In this episode, Colter, Cayla, and Lauren break down how to shift your relationship from reactivity to rhythm by learning to create a positive cycle. You’ll hear the story of Andrea and Marcus—a couple stuck in familiar patterns—who begin transforming conflict through small, intentional changes like naming their stories and taking ownership instead of reacting. From practical tools like “the story I’m telling myself…” to the game-changing “help me help you help me” skill, this episode shows how simple awareness and repair can turn everyday tension into deeper connection.Main Talking Points: Awareness of triggers & old cycles Naming stories with curiosity Accountability vs. defensiveness Intentional “deposits” of connection Repair through validation & empathy “Help me help you help me” negotiationGive Me Discounts!NOCD.COM - If you're tired of unwanted thoughts affecting your relationships and other areas of your life, visit nocd.comAudible - Visit audible.com/janeaustin to get listen to this incredible reading rendition of Pride & PrejudiceSkylight - Visit skylightcal.com/IDO for $30 off your 15 inch calendar. Function - 160+ Lab Tests for $365. Learn more & get started at www.functionhealth.com/IDOAmazfit - Visit www.amazfit.com/IDO to get 10% offSpark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners!If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & LaurenLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices