Real Talk For Real Teachers with Dr. Becky Bailey
Real Talk For Real Teachers with Dr. Becky Bailey
Dr. Becky Bailey
Listen in to this new bi-monthly podcast from Conscious Discipline creator, Dr. Becky Bailey. Together with Conscious Discipline Master and Certified Instructors and special guests, Becky explores trends in social-emotional learning and classroom management.
Conscious Discipline in After School Programs
10.2 million children in the United States participate in after school programs. The best after school programs are comprehensive, fostering the self-worth of each child, developing social skills, and promoting respect for cultural diversity. They also provide learning activities, quiet time, recreation, and developmentally appropriate activities that inspire problem-solving. These qualities closely align with Conscious Discipline, which can be implemented both during and after school. Listen in as Dr. Becky Bailey discusses Conscious Discipline in after school programs with guest Cassie Gerst, who oversees after school programming in the Burlington Community School District. After implementing Conscious Discipline, Cassie’s after school programs saw an 89.5% reduction in office referrals, a dramatic decrease in suspensions and removals, and an increase in staff retention. Cassie explains her implementation process and offers tips for others who want to embed Conscious Discipline in their after school programs. Essential Takeaways • The best after school programs are comprehensive and foster self-worth, develop social skills, promote respect for cultural diversity, and provide a combination of homework help/tutoring, quiet time, and physical activity. They also offer developmentally appropriate activities that inspire problem-solving. • Conscious Discipline states that all behavior is communication. Children are communicating to us that they are missing a skill. • Since Cassie oversees programs in several different buildings, she picked staff members from each building to attend the Conscious Discipline Summer Institute and form her Conscious Discipline Action Team (CDAT). In addition to developing training and professional development, the CDAT planned which rituals and structures they would implement in Year 1. • The after school programs that implemented Conscious Discipline saw an 89.5% reduction in office referrals. Suspensions and dismissals from the program decreased, while staff retention increased. • Cassie encourages other after school programs hoping to implement Conscious Discipline to create a plan for training and onboarding new staff, including shadowing and mentoring. • Cassie also recommends that you look at staff strengths and weaknesses and create professional development to meet their needs. How are they feeling? Where are they in their journey? What is needed in order for staff to be successful? Important Links • ConsciousDiscipline.com (https://consciousdiscipline.com/) • Conscious Discipline Professional Development (https://consciousdiscipline.com/professional- development/virtual-professional-development-solutions/) • Progress Assessment Rubrics (https://consciousdiscipline.com/free-resources/type/progress-assessment-rubrics/) Product Mentions • Conscious Discipline: Building Resilient Classrooms (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/the-new-conscious-discipline-book-expanded-updated/) • Conscious Discipline E-Course (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/conscious-discipline-e- course-individual-registration-1-year/) • Conflict Resolution Time Machine (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/conflict-resolution- time-machine/) Show Outline 0:20 What is Conscious Discipline? 1:09 Introduction of topic: After school programs 1:30 Qualities of the best after school programs 2:55 Introduction of guest Cassie Gerst and her role 6:01 Cassie’s introduction to Conscious Discipline 7:55 Embedding Conscious Discipline into after school programs 9:52 Data and outcomes 13:05 Tips for other after school programs hoping to implement Conscious Discipline 16:36 What’s Becky up to? 17:02 What’s Becky celebrating? THANK YOU FOR LISTENING There are many ways you could have spent this time today, but you chose to spend it with me and I am grateful. If you enjoyed today’s show, please share it with others via your favorite social media platforms.
