Perfectionism is often mistaken for "being perfect" or "doing something perfectly." Many people assume that it must be a good thing. But, in actuality, perfectionism holds us back. Perfectionism often creates pressure, which can paralyze us. So, instead of embracing it as a good thing and giving ourselves a pat on the back for doing something perfectly, we scold ourselves.   In this episode of The Recovery Junkies, Carlos, Chris and recurring guest Kieu Hatch discuss why perfectionism is a false narrative that holds us back from becoming real and authentic people.   The Frost Multidimensional Perfectionism Scale (FMPS) https://novopsych.com.au/assessments/formulation/frost-multidimensional-perfectionism-scale-fmps/   …………………………………………………………………… WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU! Send us questions at our email address: [email protected] …………………………………………………………………… FOLLOW US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: Twitter: @recoveryjunkies Facebook: @recoveryjunkies Instagram: @therecoveryjunkies …………………………………………………………………… WEBSITE: www.therecoveryjunkies.com …………………………………………………………………… STORE: https://www.bonfire.com/store/the-recovery-junkies/ …………………………………………………………………… DISCIPLES OF RECOVERY GROUP: www.disciplesofrecovery.org

It's time to be honest.   We've all been there, even the really good ones. The party's over and the lights are on. You're alone with your thoughts and the sense of full-bodied fatigue hits you like a brick to the head. Maybe you stay in bed all day, maybe you go out for lunch at 4 pm when it's usually noon — either way, you probably know what an emotional hangover feels like.   The emotional hangover has a variety of symptoms — ranging from tiredness to anxiety — but they all have one commonality: feeling out of place with where your mind or body should be. In this episode of The Recovery Junkies, Carlos and Chris invite Kieu Hatch back to the podcast to discuss what remedies can help us regulate back in balance after the exhaustion that comes from an emotional hangover.   …………………………………………………………………… WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU! Send us questions at our email address: [email protected] …………………………………………………………………… FOLLOW US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: Twitter: @recoveryjunkies Facebook: @recoveryjunkies Instagram: @therecoveryjunkies …………………………………………………………………… WEBSITE: www.therecoveryjunkies.com …………………………………………………………………… STORE: https://www.bonfire.com/store/the-recovery-junkies/ …………………………………………………………………… DISCIPLES OF RECOVERY GROUP: www.disciplesofrecovery.org

There are good things that we want. There are bad things that we want. There is a reason for both of them. Why do we want the things we want even though we know they can cause problems in our lives?   It's human nature to have wants. But if you're like us, you may be having a hard time disconnecting your wants from your needs — or you don't even know what your needs are! This makes it harder to establish a cause or reason for doing anything in particular.   In this episode of The Recovery Junkies, Carlos and Chris try to uncover some of the fundamental ideologies behind our motivations and desires.   …………………………………………………………………… WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU! Send us questions at our email address: [email protected] …………………………………………………………………… FOLLOW US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: Twitter: @recoveryjunkies Facebook: @recoveryjunkies Instagram: @therecoveryjunkies …………………………………………………………………… WEBSITE: www.therecoveryjunkies.com …………………………………………………………………… STORE: https://www.bonfire.com/store/the-recovery-junkies/ …………………………………………………………………… DISCIPLES OF RECOVERY GROUP: www.disciplesofrecovery.org

Are you struggling with codependency? Have others told you that you are bound to react in a certain way? Do you constantly worry that these reactions prove undeniable truths?   In this episode of the Recovery Junkies, we are joined by Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Kieu Hatch to discuss how codependency became recognized as an issue and how it is far too easy to fall into this pattern.   Kieu Hatch, LMFT https://kieutherapy4freedom.wixsite.com/kieuhatch   Codepdent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself, Melodie Beattie   CoDA Co-Dependents Anonymous 12-Step, 888-444-2359 …………………………………………………………………… WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU! Send us questions at our email address: [email protected] …………………………………………………………………… FOLLOW US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: Twitter: @recoveryjunkies Facebook: @recoveryjunkies Instagram: @therecoveryjunkies …………………………………………………………………… WEBSITE: www.therecoveryjunkies.com …………………………………………………………………… STORE: https://www.bonfire.com/store/the-recovery-junkies/ …………………………………………………………………… DISCIPLES OF RECOVERY GROUP: www.disciplesofrecovery.org

Life is hard. Adversities hit us all at some point or another. Relationships end, dreams are dashed, struggles abound — each of these can be devastating in their own way. But when life hits a peak of difficulty and tragedy, there are three tools that have been essential for our ability to maneuver through it all. These tools have made the difference between brokenness and victory in many different areas of our lives. Enjoy another episode of The Recovery Junkies! …………………………………………………………………… WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU! Send us questions at our email address: [email protected] …………………………………………………………………… FOLLOW US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: Twitter: @recoveryjunkies Facebook: @recoveryjunkies Instagram: @therecoveryjunkies …………………………………………………………………… WEBSITE: www.therecoveryjunkies.com …………………………………………………………………… STORE: https://www.bonfire.com/store/the-recovery-junkies/ …………………………………………………………………… DISCIPLES OF RECOVERY GROUP: www.disciplesofrecovery.org

