From murdering dessert buffets to drinking gallons of garbage coffee at AA meetings, our girls spill the tea on what foods and bevvies they'd (almost) wait in line for. Flavored coffee, or nah? Are all fries created equal? Where DOES Shannon get her burgers from? Why Elisha will thrive on a desert island, Swiss Family Robinson-style, while Shannon will be dead within a week. And what's the best thing about convalescing in recovery after plastic surgery? You'll laugh, cry, maybe vom in your mouth a little, it's all good insight on who treats their body as a temple, and who eats like an unsupervised toddler at Golden Corral.    Do you want more content from us? Join our fan club for exclusive episodes, giveaways, exclusive events and so much more. Visit Patreon https://www.patreon.com/realtalkrealchange/posts to join.    Subscribe, Rate & Share Your Favorite Episodes!   Thanks for tuning into today’s episode of Real Talk Real Change with your hosts, Elisha Alcantara and Shannon Beekman. If you enjoyed this episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts to subscribe and leave a rating and review.   Don’t forget to visit our website https://realtalkrealchange.com, connect with us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/realtalkrealchangepodcast/, Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RealTalkRealChangePodcast, and share your favorite episodes across social media.

There seems to be a general surface level understanding of what the word "ego" actually entails, and it's long been framed in the negative - reserved for blowhard businessmen, or "egotistical" celebrities. BUT, everyone has an ego, and not all of us are narcissistic presidents, so how does your average Joe ego serve (and fail) you? Referencing the teachings of Eckhart Tolle (renowned expert of ego deconstruction) - and a touch of Buddhist theory - Elisha & Shannon dig in on what they believe the ego is, how it drives and "protects" us, and how to disentangle from its often unhealthy influence. Tackling the pretty big topic of "ego" is one of Elisha's current favorite hobbies (along with getting high on edibles and watching Ted Talks in bed with her New Friend), and Shannon's here to test our her new podcast voice on y'all, so you will not want to miss this honest, intensive delve into the great and powerful ego that directs us all from behind the curtain.   Do you want more content from us? Join our fan club for exclusive episodes, giveaways, exclusive events and so much more. Visit Patreon https://www.patreon.com/realtalkrealchange/posts to join.    Subscribe, Rate & Share Your Favorite Episodes!   Thanks for tuning into today’s episode of Real Talk Real Change with your hosts, Elisha Alcantara and Shannon Beekman. If you enjoyed this episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts to subscribe and leave a rating and review.   Don’t forget to visit our website https://realtalkrealchange.com, connect with us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/realtalkrealchangepodcast/, Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RealTalkRealChangePodcast, and share your favorite episodes across social media.

Kids are notorious for a bordering-on-pathological questioning of absolutely everything (non-stop, over and over)...and how a parent responds shapes the type of person that kid grows into. For example, if you were raised with a strict emphasis on compliance over curiosity? Well, there's a good chance you're now a chronic people pleaser. And those habits are super difficult to break out of - just ask Elisha, who is questioning with intent in her business, and her relationships. Or Shannon, who has all but surgically removed ego from her role as a business owner, welcoming questioning on all levels. And when you have the benefit of kids asking those questions that you've never really questioned, yourself? Turns out you could be a really cool, totally easy going mom raising confident, inquisitive kids who won't end up apologizing for their place in the world. Join us on this earlybird special of Real Talk, Real Change, where we're unraveling Enneagram types, learning to question everything we were once taught as true and correct, and pissing off members of clergy.   Do you want more content from us? Join our fan club for exclusive episodes, giveaways, exclusive events and so much more. Visit Patreon to join.    Subscribe, Rate & Share Your Favorite Episodes!   Thanks for tuning into today’s episode of Real Talk Real Change with your hosts, Elisha Alcantara and Shannon Beekman. If you enjoyed this episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts to subscribe and leave a rating and review.   Don’t forget to visit our website, connect with us on Instagram, Facebook, and share your favorite episodes across social media.

