BDE has been a big buzzword in Hollywood and in the media for a while now and we decided it was time to take a closer look at it.In today's episode, we discuss what BDE stands for and why people say it matters.  And of course, in typical life-coaching style, we challenge it.  We ask the questions that matter and see if we can get to an understanding that actually makes a difference in our marriage.Listen in as we explore three main questions that will help us stay more focused on Big "Discovery" Energy instead of the media's version of BDE.   This new take on it can really help our genuine love, concern, and wonder, for both ourselves and our spouse, take us to new heights.  

Have your ever felt like your marriage was slowly fading away?  Maybe you have noticed that it's starting to erode a little more with each passing year.   Our current marriage relationship can often be put into one of two categories: a relationship that withers or a relationship that blooms.  Each of these is based on something different and unique and will have an effect on our marriage.  Do you know which one your marriage falls into?Listen in as we take a deeper dive into the roots and outcomes of both a reactive and a proactive marriage, why agency and self advocacy can surprisingly help ignite arousal, and how our action will be be the evidence of which one we live from.   Now is the time to draw upon our higher and more mature thinking skills and live a life in high bloom.     

Has it ever felt like your marriage was slowly disintegrating over time?  Maybe some of the fun and exciting elements that used to be there in the beginning of your relationship feel like they are slowly starting to drift away.Most people have felt this from time to time, but we don't have to continue on that path which will eventually lead to a marriage that is broken all together.  Instead, we can course correct and use the higher thinking abilities of adult humans.Listen in as we discuss the two main types of marriages categories that are being offered to us, the negative traps that are being promoted in today's world and how to avoid them.  Having a higher awareness of them is half of the battle, and the other half has to do with our choices and thought work.

We all know the situation.  Hubby is in the mood and the wifey is not.  This scenario happens all... the... time.  We are all familiar with the excuses of why women are not in the mood.We're too tired, it's just another chore, or we are just not that interested in sex.  In today's episode, we explore some of the top reasons we get as life coaches for why women don't want to be intimate with the love of their life.Listen is as we take a closer look at these reasons and explore what we can do about them.  We will challenge our negative mindsets to shift over to a more mature marriage mindset, and one that will actually benefit both ourselves and our marriage.

Have you ever felt like being social was just a bit more than you wanted to handle?  Have you ever felt like it can cause a bit of anxiety or uneasiness?  If so, you are not alone.  But if left to our own devices, we could easily end up more isolated and feeling blue.Humans are made for interaction.  We are meant to be social.  And when we leave this component out of our lives, we can fall into the concept of "failure to thrive."  But what does this mean for married couples, even if husband and wife are opposites when it comes to being social?Listen in as we discuss some helpful questions to ask yourselves, as well as a few group date ideas to consider, to help you level up your the dating goals.  We will list off some of the benefits that you can receive as a couple by making your social life a consistent part of a well-balanced life.  Even discussing and planning a double date can bring you so much closer!

Have you ever considered that doing things your own way could be a source of generating sexiness?  When we are able to be our beautiful unique selves, we shine a little brighter and show up in life with more vitality.But when we think we are obligated to meet the expectations that others have for us, even our in-laws or extended family members, we can show up feeling inauthentic, heavy, and very held back.  This can bring some added stress and tension to the marriage relationship and can make holiday events intense and chaotic.  So what are we to do?   Listen in on today's episode where we dive into the concept of embracing our uniqueness and creativity.  And when we do this with our spouse by using some of the tips we discuss, we can create those loving feelings that naturally lead to a deeper sense of connection and greater intimacy.

Has it ever seemed like your spouse could find all of the wonderful reasons to be intimate when you seem to struggle finding even one?  Do you ever feel like you are on opposite sides of the intimacy equation?If so, you are not alone.  In this episode, we start off a little bit differently with an exercise of imagining a very specific scenario in our mind... where we cast a spell on our spouse to create the most ideal sexual experience that we could ever imagine.  As we go through the details of our day once this imaginary spell is cast, we get to notice how it took effect as things start to play out differently.The insight we gain by doing this can be very empowering.  When we are able to uncover and unlock the components that matter the most to us and that contribute to our emotional desire to be intimate, we will be clear on what we can put back into the experience.  Listen in on this process to start creating a more wholistic  experience of intimacy.

Have you ever felt like the sexual component of your marriage is the one that seems the most difficult?  Back in the day, when we were dating people and imagining what marriage would be like, we probably imagined a romantic love life that came about easily as a result of the deep and enduring love that conquers all things.And then we got married, jumped into the world of sexual intimacy, and then wondered why it  somehow got complicated and frustrating.  This is a situation that happens all the time and is very normal to experience.  But what do we actually do about it?Listen in on today's episode where we will dive into why intimacy is difficult, challenging the concept that it's supposed to be "easy," and a few simple ways to start thinking about it differently.  Pay attention to how the concept of time is involved as we point out the impact it has on intimacy. 

Does intimacy always come easy or does it sometimes feel like you have to weather the storm?  While there are many beautiful and wonderful elements to intimacy in a marriage, there are also many traps that we can fall into.  These traps almost always show up in the way that we think about intimacy.Often, when I start working with a client and we begin the process of challegning their thinking about intimacy, the emotional floodgates open.  They can experience a wide variety of emotions, like regret when they think "I wish I had known some of this sooner" or even hope when they think "I can see how these thoughts make a big difference."When take on the challenge of diving into the difficulties that come with intimacy using a life coaching approach, we start to gain the skills that allow us to navigate the other storms in our lives as well.  Listen in on today's episode where we explore individual sexual responsibility, increasing confidence in both yourself and your spouse, and letting go of false expectations of how the sexual experience "should be" for your spouse. 

When our husband is always wanting to be intimate with us, we probably have a lot of thoughts about that.  And when our husband suddenly doesn't want to have sex with us, we are probably going to have a lot of thoughts about that, too.Unfortunately, the thoughts that seem to get our attention are probably not very good ones.  In fact, they are often thoughts that lead us to make the assumption that they are having an affair.  And if we find ourselves going down that rabbit hole, we are probably feeling some negative feelings about them, about ourselves, and about our marriage.But in today's episode, we are going to take a look at all of the possible reasons your husband's desire may have taken a turn, most of which have nothing to do with us on a personal level.  It will be important to consider all possibilities with a genuine desire to discover what is really going on for them, and then add an extra dose of compassion on top.  Doing so may be the exact ingredients that are needed to keep things from getting worse.