Vetting is the process of deciding whether someone is a good fit before you trust them as a rope partner. It might sound simple, but in practice there’s a lot to consider - your context, your risk tolerance, and what information actually matters. In this episode, Fox and Mya explore how vetting can shift over time, the different types of risk you might weigh, and how to approach references with a critical lens. They discuss what information can be useful, the role of asking intentional questions, and how instinct and bias can both shape your decisions. They also cover common red flags, why self-awareness is key to vetting others effectively, and share their own personal approaches to the process.

With an infectious delight in what she calls “macramé with humans,” Mystrix brings a thoughtful, creative approach to minimalistic western rope. In this conversation, she shares how her style focuses on adapting rope to the individual - prioritizing intention, efficiency, and connection over complexity. We talk about her journey into rope, what continues to fuel her passion, and how her perspective has evolved over time. The discussion explores tying diverse bodies, navigating the scene as a fat femme rigger, and the importance of understanding physics - especially when working with larger or squishier bodies. The episode also covers the differences between shibari and minimalistic western rope, separating rope from other kink dynamics, and the practical and creative choices that shape her practice; from rope materials like POSH to incorporating scent and sensory elements. Mystrix frames rope as playful problem-solving: a balance of fundamentals, curiosity, and continuous refinement. Her focus is on creating experiences where bottoms feel strong, supported, and fully seen - while emphasizing that rope should always adapt to the person, not the other way around.

What happens when precision meets tension? In this episode, Mya and Fox dive into the edge where rope and sharps intersect - an intense, deliberate form of play that demands skill, trust, and control. - What counts as sharps play - Real risks (and why they're often misunderstood) - When the top may be at greater risk than the bottom - Why people are drawn to sharps—on both sides of the dynamic - Tie styles that pair well with sharps - Roleplay dynamics that elevate the experience - Staying organised and in control - Incorporating sharps into suspensions - How sharps interact with (and can damage) rope This is one of the less talked-about combinations - and there's a reason it requires experience and intention.

What does it really mean to step into a Japanese rope bar - and how do you do it without getting it wrong? In this episode, Mya and Fox speak with Nuit de Tokyo, whose engagement with Japanese rope spans more than three decades. His learning has come through formal training, deep cultural immersion, and proximity to source: watching over a thousand SM performances, performing publicly, and absorbing the unspoken knowledge that circulates in bars, backstage spaces, and long-standing communities. This is a conversation about time, continuity, and lineage - and what Western practitioners often miss. We explore: • Nuit de Tokyo’s journey from Paris to Tokyo via martial arts • Discovering SM and rope in the pre-internet era, through rare publications and bondage books • Key differences between European and Japanese rope scenes • What a Japanese rope bar actually is, and why bar culture matters in Tokyo • How rope bars work, event etiquette, and how to attend respectfully • The biggest cultural missteps Westerners make - and how to avoid them • How poetry, Confucian social structures, morality, and Japanese banquet culture inform modern shibari • Dispelling the persistent myth that shibari originates from Hojojutsu Insightful, grounded, and essential listening for anyone curious about rope culture beyond the surface. Nuit de Tokyo first traveled to Japan in 1989 and began collecting kinbaku books the following year, an archive that has since grown into the thousands. By the early 2000s, during a second extended stay, his Japanese language skills allowed him to move beyond observation and into lived experience within the Tokyo SM scene, where studio time, late nights, and long conversations became part of his education. His training is rooted in long-term study rather than brief encounters. A formative lesson with Akechi Kanna in 2005 marked a turning point, and when Kanna came out of retirement in 2010, NdT undertook several years of structured training across the full cursus under him. In parallel, he studied continuously for nine years with Yukimura Haruki, an extended apprenticeship that profoundly shaped his technical approach and his understanding of lineage, transmission, and responsibility within rope.

This week, Fox and Mya explore a role in rope bondage that doesn’t get nearly enough attention: the rope assistant. Neither top nor bottom, but an active and intentional part of the scene—this dynamic opens up new possibilities for connection, support, and creativity. Fox and Mya break down: • What the role actually involves (and common misconceptions) • Ways a rope assistant can contribute to a scene • How power, service, and intention can show up in this dynamic • Who might enjoy this role and why • Tips to make the experience fulfilling for everyone involved • Handling the added complexity of multi-person scenes • Risks to be aware of when introducing a third person • Personal examples of how this dynamic has worked in practice A practical, thoughtful look at expanding rope dynamics and creating more connected, collaborative scenes.

