the scariest place to be, uncomfortable pre-sex conversations, what to call your dom, spicy dom acts, roleplay, leaning in and playing the part, the importance of aftercare and before care, gender dynamics in domming and men’s hidden hostility toward’s women, the difference between porn and in-person BDSM, navigating sex parties with your partner, ethical non-monagamy, listener stories, and more!👀 Join our community of confused pussies💦🌵  Intro 00:00:00 -  00:01:53 What’s got us s0 wet and s0 dry this week 00:01:53 - 00:06:33 What is a Dom: What are their roles in a bdsm space and what are their personality traits? 00:06:33 - 00:10:33 How common is dom/sub sex? And our Dom/sub experiences 00:10:33 - 00:14:18 Are subs lazy? 00:14:18 - 00:18:17 Why do people become doms and dommes? 00:18:17 - 00:43:27  What goes on during dom training? 00:43:27 - 00:47:30 How can dom/sub relationships be healing? 00:47:30 - 00:57:16 David’s 4 rules of domming and the importance of communication 00:57:16 - 01:11:23 Gender dynamics in domming and men’s hidden hostility toward’s women/ Why bdsm is an escape from everyday stressors for many people 01:11:23 - 01:29:11 Types of doms and dom acts 01:29:11 - 01:36:13 All about sex parties and navigating them with a partner 01:36:13 - 01:53:42 The importance of checking in when domming 01:53:42 - 01:59:55 What’s got us wet, dry, and still confused about domming (wrap up) 01:59:55 - 02:09:01 Sources: https://www.regain.us/advice/general/what-does-being-a-dom-mean-in-bdsm/ https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZPRKMdf9w/  https://kinkyevents.co.uk/how-to-be-a-dom-a-complete-guide/ https://www.vice.com/en/article/avae8z/what-its-like-being-a-professional-male-dom-for-women https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/dom-and-sub-relationships https://badgirlsbible.com/types-of-doms follow us on instagram, twitter, youtube, and tiktok @s0wets0dry the s0 wet s0 dry team:  Autumn (host, editor)  instagram: @autumnkaira  twitter: @autumnkaira  tiktok: @autumnkaira  Fiji (host, editor)  instagram: @s0wet  twitter: @s0wet  tiktok: @fijithesiren  youtube: @s0wet  Mylao (Graphic Designer, and Artist) instagram: @xlaomedia  email: [email protected]  A.I.R. (Music Producer)  instagram: @airgoincrazy --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/s0wets0dry/support

Fiji and Autumn check in this week with bleach blonde bad built butch body, Jenn McAllister, Diddy and Cassie, and new music from delusional crushes. Next, we dive into this week’s topic: the infamous anti-celibacy Bumble marketing campaign and the shady business and marketing of dating apps. Was Bumble ever really a feminist dating app? What was Bumble thinking with their rebrand? Why are dating apps in their flop era? Should we all delete the apps and get outside? We’re talking: the history of matchmaking and dating apps, the current financial state of dating apps, Bumble’s infamous anti-celibacy campaign, Whitney Wolfe Herd, Bumble lore, the gender disparities on dating apps, shady marketing tactics, influencer ethics when working with brands, a Russian billionaire, dating apps pricing structures, how dating apps addict users, lawsuits, where to actually meet a decent date, listener stories, and more!👀 Join our community of confused pussies💦🌵  Sources: https://atlantamatchmakers.com/blog/history-of-matchmaking/#:~:text=Historically%2C%20in%20many%20cultures%20parents,marry%20was%20by%20arranged%20marriage https://sundial.csun.edu/168529/arts-entertainment/the-evolution-of-online-dating/  https://www.reuters.com/markets/companies/MTCH.O/#:~:text=Match%20Group%2C%20Inc.%2C%20through,users%20to%20find%20a%20connection https://www.nytimes.com/2024/05/14/style/bumble-celibacy-ad-apology.htmlhttps://www.nytimes.com/2024/05/14/style/bumble-celibacy-ad-apology.html https://fortune.com/2024/05/16/gen-z-millennialls-shun-dating-apps-tinder-bumble-hinge/?_ptid=%7Bkpdx%7DAAAA4afIpbnzgQoKY2ZRajJmTTN6ahIQbHdjdXlva3Rkamdtd3A4NxoMRVg1M0lEU01IUVNQIiUxODA1Z2Q4MGNrLTAwMDAzM3NlZXEwaTVmdWdiMWxwOG1laGNvKhhzaG93T2ZmZXJJQVVLTFpCQ1owSkw1NTEwAToMT1QyRlpaREE0T1pMQg1PVFY0MTQ2NzM4QTJQUhJ2LYIA8Dt4a251NDl6YzlaITI2MDE6YzE6MDo0MmYwOmU1Y2I6NGZlNTphMzc6YzFhMWIDZG1jaKLOqrIGcCh4DIIBDE9GMDQ2SFFYUTdWTg  https://fortune.com/2024/05/17/bumble-celibacy-ad-rebrand-dating-app-women/  https://www.forbes.com/sites/angelauyeung/2019/07/08/exclusive-investigation-sex-drugs-misogyny-and-sleaze-at-the-hq-of-bumbles-owner/?sh=31ce1bf5630https://www.thecut.com/2023/02/what-bumble-a-k-a-feminist-tinder-promised.htmlhttps://www.nimbleappgenie.com/blogs/dating-app-statisticshttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8jJMrq74BLw  https://www.forbes.com/sites/angelauyeung/2019/07/08/exclusive-investigation-sex-drugs-misogyny-and-sleaze-at-the-hq-of-bumbles-owner/?sh=31ce1bf56308  https://slate.com/technology/2024/05/bumble-ai-dating-app-whitney-wolfe-herd.html  https://fortune.com/2024/04/07/return-to-office-romance-dating-apps-gen-z/?utm_source=search&utm_medium=advanced_search&utm_campaign=search_link_click https://mashable.com/review/bumble-premium-review  https://www.cbsnews.com/news/tinder-and-hinge-dating-apps-match-group-lawsuit/  follow us on instagram, twitter, youtube, and tiktok @s0wets0dry the s0 wet s0 dry team:  Autumn (host, editor)  instagram: @autumnkaira  twitter: @autumnkaira  tiktok: @autumnkaira  Fiji (host, editor)  instagram: @s0wet  twitter: @s0wet  tiktok: @fijithesiren  youtube: @s0wet  Mylao (Graphic Designer, and Artist) instagram: @xlaomedia  email: [email protected]  A.I.R. (Music Producer)  instagram: @airgoincrazy --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/s0wets0dry/support

Fiji and Autumn check in this week with support for college protests, new books, Baby Reindeer developments, and texting my ex. Next, we dive into this week’s topic: men have feelings but do we REALLY care? Do women really want men to open up? Why do men feel like they need to hide their feelings to be strong? Do women use men’s vulnerability against them? Do men have healthy coping mechanisms? Why is this a women’s issue too? We’re talking: Men’s mental health, women glorifying men’s pain, women silencing men’s feelings with tears, bell hooks, the myth of protection, the disconnect, how to receive it when men are opening up, why women think men don’t give a fuck, how the patriarchy hurts boys, the pressure men feel to protect women, why are we triggered by men being vulnerable, men romanticizing their struggle and pain, why we lie to men, toxic masculinity vs heroic masculinity, what we can learn from each other, how to deepen intimacy, listener stories, and more!👀 Join our community of confused pussies💦🌵  Intro 00:00:00 - 00:02:36 What’s got us s0 wet and s0 dry this week 00:02:36 - 00:09:17 Glorifying men’s pain and women’s neglect for men’s emotions 00:09:17 - 00:14:07 Women are afraid of men’s feelings: why don’t we want to hear them be vulnerable? 00:14:07 - 00:18:22 Do women really want men to be vulnerable? 00:18:22 - 00:21:36 Do women give space for men to open up? 00:21:36 - 00:30:04 Men have feelings: the patriarchy and the research 00:30:04 - 00:38:24 Why men feel like they need to hide their feelings be strong? 00:38:24 - 00:42:20 The pressure men feel to protect women 00:42:20 - 00:47:42 Women using men’s vulnerability against them 00:47:42 - 01:02:38 Men romanticizing their struggle and pain 01:02:38 - 01:07:14 How do women reinforce patriarchy? And what is “good” masculinity? 01:07:14 - 01:22:10 How to improve intimate relationships dynamics between men and women 01:22:10 - 01:26:38 How to get men to open up and speak in his language 01:26:38 -  01:38:49 What can men and women learn from each other? 01:38:49 - 01:48:10 Wrap Up: What’s got us wet, dry, and confused about the topic 01:48:10 - 02:00:04 Sources: https://www.tiktok.com/@conradmichaelca75/video/7218640420589391150?_r=1&_t=8mBeQXnfTha  https://www.tiktok.com/@davarius2x/video/7270579912791248174?_r=1&_t=8mBcKDZ4WgF  https://www.amazon.com/Will-Change-Men-Masculinity-Love/dp/0743456084  https://www.amazon.com/Through-Closing-Intimacy-Between-Women/dp/0684868784  https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTLXoGvJb/ https://www.lyrahealth.com/blog/real-men-have-feelings/  https://briannox.com/men-have-a-hard-time-opening-up-emotionally-until-you-do-this/  https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fear-intimacy/202201/why-men-get-uncomfortable-when-women-get-emotional https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTLXCWrrF/ https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTLXEqem6/ https://www.tiktok.com/@officialawakeningworld/video/7093176509430582555?