Life is hard. Adversities hit us all at some point or another. Relationships end, dreams are dashed, struggles abound — each of these can be devastating in their own way. But when life hits a peak of difficulty and tragedy, there are three tools that have been essential for our ability to maneuver through it all. These tools have made the difference between brokenness and victory in many different areas of our lives.   Enjoy another episode of The Recovery Junkies! …………………………………………………………………… WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU! Send us questions at our email address: [email protected] …………………………………………………………………… FOLLOW US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: Twitter: @recoveryjunkies Facebook: @recoveryjunkies Instagram: @therecoveryjunkies …………………………………………………………………… WEBSITE: www.therecoveryjunkies.com …………………………………………………………………… STORE: https://www.bonfire.com/store/the-recovery-junkies/ …………………………………………………………………… DISCIPLES OF RECOVERY GROUP: www.disciplesofrecovery.org

When we're trying to have a conversation with someone, it can be hard to know when they are stating their opinions versus facts. Everyone has opinions and beliefs about our relationships with others, but sometimes these opinions can get in the way of having productive conversations. There are some questions that can help you identify whether the person is sharing an opinion or fact. In today's podcast episode we share those questions so you can use them as conversation starters next time you find yourself in a disagreement and need to determine what type of information your conversational partner is sharing. We also discuss examples of each situation so you'll have even more resources for navigating these conversations successfully! …………………………………………………………………… WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU! Send us questions at our email address: [email protected] …………………………………………………………………… FOLLOW US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: Twitter: @recoveryjunkies Facebook: @recoveryjunkies Instagram: @therecoveryjunkies …………………………………………………………………… WEBSITE: www.therecoveryjunkies.com …………………………………………………………………… STORE: https://www.bonfire.com/store/the-recovery-junkies/ …………………………………………………………………… DISCIPLES OF RECOVERY GROUP: www.disciplesofrecovery.org

The holiday season is a time to come together with family and friends, but it can also be stressful. You probably have a lot of questions about how you should act around your family this year. Maybe someone in the family said something offensive last year, or maybe you're just worried that you'll say something wrong! What should I do? How should I respond? Is there any way to avoid conflict altogether?!?   In this episode, Carlos and Chris share from personal experiences ways to not merely survive the holidays, but truly thrive during the holidays. From recurring triggers to pitfalls we all must face while spending time with our families, we cover everything so that you can focus more on enjoying yourself than worrying about what will happen next! …………………………………………………………………………….. WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU! Send us questions at our email address: [email protected] …………………………………………………………………………… FOLLOW US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: Twitter: @recoveryjunkies Facebook: @recoveryjunkies Instagram: @therecoveryjunkies …………………………………………………………………………… WEBSITE: www.therecoveryjunkies.com …………………………………………………………………………… STORE: https://www.bonfire.com/store/the-recovery-junkies/ …………………………………………………………………………… DISCIPLES OF RECOVERY GROUP: www.disciplesofrecovery.org

In this episode of Recovery Junkies, we welcome special guest and licensed clinical social worker, Kaila Morrison to the podcast. Today's episode asks: Have you ever been in a conversation where one person says something and the other party just responds with "I understand"? That's not communication. It doesn't convey any understanding, it doesn't encourage further discussion or clarification and it certainly isn't allowing for true intimacy. No wonder we have so many misunderstandings in our day to day conversations! We hope this episode can be a guide on how to communicate better by asking good questions that get to the heart of what someone is trying to say. …………………………………………………………………………….. WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU! Send us questions at our email address: [email protected] …………………………………………………………………………… FOLLOW US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: Twitter: @recoveryjunkies Facebook: @recoveryjunkies Instagram: @therecoveryjunkies …………………………………………………………………………… WEBSITE: www.therecoveryjunkies.com …………………………………………………………………………… STORE: https://www.bonfire.com/store/the-recovery-junkies/ …………………………………………………………………………… DISCIPLES OF RECOVERY GROUP: www.disciplesofrecovery.org

We all know that procrastination is bad, but do we really understand why? Is it laziness? Do we have issues with self-control? In this episode of The Recovery Junkies, Chris and Carlos talk about some common problems with self-control and then take a look at research article from The New York Times on what causes procrastination using the lens of self-control theory. Then finally, I will give actionable advice on how you can start beating your own procrastinating behavior today! New York Times Article: "Why You Procrastinate (It Has Nothing To Do With Self-Control)" https://www.nytimes.com/2019/03/25/smarter-living/why-you-procrastinate-it-has-nothing-to-do-with-self-control.html   ………………………………………………… WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU! Send us questions at our email address: [email protected] ………………………………………………… FOLLOW US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: Twitter: @recoveryjunkies Facebook: @recoveryjunkies Instagram: @therecoveryjunkies ………………………………………………… WEBSITE: www.therecoveryjunkies.com ………………………………………………… STORE: https://www.bonfire.com/store/the-recovery-junkies/ ………………………………………………… DISCIPLES OF RECOVERY GROUP: www.disciplesofrecovery.org