The fastest way to shut someone down is to “help” them while they’re still trying to speak. If you have ever felt the pressure to soothe, solve, or say the perfect thing, you’ll recognize what I’m unpacking here: for recovering people pleasers and codependent fixers, listening can be the hardest spiritual practice and the most healing one. As recovering people pleasers and codependents, we can become so focused on helping, fixing, and making things more comfortable for the people around us t...
Nov 2
18 min
Does the world feel like a lot to hold right now? I know I’ve been feeling it. There is so much happening around us, so much uncertainty, so much that can leave us feeling worried, unsettled, or wondering how we’re supposed to find our peace in the middle of it all. And sometimes it isn’t just the world. It’s our families, our relationships, the people we love, and the things happening in our own lives that we wish we could make better. In this episode of the Recover Your Soul Podcast, I’m sh...
Oct 26
33 min
I’m bringing this bonus episode over to the main Recover Your Soul podcast feed because this conversation feels so aligned with the heart of the work we do together. If you love this conversation and want to hear more like it, join me on Patreon or Apple Podcasts for a library of over 200 episodes to support your soul journey. https://www.patreon.com/c/RecoverYourSoul I often say the most important thing we can do for the people we love is to begin healing ourselves. Have you ever found...
Oct 19
46 min
What if you’re not crazy? What if some of those thoughts, feelings, and knowings you've learned to dismiss are actually invitations to listen more deeply? For many of us, especially those of us who have lived with codependency, people pleasing, or a deep fear of judgment, trusting our own inner knowing can be really difficult. We can become so accustomed to looking outside of ourselves for approval, direction, and reassurance that we stop listening to what we already know within. And if you'v...
Oct 12
27 min
What if your feelings aren't something you need to fix or get rid of, but a navigation system you can learn to trust? For a long time, many of us learned to push our feelings away, ignore them, judge them, or immediately try to make them go away. We react, we worry, we control, we fix, or we look outside of ourselves for someone else to tell us what we should feel or do. But our feelings are giving us information. In this Soul Practice, I share a simple way to pause and become present with wh...
Oct 5
18 min
What happens when someone you love is still drinking, and you are learning how to be okay even when the people around you may or may not be okay? I recently came home from a family vacation to Hawaii, and while there were so many beautiful moments, there was also a very real 24 hours that brought some old patterns right to the surface. It gave me another opportunity to practice what I have been learning through Al-Anon, my own sobriety, and the Recover Your Soul process. For me, Al-Anon was t...
Sep 28
42 min
Recover Your Soul Practices: The Power of the Breath What if one of the simplest spiritual practices is something you are already doing all day long? Your breath is always with you. It can bring you back to the present moment, help you slow down, and create a little more space between what is happening around you and how you are choosing to respond. In this Soul Practice, we explore the breath as a simple and accessible way to turn within, reconnect with ourselves, settle into the present mom...
Sep 21
22 min
What if one of the most powerful things we can do for our healing is to stop holding ourselves hostage to the past? I have been thinking a lot about self-forgiveness lately. We can spend so much of our lives going back over what we should have done, what we wish we had said, the choices we regret, the ways we think we failed, or the times we weren't who we wanted to be. And when we keep judging ourselves for those moments, we keep ourselves connected to the pain. In this episode, I share a si...
Sep 14
21 min
You can also begin with the FREE Recover Your Soul 9-Step Workbook: https://www.recoveryoursoul.net/whatisrecoveryoursoul What do you do when something is happening that you really, really want to change? When you're worried about someone you love, something isn't going the way you hoped, or you're feeling triggered and activated, our first instinct can be to try to fix it, control it, or make it different. But what if peace doesn't require the situation to change? In this Soul Practice, I wa...
Sep 7
18 min
What does it mean to be spiritually awake? I don't believe it means that life suddenly becomes easy or that we stop having painful, complicated, very human experiences. Life is still going to be lifey. For me, awakening is becoming more aware of what is happening inside of me and remembering that I have a choice in how I experience what is happening around me. In this episode, I share a very real situation with my son that gave me an opportunity to practice the Recover Your Soul Process right...
Aug 31
31 min
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