In this episode of Relating to Self, I have a conversation with Mary Bajorek.Mary guides professionals through transition points in their careers towards feeling agentic, confident, and capable so that their work can become aligned with who they are and the impact they want to make in the world. You can follow her on Twitter/X.Topics mentioned in the episode: Relating to self and the importance of relationships with others Self-love and spending time with oneself Identity, autonomy, and connection Exploring and understanding different parts within oneself Emotions and the importance of acknowledging and understanding them Autonomy and making decisions for one's present self Building intimacy with oneself and accepting all parts The concept of 'nothing days' and indulging in leisure activities Prioritizing self-love and self-care, setting boundaries Authentic expression and exploring emotions Managing difficult emotions through writing and self-reflection Holding space for intense emotions in oneself and others The value of experiencing a range of emotions in life Nuanced understanding of emotions and connecting with the body Practices for improving the relationship with oneself If you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, I have a conversation with Elena LakeElena transitioned from a career in mathematics and physics to bodywork, massage therapy, and being a forest spirit.You can follow her on Twitter/X.Topics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode: The importance of self-trust and enjoying one's own company Growth in accurately witnessing oneself The process of unlearning The realization of unmet emotional needs Pursuing a more holistic life The power of a good question in self-discovery Elena's journey into the body and embodiment Bodywork and its benefits Learning and teaching through feeling The inner dialogue and its relation to bodywork Fulfilling the primal need for attachment through nature Relationship with nature and the forest If you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, I have a conversation with Bryan Kam.Bryan is a philosopher and writer, exploring the history of ideas, amongst other things. He has a podcast called Clerestory, works for the British Library, and is an InterIntellect Fellow. You can also follow him on Twitter/X. Topics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode: Relating to Self, the mundane, and identity The role of the observer and the inner voices Meditation and the concentration states called "Jhanas" The influence of meditation on Bryan's relating to self Noting practices The breaking down of the Ego "Faking it" and authenticity Improv, performance and responsiveness Communication as collaboration Aliveness and playful states The importance of compassion (for the self) What happens when you stub your toe The meaning of "spirituality" Compassionate practices What about free will? Changing perspectives Internal Family Systems and Bryan's Muse On inspiration and creation On coherence, multitudes, and cognitive dissonance The ability to tolerate high uncertainty Hume and the stable self The enjoyment of not knowing and the beginner's mindset If you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, I have a conversation with Richard D. Bartlett.Richard helps people grow high-trust communities & decentralized organizations.He's a co-founder of tech co-op Loomio, community building network Microsolidarity, non-hierarchical management consultancy The Hum, and director of the social impact collective Enspiral.Topics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode: Why Richard is suspicious of the Self Relating to Self as inner conversations with mischievous kids Coming to a more agentic state of mind Relating within a group Good company as a privilege, how to create it? Extending co-regulation into our identity How to be a good mammal Cultivating trust as a practice Making relationships themselves as the object of curiosity The meaning of "grace" The balance between our animal and human sides The illusion of free will Meeting people where they are Non-attachment to outcome and wonder Not pushing your reality onto other people Being famous for values that serve people What's difficult for Richard Optimism as a lens If you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, I have a conversation with Helena Roth.Helena Roth wrote the book Doing Gentle with an Edge and leads the project tankespjärn.You can read her thoughts on Twitter.Topics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode: what does Relating to Self mean to Helena? the sense of returning to Self healing by getting out of your own way what does that mean for trauma? the voices in our head who's in the driver's seat? dependent, independent, interdependent? how to find your tribe asking for what you need Helena's edge - tankespjärn a challenge a day makes for a good day the idea of cross-pollination the difficulty of relating to self around and with others If you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

This is a bonus episode that is not really about Relating to Self.My friend Bryan Kam and I have been experimenting with a new podcast format.An epistolary of sorts, in which we send each other voice notes.In this episode, we explore beauty, quality, and esthetic enjoyment.Sit back and relax while listening to Bryan and me exploring our thoughts on the subject.This bonus episode is the second epistolary we have published.You can find the first one on Bryan's podcast Clerestory:Joachim & Bryan on choice, desire, and purposeFollow Bryan's podcast Celerestory here.Or read more about his work on his website:https://bryankam.com

In this episode of Relating to Self, Mary Lemmer (S02E01) comes back to ask Joachim all the things she wants to know about how he relates to himself.Mary Lemmer brings joy to empowering people to improve themselves and the world around them. She believes that improvisation is a practice that can lead to a better relationship with yourself. Mary is the founder of Improve, a company that improves people’s lives by using techniques inspired by improv comedy and behavioral research. Topics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode: What does Relating to Self mean to Joachim? "Yes, and...". What is the "and" of Relating to Self? Relating to Self while out in the world, what is helpful? What we can and can't control How to act when triggered Is it possible to know too much about oneself? Compassion, compassion, compassion Contradictory desires and how to navigate them Relating to Self while in a family or partnerships Relationship role models and outward thinking The shifting of community and friendships Loneliness  And some fun rapid-fire questions 🔥 If you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, Joachim speaks with Meg Pagani who when relating to self sits with her Council of 12.Meg is an entrepreneur, speaker, and impact strategist. She writes and teaches about power, leadership, and the Way of NatureYou can find Meg and her work here: https://www.megpagani.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/margheritamegpagani/ https://www.instagram.com/meg_pagani/ Topics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode: Relating to self first The practice of pausing and choosing The practice of silence Checking where the energy is Previous and future versions of the self The Council of 12 The Way of the Forest The adult self vs the mature self Everything is a story and relates to the self All stories are wrong, some stories are useful Different interpretations of the same story Relating to the mundane The parts we hold in shame If you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, Joachim speaks with Ana Zarzosa for whom success in relating to self means getting comfortable with the crap too.Ana is a yoga teacher and a project manager for the biotech industry.You can find Ana and her work here: https://www.instagram.com/az.yoga https://www.linkedin.com/in/ana-zarzosa/ Ana's YouTube Yoga channel Topics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode: Relating to Self as permanent change, and not always up How to get out of negative or violent self-talk, out of necessity Discipline and commitments vs. flow Using fiction to examine difficult questions Dreaming as a practice for aliveness And much more! If you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter

In this episode of Relating to Self, Joachim speaks with Asmaa who relates to herself by slowing down and creating a supportive community.Asmaa Guedira is a Moroccon-born, French-adopted, queer digital nomad who works as a catalyst, facilitator, consultant, artist, writer, and designer.You can find Asmaa and her work here: http://www.asmaaguedira.com/ https://www.instagram.com/asgued https://www.linkedin.com/in/asmaaguedira https://twitter.com/asgued Topics, resources, and useful links mentioned in the episode: Community and Relating to Self Meditation and other ways into compassion the importance of awe Slowing down as a practice Asking for help Doing the work Building trust and confidence Art as a practice If you enjoyed this episode, consider sharing it with a friend and leaving a rating or review. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️Sign up for the Relating to Self newsletterFollow Joachim on Twitter