From squeaky ducky paddles to exquisite rope art Muffy's creative journey is anything but ordinary. The owner of UK BDSM brand Against-TheGrain, Muffy is an intermediate rope switch who's turned shibari into something playful, painful, and unexpectedly meditative: colouring books for rope lovers. Created in collaboration with 7 artists across the UK, USA, and Australia, these books transform real riggers and rope bottoms into expressive, erotic art meant to be felt, not followed. In this episode, Mya and Fox dig into: - Turning rope into interactive art - Capturing erotic anguish on the page - The challenges of building a global creative collaboration - Why these images are about interpretation, not instruction - What colouring adds to the shibari experience - And the hosts delight at seeing their own rope images brought to life

When does a tie become suspension-worthy? Is it a binary "Yes/No," or is there a grey area where physics and risk collide? This week, we’re answering a brilliant listener question from @TangledNTwisted: “What actually makes a tie suspension-worthy?” Fox and Mya break down the "Suspendability Spectrum," moving away from rigid rules and moving toward a framework of Data, Mechanics, and Risk Management. What We’re Breaking Down: - The Risk Profile: How to evaluate the "cost of failure" before the feet leave the floor. - The Mechanics of Injury: Identifying the specific anatomical stressors (nerves, circulation, and soft tissue) that change when gravity enters the chat. - Surface Area & Distribution: The physics of why "more rope" isn't always the simple answer. - The "Bottom’s Tax": How much are we actually asking of the person in the ropes? - Science-ing It: How to gather data through incremental testing and low-air experimentation. The Takeaway: Suspendability isn't a checkbox; it’s a conversation between the rigger, the bottom, and the laws of physics. We’re here to help you move from "I think this is safe" to "I have the data to know why this works."

Mya is stepping out of the studio and into the heart of the action. This week, we’re bringing you a special field report from “She Ties”, an event dedicated exclusively to female riggers and male bottoms. Since Fox (male rigger) and Mya (female bottom) can’t speak to this dynamic from personal experience, we’re passing the mic to the community. Featuring atmospheric audio recorded on-site, we hear from a global roster of voices—hailing from Thailand and Taiwan to the UK and Russia. What’s inside: - The Nuance: Why individual connection always trumps the binary. - The Physicality: Practical tips for navigating different body types and mechanics. - The Social Shift: Breaking down the "big spoon/little spoon" stigma in the rope scene. The Interview Guest List: - Riggers: HuaHua, Yada Kinabalu, Noir_fix, May, Sasha - Bottoms: Pang, Co, Ratta - Spectators: Gorgone and Sawyer A quick note: The audio is live and "in the wild"—forgive the background noise, but enjoy the energy!

The Agura tie shows up again and again in shibari - but what makes it so enduring, and how can you work with it more intentionally? In this Rope Focus episode, Fox and Mya break the Agura tie down piece by piece: how it’s built, how it feels, and how small choices in structure, orientation, and intent can dramatically change the experience. They dive into: • What the Agura position actually is - including easier and more demanding variations (and what Fox affectionately calls the leg pretzel) • Different ways to construct the tie, and how those choices affect comfort and control • More sustainable versus less sustainable versions, and when each might make sense • How to increase the strength of the tie to reduce deformation and slippage • Mya’s perspective on what it feels like to be in Agura, and what she enjoys about it as a bottom • Practical tips for helping bottoms relax into the position, and bottoming skills that support the tie • How Agura feels in different orientations, on the floor and in suspension • The five distinct suspension orientations and what each one brings • The overall vibe of the position, physically and psychologically • How Fox enforces the position, and what that adds to the dynamic • Managing safety, risk, and responsibility in this classic tie Whether you’re meeting Agura for the first time or refining a tie you already love, this episode offers both technical insight and experiential depth.

Matija Vid Pecek Black (she/he/they, aka Nikki Lapore) has been exploring shibari for nearly a decade-but this isn’t just about knots. For Nikki, rope is a way to connect with energy, nature, and the soul itself. Think flowers, forests, and the freedom of tying yourself as a ritual of release and self-discovery. In this episode, Mya and Fox dive into Nikki’s unique world, covering: • How rope becomes self-expression and boosts confidence • The art and ritual of self-tying • Connecting with nature through rope • Their creative rope process—from choosing the perfect organic rope to dying it with natural pigments (yes, including bones—gloves required!) • What makes rope art—and whether it even needs an audience • Rope’s place in their life, work, and Croatian culture • And their vision for future druidic-goth-art adventures Plus, hear Mya’s mind completely blown when she realizes she totally misunderstood one of Nikki’s offerings.