Jun 26
17 min
Shifting from Punishment to Discipline
Punishment is defined as the infliction of pain or loss upon a person for a misdeed. Research shows that when children are physically or verbally punished, effects include increased child aggression, increased antisocial behavior, reduced academic achievement, decreased quality of relationships, and mental health problems. Punishment also fails to teach internal control of one’s own behavior (also known as self-regulation). A child who is punished may learn to control or hide a behavior when they are being watched, but they will not learn to regulate their own behavior when no one is watching (and the threat of punishment is removed). For nearly 25 years, Conscious Discipline has offered alternatives to punishing children for misbehavior. Conscious Discipline is rooted in the belief that connection is the key to cooperation and that children need discipline, not punishment. Effective discipline requires us to recognize behavior as communication and to see misbehavior as a skill deficit rather than a sign of disrespect. In response, we teach the skills and strategies children need to regulate their own behavior for a lifetime—not just when someone is watching. In this podcast, you’ll hear from Christiaan Baarsma, who has facilitated the implementation of Conscious Discipline at a high school for children with special needs in the Netherlands. When Christiaan arrived, the school lacked safety and had a culture of fear and violence. Christiaan transformed the school’s “punishment room” into a “connection room.” He replaced the system of punishment and rewards with a Conscious Discipline-inspired system based on connection, safety and empathy. Listen in to learn more about how Christiaan led this shift—and how school culture was transformed. Essential Takeaways • The American Academy of Pediatrics encourages parents to use discipline strategies (to teach skills) instead of punishment. Research shows that punishment has a negative impact on mental health, academic achievement, and relationships. • Punishment does not teach internal control of one’s own behavior (self-regulation), and our most vulnerable children are punished at disproportionately high rates. • The goal is to help children be successful as opposed to punishing them for the skills they lack. • When Christiaan first implemented Conscious Discipline, most children arrived in the survival state. Today, after making connections and learning self-regulatory strategies, most come to the room in the emotional state. The school feels safer, and children are more willing to ask for help. Important Links • ConsciousDiscipline.com (https://consciousdiscipline.com/) • The Basics of the Conscious Discipline Brain State Model (https://consciousdiscipline.com/the-basics-of-the-conscious-discipline-brain-state-model/) • Conscious Discipline and Consequences (https://consciousdiscipline.com/e-learning/podcasts/podcast-episode027/) • Building Safety and Connection with High School Students (https://consciousdiscipline.com/e-learning/podcasts/podcast-episode036/) Show Outline 0:21 What is Conscious Discipline? 0:56 Introduction of topic 1:18 Definition of punishment and downsides to punishment 3:32 Introduction of guest Christiaan Baarsma 4:15 Christiaan’s role at the school and introduction to Conscious Discipline 5:56 How Christiaan began the process of shifting from punishment to discipline 7:19 From “punishment room” to “connection room” 10:05 Responding to initial resistance from colleagues 12:00 How Christiaan’s school has changed 16:42 What’s Becky up to? 16:56 What’s Becky celebrating? THANK YOU FOR LISTENING There are many ways you could have spent this time today, but you chose to spend it with me and I am grateful. If you enjoyed today’s show, please share it with others via your favorite social media platforms.
Apr 27
17 min
Creating Optimal Relationships for Optimal Learning
At its core, Conscious Discipline is a relationship program. Our brain is a social brain that develops through relationships. To change the brain for optimal learning, we must create optimal relationships. No matter how you choose to weave Conscious Discipline into your classroom, school or district, remember: As we improve relationships, we improve learning. In this podcast, you’ll hear from J.C. Commander, a dean of students for South Euclid-Lyndhurst City School District in Ohio. As the dean of students in a small district, J.C. wears many hats. Whether he’s working with students who are truant and their families, coaching basketball, or teaching breathing strategies to young children, J.C. puts relationships at the forefront. Listen in to learn how Conscious Discipline has helped J.C. and his district prioritize relationships in order to optimize learning. Essential Takeaways • Often, the reason children miss school is relationship-based. They may have social issues or lack relationships with their teachers. In other cases, it’s helpful to work with parents to establish a routine that helps children successfully get up and get to school in the morning. • Athletics are a great way to build relationships with students through common interests. • With older children, a Friends and Family Board can serve as motivation. Students revisit photos of their parents or other family members as a reminder of their “why.” • In your first year implementing Conscious Discipline, it’s OK to choose a few key areas of focus and a few structures you’d like to implement. J.C. initially focused on routines and relationships, and he implemented the Wish Well, Greetings and Friends and Family Board. He also helped students learn Conscious Discipline deep breathing techniques, with great results. Important Links • ConsciousDiscipline.com (https://consciousdiscipline.com/) • Wish Well Ritual (https://consciousdiscipline.com/free-resources/shubert/shuberts- classroom/wish-well-ritual/) • S.T.A.R. (https://consciousdiscipline.com/free-resources/shubert/shuberts-classroom/s-t-a-r/) • Friends and Family Board (https://consciousdiscipline.com/free-resources/shubert/shuberts- classroom/friends-and-family-board/) Product Mentions • Conscious Discipline: Building Resilient Classrooms (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/the-new-conscious-discipline-book-expanded- updated/) • Creating the School Family (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/creating-the-school- family/) • Wish Well Board (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/wish-well-board/) • Greeting Apron (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/greeting-apron/) • S.T.A.R. Breathing Tool (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/s-t-a-r-breathing-tool/) Show Outline 0:22 What is Conscious Discipline? 0:54 Introduction of guest J.C. Commander 1:54 Responding to truancy with relationship-building and Conscious Discipline 5:18 Building relationships through athletics 7:05 J.C.’s introduction to Conscious Discipline 8:25 Favorite success story 10:43 Success story with younger children 12:57 What’s Becky up to? 13:18 What’s Becky celebrating? THANK YOU FOR LISTENING There are many ways you could have spent this time today, but you chose to spend it with me and I am grateful. If you enjoyed today’s show, please share it with others via your favorite social media platforms.
Mar 13
15 min
The Importance of Composure
As a child, DJ Batiste didn’t have the skills he needed to behave or succeed in school. He was expelled from preschool and often kicked out of classrooms before becoming involved with gangs and increasingly serious trouble. During his senior year of high school, DJ’s life changed when he walked into the classroom of Donna Porter, a teacher implementing Conscious Discipline. For the first time, DJ had a teacher who didn’t tell him, “Get out.” Instead, she connected with him. That connection paved the way for DJ to learn valuable skills that he continues to use today. Listen in as DJ discusses the powerful impact of teachers, the vital skill of composure, and how teachers like you can connect with other “DJ’s” and change their life trajectory for the better. As DJ says, “Never question the power you have as a teacher… You can choose to create more success stories and less statistics.” Essential Takeaways • If a child is told he’s bad often enough, he begins to believe that is who he is. The way we see children matters. • Meet your students where they are, accept them where they are, and build. Your first encounter with a student may be a disrespectful one. It is how you respond that sets the tone for the relationship. • Composure is the first skill of Conscious Discipline. Without it, accessing the other skills is impossible. Before attempting other skills, learn to quit taking student behavior personally and to compose yourself before responding. • A great teacher’s true intent is to teach and not to punish.  Teach discipline skills more than once, the same way we continue to teach academic skills until they are mastered. Give children a fresh start every day. Important Links • ConsciousDiscipline.com (https://consciousdiscipline.com/) • Video: From Gang Leader to Graduate: A Conscious Discipline Transformation (https://consciousdiscipline.com/videos/gang-leader-to-graduate-a-conscious-discipline-transformation/) • Video: DJ Batiste Teaches “Words Have Power” (https://consciousdiscipline.com/videos/dj- batiste-former-gang-leader-teaches-words-have-power/) • Podcast: The Transformational Power of Connection with DJ Batiste (https://consciousdiscipline.com/e-learning/podcasts/podcast-episode037/) • Video: DJ Batiste Explains “Preschool Expulsions Lead to Destruction” (https://consciousdiscipline.com/videos/dj-batiste-former-gang-leader-explains-preschool- expulsions-lead-to-destruction/) Product Mentions • Conscious Discipline: Building Resilient Classrooms (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/the-new-conscious-discipline-book-expanded-updated/) • Creating the School Family (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/creating-the-school-family/) • School Family Job Set (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/school-family-job-set/) • Brain State Poster Set (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/brain-state-poster-set/)  Seven Skills Poster Set (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/seven-skills-poster-set/) Show Outline 0:22 What is Conscious Discipline? 1:18 The power of teachers 2:14 Introduction of guest DJ Batiste and DJ’s story 4:15 It’s never too late to change the brain 4:53 Self-fulfilling prophecy 9:30 Learning new tools for managing student behavior 16:58 The skill of composure 20:18 Be persistent with teaching discipline skills 23:30 Give children a fresh start every day 25:23 What’s Becky up to? 25:58 What’s Becky celebrating? THANK YOU FOR LISTENING There are many ways you could have spent this time today, but you chose to spend it with me and I am grateful. If you enjoyed today’s show, please share it with others via your favorite social media platforms.