Elisha's flying solo hosting RTRC today, but we've got a very special guest to fill in for Shannon. If you've been following along from the start, you'd have heard mention of the name "Joshua Sharp" many times, and it's just kinda fitting that Josh introduces himself on his and Elisha's one year anniversary of living together. Get a privileged peek into what's been a pretty unconventional relationship from the get go, and hear how Josh and Elisha - already separately on the paths of spirituality and self betterment - just happened to find each other at the exact right time. Josh shares how the past year has helped him grow - from relating to children as a guide rather than an authority, living soundly in the now, getting peed on as an adult, and how his and Elisha's very different ideas of vacationing have panned out. And wait until you hear how Josh describes his feels for Elisha (swwwwwoooonnnn). It's not often we get to eavesdrop the inner chaos and communion of a blossoming romance, and especially one this intentional and evolved, so please join us for the very best front row seats.    Do you want more content from us? Join our fan club for exclusive episodes, giveaways, exclusive events and so much more. Visit Patreon to join. And help us come up with a new name for the “fan club”   Subscribe, Rate & Share Your Favorite Episodes!   Thanks for tuning into today’s episode of Real Talk Real Change with your hosts, Elisha Alcantara and Shannon Beekman. If you enjoyed this episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts to subscribe and leave a rating and review.   Don’t forget to visit our website https://realtalkrealchange.com, connect with us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/realtalkrealchangepodcast/, Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RealTalkRealChangePodcast, and share your favorite episodes across social media.

As we're dipping our toes back into what's "normal" these days, you might have noticed some people struggling to adapt. In today's Real Talk, Real Change, Elisha and Shannon spotlight our universal responses to collective trauma, and in particular, our own personal resilience. For those of us fortunate enough to survive the pandemic with our families and friend circles intact, there's still a lot of acquired anxieties to contend with. Are you feeling overextended in how you socialize? Having difficulty dealing with post-pandemic vaccination etiquette? Feeling vulnerable to "triggering" words and scenarios? We've got some real talk on sensitivity and personal responsibility, and some advice on how to refine who actually deserves your social energy. Join us for some solid tools on how to step forward from these Unprecedented Times into a you that works in your best favor. P.S. We need your help coming up with a new term for "fan club" ("hype harem?"), so would love to hear some suggestions. Thanks so much for joining us on this awesome adventure, btw, and we're having such a blast making RTRC Reels on our Instagram.      Do you want more content from us? Join our fan club for exclusive episodes, giveaways, exclusive events and so much more. Visit Patreon to join.        Subscribe, Rate & Share Your Favorite Episodes!   Thanks for tuning into today’s episode of Real Talk Real Change with your hosts, Elisha Alcantara and Shannon Beekman. If you enjoyed this episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts to subscribe and leave a rating and review.   Don’t forget to visit our website, connect with us on Instagram, Facebook, and share your favorite episodes across social media. https://www.instagram.com/realtalkrealchangepodcast/

We will be back with a fresh episode next week but for now enjoy this very popular episode from awhile back. Have a great week and thanks for listening.   Breaking up is hard to do, but why aren't we talking more about the devastating heartache of breaking up with your best girlfriend? It's weird, right? Because basically every woman you know has been through this, and yep, it hurts waaay worse than breaking up with a lover. There's a very special type of friendship that occurs when two girls/women make that instant connection, a deep, obsessive enmeshment where you become joined at the literal hip. And if (or when) that friendship falters, it can be just as intense in its conclusion. Elisha and Shannon share their ex-bestie histories: the warning signs to look out for, how forming close relationships with employees can be a lousy idea, and that ghosting is a pretty shitty way to end things with a friend. And sometimes, those deep, trusted friendships grow toxic, as you love that person so hard that they learn they can get away with treating you like garbage. We're curious to hear your stories of "best friends forever" gone south, and especially from the fellas listening in - does this also happen to you? Do you settle your differences with a quarrel before heading out for mimosas? Follow Us on Instagram! Real Talk | Real Change Podcast @realtalkrealchangepodcast Elisha Alcantara @elishaalcantara Shannon Beekman @shannonkbeekman

We're here with insta bestie Kyle Alexander of Pretty Sweet Sugaring, but we're not just chatting about a fabulous eco-friendly, all natural, all organic, culturally ancient alternative to body waxing, today. Nope, this episode is for entrepreneurs new and old, those who seek fulfilment in their jobs (or, don't), mentor-hungry social media zombies, for those of us who feel our job might define us, and anyone, really, who needs help finding a new life focus. Quarantine has given us pause to truly assess what makes us happy, and what's happening is a Renaissance Faire of folk - mostly women, mind you - striking out and creating their new realities. This episode will empower you, help you find your Shovel Buddies, hype community over competition, and hone your social and business networks to discover what truly serves you. It's also about getting those silky smooth baby seal feels from a fresh body sugaring, y'all. ;)   Do you want more content from us? Join our fan club for exclusive episodes, giveaways, exclusive events and so much more. Visit Patreon to join.      Subscribe, Rate & Share Your Favorite Episodes!   Thanks for tuning into today’s episode of Real Talk Real Change with your hosts, Elisha Alcantara and Shannon Beekman. If you enjoyed this episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts to subscribe and leave a rating and review.   Don’t forget to visit our website, connect with us on Instagram, Facebook, and share your favorite episodes across social media.