_r=1&_t=8mAH1Zeo3Bb  https://www.reddit.com/r/AskFeminists/comments/kj3ihy/can_women_promote_toxic_masculinity/?rdt=57491  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4maNSmRPGEE follow us on instagram, twitter, youtube, and tiktok @s0wets0dry the s0 wet s0 dry team:  Autumn (host, editor)  instagram: @autumnkaira  twitter: @autumnkaira  tiktok: @autumnkaira  Fiji (host, editor)  instagram: @s0wet  twitter: @s0wet  tiktok: @fijithesiren  youtube: @s0wet  Mylao (Graphic Designer, and Artist) instagram: @xlaomedia  email: [email protected]  A.I.R. (Music Producer)  instagram: @airgoincrazy --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/s0wets0dry/support

Fiji and Autumn check in this week with NDAs, my birthday, being broke, and getting sick from stress. Next, we dive into this week’s topic: comphet TikTok discourse. Are you really bi or just comphet? Why do women yearn for a woman while dating a man? How common is comphet? Who experiences comphet? What are the causes of compulsory heterosexuality? Is comphet over-exaggerated? We’re talking: The Lesbian Master Doc, Hayley Kiyoko, queer culture on Tumblr, coming out, growing up queer, Blue is the Warmest Color, discovering lesbian love, Carol, Good Luck Babe by Chappell Roan and the TikTok discourse, the categories of bisexuals, cis heterosexual men not understanding your experience, lacking a queer community, and losing your queer identity when you’re dating a man, listener stories, and more!👀 Join our community of confused pussies💦🌵  Intro 00:00:00 - 00:02:24 What’s got us s0 wet and s0 dry this week 00:02:24 - 00:08:13 What is comphet? 00:08:13 - 00:12:22 The Lesbian Master Doc & Queer Culture on Tumblr 00:12:22 - 00:19:44  How common is comphet and what are the causes of compulsory heterosexuality 00:19:44 - 00:25:05 Good Luck Babe by Chappelle Roan and the TikTok discourse 00:25:05 - 00:33:05 Comphet bisexual experiences on Reddit: am I actually attracted to men or just lesbian? 00:33:05 - 00:37:56 Are we attracted to men or do we just desire men to be attracted to us 00:37:56 - 00:42:44 Will bi girls who end up with men always yearn for women? 00:42:44 - 00:45:43 The categories of bisexuals 00:45:43 - 00:48:16 Cis heterosexual men don’t understand your experience 00:48:16 - 01:05:13 Why do women yearn for a woman while dating a man? 01:05:13 - 01:09:29 Lacking a queer community and feeling your queer identity when you’re dating a man 01:09:29 - 01:16:36  Who experiences comphet? 01:16:36 - 01:26:21 Is comphet over exaggerated? 01:26:21 - 01:36:29 What’s got us wet, dry, and still confused about comphet 01:36:29 - 01:52:24 Sources: https://www.choosingtherapy.com/comphet/ https://affirmativecouch.com/deconstructing-compulsory-heterosexuality-in-psychotherapy/ https://www.ourstreetsnow.org/post/compulsory-heterosexuality-made-me-think-i-was-straight-until-i-was-21 https://www.docdroid.net/N46Ea3o/copy-of-am-i-a-lesbian-masterdoc-pdf#page=30 https://coldantlerfarm.substack.com/p/late-bloomer-lets-talk-about-comphet https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTL9jSoTV/ https://www.capitalfm.com/news/music/chappell-roan-good-luck-babe-lyrics-meaning/ https://www.reddit.com/r/comphet/comments/l9uurc/comphet_for_bisexuals/ https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTLXq7qqV/ https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTL9jMbQ8/  https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTL9GyHYL/  https://www.tiktok.com/@jordan.rand/video/7292788502444379425?_r=1&_t=8mAXRAn0vPe https://www.reddit.com/r/Actuallylesbian/comments/1609ojr/i_feel_like_comphet_is_over_exaggerated/ https://www.reddit.com/r/Actuallylesbian/comments/10o8ovi/this_comphet_and_unattainable_men_thing_has/  follow us on instagram, twitter, youtube, and tiktok @s0wets0dry the s0 wet s0 dry team:  Autumn (host, editor)  instagram: @autumnkaira  twitter: @autumnkaira  tiktok: @autumnkaira  Fiji (host, editor)  instagram: @s0wet  twitter: @s0wet  tiktok: @fijithesiren  youtube: @s0wet  Mylao (Graphic Designer, and Artist) instagram: @xlaomedia  email: [email protected]  A.I.R. (Music Producer)  instagram: @airgoincrazy --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/s0wets0dry/support