Feb 20
27 min
Weaving I Love You Rituals Into The Day
Episode Summary I Love You Rituals are playful, one-on-one interactions that build loving connections while increasing attention span, decreasing power struggles and promoting language and literacy at school or at home. These brain-building interactions facilitate optimal development for young children and create lifelong bonds between children and adults. If you’re interested in incorporating I Love You Rituals into your current classroom practices, you may wonder: Where should I start? How do I introduce I Love You Rituals? When in the world do I have time to teach them? Join Master Instructor Kim Hughes, a 30-plus year veteran of the education field, as she leads a session on making I Love You Rituals part of your day. Kim answers frequently asked questions about I Love You Rituals and shares valuable strategies and insight. As Kim says, “Conscious Discipline is not a second job. We weave all of this throughout the curriculum so you have a beautiful tapestry.” Essential Takeaways • The best exercise for the brain is exercise. • The powers of Conscious Discipline allow us to see conflict differently, while the skills allow us to respond to conflict differently. The structures help adults and children practice the skills. Without the powers and skills, putting up structures is merely “decorating your classroom with Conscious Discipline.” • Everyone needs “joy juice.” Every child needs at least one adult to love and support them. • Learn the I Love You Rituals yourself first, then practice them with children. Once children have practiced with an adult, they can do I Love You Rituals together. • Teach ILYR on the playground, at centers, by having older children teach younger children, whilea child is on the changing table, etc. You can also incorporate them into your daily greetings. • Start where you are comfortable, and celebrate your successes. Remember that you can’t implement everything right away. Breathe, take it slowly, and tell yourself, “I’ve got this.” Important Links • ConsciousDiscipline.com (https://consciousdiscipline.com/) • Master Instructor Kim Hughes (https://consciousdiscipline.com/professional- development/instructors/kim-hughes/) • Free Resource: I Love You Rituals Teddy Bear Activity Board (https://consciousdiscipline.com/resources/i-love-you-rituals-teddy-bear-activity-board/) • Premium Resource: I Love You Rituals Choices Spinner (https://consciousdiscipline.com/resources/i-love-you-rituals-choices-spinner/) • Premium Resource: Choice Board-I Love You Rituals (https://consciousdiscipline.com/resources/choice-board-i-love-you-rituals/) Product Mentions • I Love You Rituals (book) (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/i-love-you-rituals/) • I Love You Rituals Changing Table Set (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/i-love-you- rituals-changing-table-poster-set/) • I Love You Rituals on a String (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/i-love-you-rituals-on-a- string/) • Rituales Amorosos (book) (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/rituales-amorosos/) • Greeting Apron (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/greeting-apron/) Show Outline 0:20 What is Conscious Discipline? 1:28 Brain Smart Start 9:06 Relationship between powers, skills and structures 11:18 Introduction to I Love You Rituals 15:22 How to introduce I Love You Rituals in your classroom 16:58 When to teach I Love You Rituals 19:25 I Love You Rituals book (Family Night) 21:44 Where to start with I Love You Rituals 23:59 What’s Becky up to? 24:31 What’s Becky celebrating? THANK YOU FOR LISTENING There are many ways you could have spent this time today, but you chose to spend it with me and I am grateful. If you enjoyed today’s show, please share it with others via your favorite social media platforms.