Shannon's often joked here about her ADHD, but today we're actually gonna delve into something that is surprisingly common in kids...and frustratingly undiagnosed in adults. If you're a neurotypical type, crossing paths with someone with ADHD can be a little perplexing. What can feel like dismissiveness, or a lack of care, is actually pretty easily explained if you're prepared to understand what makes them tick. And once you start to get it, you can begin to fully appreciate your funny, empathetic, generous co-worker or loved one for who they truly are - and yes, despite what you might feel sometimes, they love you, too. This episode has been a long time coming, and we're fortunate to bear witness to the inner workings of someone who has lived their entire life with ADHD. Join us as we discover why so many folk with ADHD can be found in AA meetings, whether Shannon is truly a genius or not (jury's out), if your friend could possibly have ADHD - or just be a garden variety asshole -, and the many, many cool things about being neurodiverse. Wherever you are on the spectrum, if at all, we know you'll walk away from this episode with a greater understanding and appreciation of both Shannon, and all of the wonderful and diverse ADHD people who share your world.     Do you want more content from us? Join our fan club for exclusive episodes, giveaways, exclusive events and so much more. Visit Patreon to join.        Subscribe, Rate & Share Your Favorite Episodes!   Thanks for tuning into today’s episode of Real Talk Real Change with your hosts, Elisha Alcantara and Shannon Beekman. If you enjoyed this episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts to subscribe and leave a rating and review.   Don’t forget to visit our website, connect with us on Instagram, Facebook, and share your favorite episodes across social media.

  Is your mom, like, the BEST MOM, EVER? Do you and your mom chat on the phone for hours, every single day? Do you have matching handbags, and make an annual pilgrimage to Kauai together? If this is you, this may not be the episode for you - and we say that with all the love and support (and slight envy) towards folks who have strong, healthy relationships with their parents. Because many of us don't, and with the yearly triggerthon of Mother's Day on the near horizon, we're getting all tripped up in our feelings. Having a set day to celebrate your mother - or being a mother - kinda seems a little manipulative. Like there's some obligation to behave or feel a certain way, and unspoken expectations inevitably lead to crushing disappointments. If you're a motherless person - by choice, by necessity, by loss, whatever - you may find a little solace in today's episode. We choose to celebrate (or not celebrate) however we want, in whatever way that makes sense to us. Zero obligation, nada guilt. And that's pretty freeing. We're always here to chat mom-daughter relationships, and if you're actually looking for a unique gift for a mom, or mother figure, or yourself, sign up for our ~super exclusive~ RTRC Fan Club! Cheeky bonus episodes and bawdy tales of Shannon regularly humiliating herself are far better value at $5 per month than bottomless mimosas made from stale well champagne and eggs Benedict that have been sitting under a heat lamp for 6 hours. No more wire hangers, just real talk about moms and motherhood.   "Mother relationships show up in different ways, and we all feel all kinds of ways about it. This episode is not for people who are all "my mother's the best!"" - Elisha Alcantara   "Having a mother that has passed is so much more socially acceptable than having a mother who is alive that you don't have a relationship with." - Shannon Beekman     Do you want more content from us? Join our fan club for exclusive episodes, giveaways, exclusive events and so much more. Visit Patreon to join.        Subscribe, Rate & Share Your Favorite Episodes! Thanks for tuning into today’s episode of Real Talk Real Change with your hosts, Elisha Alcantara and Shannon Beekman. If you enjoyed this episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts to subscribe and leave a rating and review. Don’t forget to visit our website, connect with us on Instagram, Facebook, and share your favorite episodes across social media.

If you had to choose one zeitgeist of 2020-21, it would be the discussion about race. America, especially, is experiencing deep growing pains right now, as seemingly two divides wrestle with both the historical and current context of racism in our society - and a centuries-old simmer has finally hit boiling point. Join our buttery-voiced podcast babes as they start to peel back the many-layered onion that is systematic racism, "cancel culture", our misconceptions of "other", and just how impactful language and pervasive stereotyping can be in furthering or cementing our prejudices. It's a gigantic, sensitive topic, and one that we'll likely revisit in the future, especially as we're constantly evolving and evaluating our understanding of the intricacies of racism. Elisha and Shannon want to provide a space where it's easy to talk about race without fear of being dragged, where everyone gets a chance to learn and adjust their preconceived notions. None of us are perfect, and we're all here to improve ourselves so we can be better friends, lovers, and community members. Want to be a true ally, and fight the real fight against racism? Step up and come with us.