Mary H. K. Choi stops by the show for our annual meeting of the dead dads club and a conversation about her new book Pool House. We discuss the major changes in Mary’s life that informed the writing of this book, including her autism diagnosis and the loss of her dad, and the ways that this round of self-promotion has led to new appreciation for her community. Plus, why 12-step is genius, why 20 year-olds are awesome and why Marilu Henner’s still got it.#MaryHKChoi #PoolHouse #LateAutismDiagnosis #AlAnonRecovery #TheSmallBow #SelfPromotion #HealingTrauma #PowerofIntrovertsTopics:Social cost of book promotionHow The Bear gets Al Anon wrongReconciling with griefLate-life autism diagnosis impactReframing trauma as catching straysBaggage as ballast for survivalForgiveness as death of the past 12-step as a life guidance counselorProcessing the hunted Gawker eraThe honesty of sleep googlingNew episodes release every Wednesday.➡️ Subscribe to The Small Bow Podcast YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheSmallBow?sub_confirmation=1➡️ Join The Small Bow Community: https://www.thesmallbow.com/➡️ Get the latest on The Small Bow: https://linktr.ee/THESMALLBOW ➡️ Download The Small Bow Podcast on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-small-bow-podcast/id1576208098