Jan 17
25 min
Teaching Conflict Resolution to Young Children
In any classroom, conflict happens. And that’s an understatement—conflict occurs every day, all day long. Research shows that in Pre-K classrooms, 60 acts of intrusion occur per hour. If you want to save time for learning and connection, teaching conflict resolution to young children is essential. With Conscious Discipline, we foster a willingness to resolve conflicts by building a School Family. Then, we teach healthy conflict resolution skills like composure, assertiveness, and recognizing and managing triggers. Join Master Instructor Vicky Hepler as she leads a session on teaching conflict resolution in early childhood on this special episode of Real Talk for Real Teachers. With 37 years in education, Vicky draws on a wealth of experience as she shares actionable strategies, activities and coaching tips for transforming conflict and chaos to connection and cooperation. Essential Takeaways • For conflict resolution to be effective, we must foster the seeds of willingness by establishing a School Family. From there, we can teach even the most challenging children to resolve conflicts in a healthy manner. • Conflict is an opportunity to teach children a better way to communicate, resolve problems and meet their needs. • Children are developmentally programmed to seek help from adults. When a child tattles, he or she is telling us, “I need help. I don’t know what to do.” This is an opportunity to teach children how to use their assertive Big Voice. • With their Big Voices, children teach others how they want to be treated, a vital lifelong skill. • We teach children to use their Big Voice in the moment that conflict occurs. We also help them identify triggers and find strategies to use when they are triggered. Don’t forget to celebrate when your students use their Big Voice! Important Links • ConsciousDiscipline.com (https://consciousdiscipline.com/) • Master Instructor Vicky Hepler (https://consciousdiscipline.com/professional-development/instructors/vicky-hepler/) • Webinars from the Field: Conflict Resolution and Assertiveness with Older Children with Kristin Abel (https://consciousdiscipline.com/e-learning/webinars/conflict-resolution-and-assertiveness/) • Article- Getting Over the Finish Line: Teaching Children to Use Their Big Voices (https://consciousdiscipline.com/getting-over-the-finish-line-with-big-voice/) Product Mentions • Creating the School Family (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/creating-the-school-family/) • Shubert’s BIG Voice (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/shuberts-big-voice/) • Sophie’s BIG Voice (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/sophies-big-voice/) • Shubert Visor (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/shubert-visor/) • Conflict Resolution Time Machine (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/conflict-resolution-time-machine/) Show Outline 0:20 What is Conscious Discipline? 1:15 Introduction of guest Vicky Hepler 2:20 Planting seeds of willingness for conflict resolution 3:12 Conflict happens all the time and is a teachable moment 5:30 Responding to tattling by teaching assertiveness (Big Voice) 9:30 Ideas for introducing conflict resolution to young children 11:12 Helping young children identify their triggers and how to respond 13:02 “Make your voice match mine” 14:59 Coaching in the moment 18:17 Celebrating when children use their Big Voice 19:44 What’s Becky up to? 20:33 What’s Becky celebrating? THANK YOU FOR LISTENING There are many ways you could have spent this time today, but you chose to spend it with me and I am grateful. If you enjoyed today’s show, please share it with others via your favorite social media platforms.
