Intro to life coach Jacqui Beaver Check out her linked in Profile 00:44   Intro music 01:04   So excited to have you here, how we reconnected. 02:11   A little bit about Jacqui and embracing the gig economy. 02:41   Supporting people through mid-life transition. 03:05   About workshops. Moving through life unintentionally. 04:00   Stanford life design lab. Career changes. Alternate futures. 04:31   The life design process explained. 05:16   The guys up in Slack. Parallel universes. Quantum physics. 06:04   Living 3 different lives. 06:47   Getting clear on what you think life is and what work is. 07:50   Being a square peg in a round hole. 08:30   Knowing your superpower. 09:31   What other people see in us. 09:55   Using your super power for other people. 10:21   What is your super power and knowing your truth. 11:53   Knowing yourself and comfortable with being who you really are. 12:17   Aubrey Marcus podcast with Humble the Poet quote. 13:30   Jacqui knew her superpower but didn’t believe in it. 14:12   In the acting world it’s what you say no to that defines you. 15:00   Jacqui’s Les Mills story about being an aerobics instructor. 15:59   It wasn’t about being the best instructor or having the best body. 16:50   Pivot points in my career. 17:31   Art school or Air New Zealand? 18:25   The good old days of being an in-flight attendant. 19:05   Flight attending once again a square peg in a round hole. 19:44   Jacqui’s impactful moment on board a flight one day. 20:34   Jacqui’s superpower defined! 21:16   Steve’s life hack on just listening. 21:51   Really listening and “The Matrix” analogy of listening deeply. 23:00   Synchronistic and a-ha moments. 23:33   I used my superpower to hide. 24:10   A-ha moments and one profound moment? Connecting the dots. 25:00   Moving through life as a spiritual beings. 25:11   Book recommendation Dr Amy Johnson Being Human: Essays on Thoughtmares,  Bouncing Back and Your True Nature. 26:00   Impact of Jacqui’s mother passing away. Didn’t cry at the funeral. 26:59   Masking and suppressing pain. Why do we do this? 27:25   Inner child analogy and childlike way of being. 28:40   Why are we afraid of being vulnerable? 29:14   Jacqui’s ex-boyfriend story and needing to talk about it. 29:55   Jacqui’s fireman story about playing into a role. 31:20   The role of being strong and getting through things. 32:10   Authenticity, intuition, empathy and helping people through transition. 32:55   Stanford life design group coaching. 33:32   Retreats and helping people through transition points. 34:06   Mid-life has a branding issue. The societal narrative. 34:52   The Mid-Life Wisdom School. Chip Conley. 35:41   Challenging how we look at mid-life. 36:00   Two phases identified of crisis adolescence and retirement. 36:33   What exactly is mid-life and debunking it. 37:51   Middle essence phase explained and defined. 38:35   Going through transition. An unraveling. 39:43   Very Well Mind website quote about mid-life crisis. 40:56   Mid-life is individual for everyone and on a sliding scale. 42:01   Middle age and having a realisation of your own programming. 43:17   The U curve of happiness study. 43:59   Explaining the U curve. 45:06   Suicide stats of 45yr old males in US increased by 50% over 20 years. 45:50   Having the tools and conversations surrounding transition. 46:41   How do you even know yourself when you’re young and a changing world. 48:50   Leading by your ego and not following your inner wisdom. 49:32   First half of our lives in attainment mode. 49:58   At mid-life you realise there has to be something more to life. Doing to being. 50:30   How do you help people shift to a new phase of life and career? 50:40   Being prepared to evolve and the mid-life edit. 51:36   Getting to the root cause of why you’re going through this phase. 52:12   Any common examples of mid-life or career transition themes. 52:40   Uncovering an insight. Limiting beliefs. 53:22   Mexico retreat story the stickers of self beliefs. 55:25   Speed dating or speed crisis? 56:31   Baring your soul and tearing up and being vulnerable. 57:29   Logic level and getting to a knowing level. 58:14   The definition of coaching explained. International Coach Federation. 58:41   Getting to a place of insight and being self-aware. Blind spots. 59:40   The technique of the play against in acting. 1:00:31 You don’t get in the muddy water when coaching. 1:01:42 Don’t worry about the detail focus on the clarity. 1:02:21 Coaching is not consulting. 1:02:51 Struggling with making a change and not doing it. 1:03:52 Coaching works if two people come willing to be in the process. 1:04:30 To evolve you have to be prepared to change and face uncertainty. 1:05:24 Not being afraid of fear and avoiding pain. 1:05:51 An example of pain you may want to avoid. 1:07:11 Hitting an absolute limit and making a decision without clarity. 1:07:30 Jacqui is going big on her own experience of pain. 1:08:01 Our brains give us an ID and dissolving parts of the ego construct. 1:08:44 Emailing Amy about the impact it had and it’s fundamental change. 1:09:35 Marriage break up and what happens when life doesn’t go to plan. 1:10:26 We avoid big changes, believing the ego construct is us. 1:11:28 We are a fractal of the universe. Power of co-creation. 1:12:00 Any synchronistic moments that stand out. 1:12:14 Spending time with Simon Sinek and collaborating with the universe. 1:13:53 I need to sort my shit out! 1:14:55 Playing hide and seek with the universe. 1:15:14 Brene Brown and the 3 options you can take when the universe comes calling. 1:15:41 Brene Brown and the mid-life unravelling. 1:15:55 Brene Brown quote. brenebrown.com 1:17:44 The Phoenix effect. Ignoring the universe. Existential Cage Fighting approach. 1:18:40 Another quote ( Jacqui’s quote! ) 1:20:01 Existential Cage Fighting and tapping out. 1:21:15 Avoiding pain as a protection mechanism. 1:21:49 Pain is designed to move through us and the pursuit of happiness. 1:22:27 Blaming the New Age (New Cage) movement. 1:23:00 We are all too afraid to face the dark. 1:23:44 Pain and joy is the same thing. Balanced approach. 1:24:24 Missing balance and facing both the light and dark. 1:25:01 Moving through the world and how you do it. 1:25:39 It’s a feeling place and being vulnerable and energy thing. 1:26:41 Two sides of the coin are the same thing. 1:27:01 Not labeling emotions and feeling the energy of stuff. 1:27:51 Moving through life not afraid of pain 1:28:29 Exercise you can do at home about observing the witness. 1:29:38 The river analogy of thought. 1:31:10 Making thoughts less personal and discovering your programming. 1:31:55 Being completely in the feeling. 1:33:05 “I am love, connection, compassion and I’m stepping into my power.” 1:34:27 There’s a point of healing of getting too caught up. Just trust. 1:35:13 Being able to move on and letting go after doing the growth and learning. 1:35:21 The snow globe analogy. 1:36:35 What advice would you give to your younger self? 1:37:02 “The thing that makes you feel you don’t fit in is your superpower.” 1:37:28 Outro music.