Lets be honest here.. We all have boarded the struggle bus at some point in life. Sometimes it even takes us awhile to hop off.  This week I didn't know what to talk about because I gave been on the struggle bus like it is my full time job.  Then I reminded myself that everyone is aloud to have an off day, or week, and goodness can still be shared through authentic off season.  Here is the deal, we can not make this messy place a comfy home here where we stay. Allow yourself to be there, and then bust through to keep moving forward. Remind yourself that worries and anxieties of the world do not just go away, and there will always be something in each season of life. You will have to learn the skill of over coming to keep going. If you can not control it, let it go! When you allow the worry to overcome you, and you have zero control over it, it then controls you. Step back, give yourself time to feel the emotions, but do not act out of the emotions. Act out of the truth you know and believe.  Take the time to talk yourself off the crazy struggle bus. Get back into the stride of working for the life and the YOU, you are working for!   

You can have it all! When you choose, set your sights, and put in the WORK!  No one just wakes up with their "dream" life. They have to work to create it. If God puts the desire in your soul, then He has given you the ability to achieve it. To DO IT. - The Balance How to keep your priorities straight on the journey 1- Make a list of your "non-negotiables"  These are the things that you WILL NOT give in on for any sized goal. Example: Faith, Family, Self worth. 2-  Now list out your "adjustable" These are the things the are important, but can be moved around to fit into the season of life your in. Example: Night out, gym, vacations.  3- The "fillers"  These are the things that do play any importance in your life, and are there just because. Example: Netflix, Social Media.  Making this list helps you keep your priorities at the top, while knowing where you can give (sacrifice) to be moving forward.    Find me on Instagram @Refined.to.shine Leave me your thoughts in the comments and reviews.  Thank you for sharing life with me, friend! 

I would say that the fear of others opinion is the number one reason why most of us do not do some things, agree?  I know there are SO many areas in my own life where I have held myself back for  not wanting to misunderstood by others.  One day I had this realization.. people will talk whether you do "it" or not.. SO why not do what you want? Let the nay sayers talk.. This still comes up from time to time BUT  now I have learned a few tricks to control it, in my own mindset, enough to overcome!  These are my 4 tricks we can use to fight the mindset, and set ourselves free to do and be!  1 - Believe in yourself!  2-Focus on the positive  3-Others words DO NOT define you 4-Know your reason why Find YOUR peace and happiness and then find your place and your people! 

This is the perfect topic for starting a New Year out fresh!  5 keys to KEEPING your MOTIVATION through out the whole course of your year, and working towards your goals of growth. Getting really excited in the moment is why you start, in today's chat, we are going to talk how to keep that energy!  What happens when the energy fades? This is one of the greatest areas of growth for me over the last year or so, and looking back now, I see these 5 things as the foundation of what I learned to overcome!  Save this for a rainy day, when you need a pep-talk. I will be your personal hype-girl ALWAYS!  I believe in you and ALL of things you set your mind to this year!  Lets connect! Find me on Instagram @efined.to.shine  Much love to you, friend!    

We are almost done with 2020! Most are saying worst year ever, I say it all depends on your perspective!  Lets talk about how to see ALL of the positive this year has brought you, and how to start this next year with BIG BOLD intentions!  Where you mind goes your energy flows! 

Todays episode is another piece of the communication puzzle. How true growth shows its self in the way we speak to, and treat, others.  We are talking about how to stand up for what you believe in, AND still communicate with confidence, grace, and love. Our emotions change with the rising sun, so we must learn to communicate out of our own integrity, versus our emotions.  I want to connect with you! Fine me at  Instagram and tell me how you can connect with this weeks episode.       

Today we are talking about raising your ceiling, setting the bar high,  and shooting for the stars.  There is always room to grow when you are constantly raising the ceiling. Don't get trapped in the limitations of your own mind. Today we are going to talk about the how. How do we set our bar high, and achieve it? 3 things that we can use from right where we are.  Our past - Our present - Our future We are here to grow, without expectations and boarders, into the best version of ourselves!  START NOW AND DON'T STOP UNTIL YOU GET THERE

Couple talk with Jordan and I(Alexcis) about love languages. Check at the bottom of the notes for the link to the book "The 5 Love Languages" by Gary Chapman and visit the site to take the quiz. Where we are always growing into the best version of ourselves without expectations or perfectionism.  How you can put another piece to the puzzle for a healthier, and more open, communication. Healthy communication creates freedom from misunderstandings, and misunderstandings is where a large part of disagreements/ disappointments stem from  Find the way you naturally accept love, and how your spouse needs you to show love!   Take the Quiz NOW Book by Gary Chapman

Being grateful and content with what you have, and how far you have come, gives you faith to keep going. ALWAYS be GRATEFUL never settle.  Are you the comfort zone type who finds it hard to push yourself towards growth? OR Are you the type reaching for more, that you sometimes forget to live in your present life? In today's episode we with talk about how to find your groove in working towards your goals with gratitude and contentment along the way. You may have the faith to fly, BUT gratitude keeps you grounded!  Lets connect through Insta @refined.to.shine  Tell me what this weeks episode means to you. 

Lets chat identity! This is one of my favorite topics to talk about!  There is SO much power in knowing who YOU are and living for that, not for a "type".  There is no such thing as "normal" or "average"  YOU get to be exactly who YOU are and that is ALWAYS enough! STOP chasing the image of who you want be, and start living in the person that YOU already are.  YOU know YOU better then anyone, and only YOU can choose where you go from here.  BE intentional   BE authentic  BE teachable