Dec 16, 2019
21 min
Healing After a Natural Disaster with Conscious Discipline
Conscious Discipline is both trauma-based and trauma-informed. It emphasizes optimal brain development for all children and adults, regardless of life experiences like chronic stress and trauma. There are three types of trauma: acute, chronic and complex. Acute trauma results from a singular instance, like a natural disaster. Alabama Pre-K teachers April Carr and Hillary Spratlin were faced with restoring safety after acute trauma when a major tornado struck the small community of Beauregard. Both teachers leaned on the powers and skills they had learned from Conscious Discipline to be of service, help children identify and regulate their emotions, and focus on empathy and helpfulness. In this podcast, April and Hillary share the steps they took to help young students and their families heal after a natural disaster. Read more about April’s experience with Conscious Discipline and restoring safety after a tornado in her article “My Conscious Discipline Journey: Taming Anxiety and Healing After a Natural Disaster” (https://consciousdiscipline.com/my-conscious-discipline-journey-taming-anxiety-and-healing-after-a-natural-disaster/). In the “Important Links” section below, access free resources mentioned in the podcast, including a social story and ritual plans for Safekeeping and Wish Well. Essential Takeaways • The goals of Conscious Discipline include helping children experience a felt sense of safety and authentic connection, teaching and modeling the executive skills needed to achieve goals despite obstacles and distractions, and empowering everyone to give and receive empathy. • Acute trauma results from a singular instance. Chronic trauma is repeated and prolonged, and complex trauma is exposure to varied and multiple traumatic events. • In times of stress or turmoil, being of service to others can help balance and regulate our internal state. • After experiencing a major tornado, April and Hillary utilized strategies like home visits, Feeling Buddies, heart cream, Wish Well, an expanded Safekeeper Ritual, and a focus on helpfulness and safety. Important Links • ConsciousDiscipline.com (https://consciousdiscipline.com/) • Teaching Missing Skills: The Power of Social Stories by Dr. Becky Bailey (https://consciousdiscipline.com/teaching-missing-skills-social-stories/) • Free Resource: I Can Handle Scared Social Story (https://consciousdiscipline.com/resources/i-can-handle-scared-english/) • Free Resource: Safekeeping Ritual Plan (https://consciousdiscipline.com/resources/safekeeping-ritual-plan/) • Free Resource: Wish Well Ritual Plan (https://consciousdiscipline.com/resources/wish-well-ritual-plan/) Product Mentions • CLASSROOM EDITION: Feeling Buddies Self-Regulation Toolkit (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/classroom-edition-feeling-buddies-self-regulation-toolkit-english-only/) • I Love You Rituals Value Pack (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/i-love-you-rituals-value-pack/) • S.T.A.R. Breathing Tool (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/s-t-a-r-breathing-tool/) • School Family Job Set (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/school-family-job-set/) Show Outline 0:21 What is Conscious Discipline? 0:50 Goals of Conscious Discipline 2:13 Three types of trauma 4:01 Introduction of guests April Carr and Hillary Spratlin 5:04 Conscious Discipline implementation in Alabama 6:40 How Conscious Discipline helped during and after a major tornado 11:03 “How can I be of service?” 12:25 April’s home visits after the tornado 17:13 Extended Safekeeper Ritual upon returning to school 22:26 How Hillary addressed the tornado with her students 26:36 Making “safety bags” 28:22 Focusing on helpfulness and being of service 32:23 What’s Becky up to? 34:13 What’s Becky celebrating?
Nov 18, 2019
36 min
Consequences vs. Punishments with High School Students
Effective consequences, rather than ineffective punishments, are embedded in Conscious Discipline. Unlike punishment, consequences teach children to solve problems, learn from mistakes, take responsibility and focus on learning a new skill. Understanding the logic behind choosing consequences instead of punishment is easy when we’re dealing with younger children. With older children, it becomes far more difficult. We believe, “They ought to know better by now.” In this episode, high school Social Studies teacher and Certified Instructor Steve Hummer shares how and why he uses consequences instead of punishments with his high school students. He also explains that he has found relationship-building and natural consequences to be far more effective than punishments, which often stigmatize children as bad and rarely deter them from repeating misbehavior. Learn alternative strategies to “punishment for the sake of punishment” that make a lasting positive difference with high school students. Essential Takeaways • In Conscious Discipline, consequences are everywhere, every day. The goal of Conscious Discipline is to learn from our mistakes, take responsibility for our actions, and be accountable for learning new skills that enhance our ability to live our highest values. • Synonyms for punishment include revenge, retaliation, and vengeance. Consequences, not punishments, are embedded in Conscious Discipline. • The fear of punishment inhibits our ability to self-regulate and almost guarantees that changes in behavior are impossible. • When students act out in the classroom, we can’t take it personally. Typically, there is something else going on. If we can determine what it is, we can help solve the problem and change the behavior. • When we engage in