Description:As children, we develop “attachment styles” as a result of the parenting we receive, and we carry these habits into our adult relationships. In this episode, listeners learn about the four main attachment styles, how they often come about in child-parent relationships, and how developing a consciousness of these patterns can help us choose and develop healthy relationships as adults. Podcast hosts Susan Beaulieu, Briana Matrious, and Linsey McMurrin discuss how in Native American communities attachment styles and parenting are mixed up with the intergenerational inheritance of trauma from the boarding school era and other violence wrought by colonization. Leading by example with their own personal reflections, the hosts begin charting a path towards disrupting unhealthy relationship patterns and remembering the resilience passed down through generations who have survived and kept the wisdom and values of their communities alive.  Survey: Please take our survey! Now that you’ve listened to us, we want to hear from you. Tell us what you think in a brief survey by going to https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/podcastRR.  Show Notes:In this episode the hosts reference the following resources: -         The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture by Dr. Gabor Maté -         Dr. Gabor Maté’s website with resources -         Diane Poole Heller's website-         Trauma Solutions Attachment Quiz-         Healing Your Attachment Wounds bookMusicians:You can find more from the musicians who contributed to this episode here: -         Wade Fernandez – https://wadefernandezmusic.com/-         Corey Medina (Corey Medina & Brothers Band) – http://coreymedina.com/index.htmlContent warning: The Remembering Resilience podcast episodes include content that may bring up a strong emotional response. Please do what you need to take care of yourself while you listen, and perhaps think of someone you could call for emotional support if necessary. If you or a loved one is having thoughts of suicide, there are resources to help. If you're in Minnesota, you can connect with the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline by calling or texting 9-8-8 or using the Online Chat feature. Otherwise, you can call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-8255. Both resources are available 24/7 to offer support.  Thank you:Miigwech - Pidamayaye - Thank you. We are grateful to our many partners who made this podcast possible. This podcast was developed through a Health POWER project at Minnesota Communities Caring for Children & FamilyWise Services, with support from the Center for Prevention at BlueCross and BlueShield of Minnesota & the University of Minnesota Extension. Kalen Keir did the sound design for this season, and Sadie Luetmer provided additional producing. 

Season Description:In Season 3, Remembering Resilience podcast hosts Susan Beaulieu, Briana Matrious and Linsey McMurrin continue to explore stories of collective and individual healing, and how our communities can continue their journeys of “Remembering Resilience.” New host Deanna Drift joins this season with co-host Mickey Foley to reflect on food sovereignty as resilience, and invites community leaders in food sovereignty to share their knowledge. This podcast explores NEAR Science, Historical Trauma, and ways Indigenous communities and individuals in Minnesota are creating and Remembering Resilience. Survey: Please take our survey! Now that you’ve listened to us, we want to hear from you. Tell us what you think in a brief survey by going to https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/podcastRR.   Content warning: The Remembering Resilience podcast episodes include content that may bring up a strong emotional response. Please do what you need to take care of yourself while you listen, and perhaps think of someone you could call for emotional support if necessary. If you or a loved one are having thoughts of suicide, there are resources to help. If you're in Minnesota, you can connect with the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline by calling or texting 9-8-8 or using the Online Chat feature. Otherwise, you can call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-8255. Both of these resources are available 24/7 to offer support.  Thank you:Miigwech - Pidamayaye - Thank you. We are grateful to our many partners who made this podcast possible. This podcast was developed through a Health POWER project at Minnesota Communities Caring for Children & FamilyWise Services, with support from the Center for Prevention at BlueCross and BlueShield of Minnesota & the University of Minnesota Extension. Kalen Keir did the sound design for this season, and Sadie Luetmer provided additional producing. 

Collective trauma requires collective healing. As co-host Briana Matrious so aptly puts it, “The most powerful healing that has happened in my life has been in community with one another.” We explore what that means for us as individuals—both personally and professionally – as we move through these current times together.

Listening and learning have emerged as a key component of connecting with community in an authentic way. Attachment and relationship remain the key components to feeling connected in our world, to feeling that we belong. In the context of both individual and collective healing, it brings us to the question, ‘How might we continue to connect in a good way to make these protective factors even more powerful?’

Through the lens of mainstream society, the idea of self-care can be off-putting. It is only when we slow down and see things through an alternate perspective, reminding ourselves that taking care of ourselves is where we can better care for others more effectively, that’s where we are reminded to extend grace to each other (and extend it to ourselves!) in a good way. When we can care for ourselves well, we can care for each other even better. This is the power of relationship and connection exemplified.

Let's get to the hardest stuff-- speaking on our own experiences around healing in a ceremonial and therapeutic setting. How can we integrate into mainstream these opportunities for therapeutic release and cross-generational healing that may not be as widely accepted? How might we invite all our relatives into the space where we understand self-care is not only a luxury but an essential?

Dr. Tafur continues to guide us as we explore the neurobiological response to stress and our natural responses as we realize how dysregulation can manifest as extreme dis-ease as we recognize how chronic stress and trauma can show up as disturbance in our lives. We must learn to accept and communicate that this isn’t only “in our head” rather a symptom of greater problems that must be addressed on multiple levels, should we want to heal fully.

We welcome world-renowned guest Dr. Joe Tafur as we continue to explore ways we as indigenous relatives can transcend the traumas our families and communities have endured, so we can connect to further explore opportunities to heal together. In this episode, we delve into our capacity for de-mystifying these complex topics in favor of a more holistic approach to this work as we explore what healing can mean for us an individuals, families and communities.

We continue our journey into learning from respected community members what it really means to remember our resilience. Linda EagleSpeaker helps us see how the mainstream society ideals of busyness as a mark of success contradicts our traditional values of relationship with ourselves, our children and our communities and helps us better conceptualize the ongoing dichotomy between western ways of knowing and traditional ways of healing. As Linda encourages us, sometimes it as simple as making the decision she so aptly describes: "I got up, and I learned how to breathe."

Now we pivot to individual stories from our community that give us a more personal window into the practice of remembering our resilience. We join honored community elder and leader Janice Bad Moccasin as she shares her story as she shares her experiences, from ceremonies in family homes to the healing work she has done on the frontlines of Standing Rock, asserting her place as a strong indigenous woman coming alongside community to address trauma and healing.