power struggles, we can’t solve the problem. If we remain calm, we can work together with the student to find a helpful solution and teach better strategies for the future. We can also teach them to calm and to build positive relationships with others. Important Links • ConsciousDiscipline.com (https://consciousdiscipline.com/) • Why Conscious Discipline Consequences Work and Punishments Don’t (https://consciousdiscipline.com/why-conscious-discipline-consequences-work/) •Conscious Discipline Certified Instructor Steve Hummer (https://consciousdiscipline.com/professional-development/instructors/steve-hummer/) Product Mentions • The NEW Conscious Discipline Book- Expanded and Updated (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/the-new-conscious-discipline-book-expanded-updated/) • Award-Winning Conscious Discipline E-Course (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/conscious-discipline-e-course-individual-registration-1-year/) Show Outline 00:18 What is Conscious Discipline? 00:41 Consequences vs. punishments with high school students 3:25 Impact of punishment and fear of punishment on the brain 5:14 Introduction of guest Steve Hummer 7:35 “Where are the consequences?” 11:30 Importance of logical consequences and problem-solving 12:14 Quit Taking It Personally 13:40 Effects of sending children out of the classroom 14:30 What you focus on, you get more of 16:02 Teaching students how to calm vs. power struggles 18:20 “I want you in the room” 20:05 Additional problems with escalating punishments 27:40 What’s Becky up to? 28:37 What’s Becky celebrating? THANK YOU FOR LISTENING There are many ways you could have spent this time today, but you chose to spend it with me and I am grateful. If you enjoyed today’s show, please share it with others via your favorite social media platforms.
Nov 2, 2019
29 min
Fostering Self-Regulation in Self-Contained Classrooms
Since Dr. Becky Bailey started Conscious Discipline more than 20 years ago, it has played an integral role in supporting the development of children with special needs. Core tenets like safety, connection, self-regulation and social skills development are vital for all children, but they are especially helpful for children with special needs. In this episode, Katie Keller, a school social worker in Minnesota, discusses how she uses Feeling Buddies and Baby Doll Circle Time to build important skills in self-contained classrooms. She shares the powerful results she’s observed, including an improved ability to calm and soothe, increased empathy, and gentler play and interactions in the classroom. Essential Takeaways • Children who are aggressive with peers and/or toys learn to be kind, loving, and gentle with the baby dolls during Baby Doll Circle Time. • Baby Doll Circle Time also allows children to experience or recreate the connections they may not have had when they were younger. • Children work toward goals like soft touch, fostering connections, and following directions. • With Feeling Buddies, children develop the ability to recognize and accept emotions. This helps with empathy and self-regulation. It reduces the time it takes children to work through their upsets. • If children are hesitant to participate in these activities, be patient and wait them out, letting them know that they’re safe and they can handle it. Add visuals. Gradually, children will begin to participate. Important Links • ConsciousDiscipline.com (https://consciousdiscipline.com/) • Feeling Buddies Self-Regulation Toolkit (https://consciousdiscipline.com/free- resources/shubert/shuberts-classroom/feeling-buddies-self-regulation-toolkit/) • Baby Doll Circle Time (https://consciousdiscipline.com/free-resources/shubert/sophies- classroom/baby-doll-circle-time/) • Webinar: Proven Success Strategies for Children with Special Needs (https://consciousdiscipline.com/proven-success-strategies-for-children-with-special-needs/) • Free Resource: Safe Place Sensory Integration Signs (https://consciousdiscipline.com/resources/safe-place-sensory-integration-signs/) Product Mentions • CLASSROOM EDITION: Feeling Buddies Self-Regulation Toolkit (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/classroom-edition-feeling-buddies-self-regulation-toolkit-english-only/) • CLASSROOM EDITION: Feeling Buddies Self-Regulation Deluxe Toolkit, Bilingual (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/classroom-edition-feeling-buddies-self-regulation-toolkit-english-spanish/) • Baby Doll Circle Time Value Pack (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/baby-doll-circle- time-value-pack/) • El Círculo de los Bebés Paquete Especial (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/el-circulo-de- los-bebes-paquete-especial/) • HOME EDITION: Feeling Buddies for Families Toolkit (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/home-edition-feeling-buddies-for-families-toolkit/) Show Outline 0:20 What is Conscious Discipline? 0:50 Background on implementing Conscious Discipline with children with special needs 2:41 Introduction of guest Katie Keller 3:15 How Katie uses Baby Doll Circle Time and Feeling Buddies 3:50 Baby Doll Circle Time in a self-contained classroom 5:08 Results of using Baby Doll Circle Time 6:38 Feeling Buddies in a self-contained classroom 9:12 Results of using Feeling Buddies 10:50 Combining Baby Doll Circle Time with Feeling Buddies 13:30 Summary of results and advice for others 16:15 What’s Becky up to? 17:06 What’s Becky celebrating? THANK YOU FOR LISTENING There are many ways you could have spent this time today, but you chose to spend it with me and I am grateful. If you enjoyed today’s show, please share it with others via your favorite social media platforms.
Oct 21, 2019
17 min
Conscious Discipline Implementation at a Migrant Head Start Program
Migrant farmworkers in the United States face many unique challenges. They earn an average total income of $15,000-$17,500 while working 10-12 hours a day for six days a week. Due to these long hours, parents have little quality time to spend with their children. They are exposed to toxic pesticides and often exploited. Migrant farmworkers are also transient, moving from place to place and often living in substandard conditions. Naturally, working with these families and their children presents unique challenges as well. Dr. Becky Bailey sat down with Gilda Gonzalez, the program coordinator for the Riverside County Office of Education Migrant Head Start in El Centro, California to discuss how Conscious Discipline can help address these issues. Listen in to learn about the challenges Gilda sees daily, how she’s working to implement Conscious Discipline, and why she calls it “a transformational program that works.” Essential Takeaways • The Migrant Head Start program sees children responding to stress with aggression and withdrawal. Classrooms implementing Conscious Discipline have noted reductions in these behaviors. They write fewer referrals and make fewer phone calls to parents about challenging behaviors. • The program is starting slowly with Conscious Discipline, training teachers and implementing deep breathing, greetings, and goodbyes. Some teachers have chosen to go above and beyond. • Gilda’s program also uses the Conscious Discipline Parent Education Curriculum. Because parents are so busy, they incorporate some of the activities during home visits. The parents enjoy the curriculum and have requested more. • Although academics are important, Gilda has found the social emotional piece to be even more significant. It has made a difference in her personal life and in the lives of children, families, and staff. Important Links • ConsciousDiscipline.com (https://consciousdiscipline.com/) • Professional Development (https://consciousdiscipline.com/professionaldevelopment/) • Conscious Discipline Parent Education Curriculum Results Published in Peer Reviewed Journal (https://consciousdiscipline.com/conscious-discipline-parent-education-curriculum-results-published-in-peer-reviewed-journal/) Product Mentions • Greeting Apron (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/greeting-apron/) • Standard Parent Education Pack (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/standard-parent-education-pack/) • Award-Winning Conscious Discipline E-Course: Building Resilient Schools and Homes (https://consciousdiscipline.com/e-learning/online-courses/) • Creating the School Family (https://consciousdiscipline.com/product/creating-the-school-family/) Show Outline 0:21 What is Conscious Discipline? 0:52 Migrant Head Start programs and the lives of migrant farmworkers 5:07 Introduction of guest Gilda Gonzalez 6:03 Information about Gilda’s Migrant Head Start program 6:58 Challenges faced in the program 8:52 Implementing Conscious Discipline 10:40 Parent Education Curriculum 12:48 Results of Conscious Discipline implementation 14:41 Favorite success stories 17:30 Importance of social emotional learning 19:24 What’s Becky up to? 19:51 What’s Becky celebrating? THANK YOU FOR LISTENING There are many ways you could have spent this time today, but you chose to spend it with me and I am grateful. If you enjoyed today’s show, please share it with others via your favorite social media platforms.
Oct 4, 2019
20 min
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