Real Feels
Real Feels
Brad Gage
In a society where we are constantly re-defining what it means to be a man, Brad Gage brings you a podcast that asks guests to be vulnerable about masculinity and gender issues - looking at who they are now, who they aim to be, and the space in-between.
A Male Platonic Friendship "Dating" App with Marc Milberg of Olley
Host Brad Gage talks to Marc Milberg - founder of Olley, an app for men to connect with new friends in their area based on personality, interests, & more. Basically what they’ve built is a friendship-finding app that functions similarly to dating apps, but it’s all platonic. Studies show that in 2021, 15% of men reported having no close friends, compared to only 3% in 1990. This is a fivefold increase since 1990. Especially for anyone who just recently moved to a new city, finding male friends is not easy, so there is a clear need for something like this.  Here is Marc Milberg’s explanation for why the world needs the Olley app, and how he and Brad may have just made ourselves friends IRL in the process of this podcast. Download Olley: www.olleyapp.io Hosted, Edited, and Produced by Brad Gage Logo by Nolan Fabricius Theme Song by Russell Henson
Oct 18, 2023
28 min
Patriarchy Blues and Intersectionality with author Fred Joseph
Brad talks to 2 time New York Times bestselling author Frederick Joseph about intersectional feminism, how people can be both oppressed and privileged at the same time, why he could beat Joe Rogan’s ass. Plus, they dive into the historical idea of women seen as property. Fred has written the sometimes-banned books "The Black Friend" and "Patriarchy Blues", as well as "Better Than We Found It" and "Black Panther: Wakanda Forever - The Courage to Dream".  On this episode, Brad got to do something few people have done - talk with one of their favorite authors about specific passages of one of their favorite books. Fred's Substack: https://frederickjoseph.substack.com/ Hosted and Produced by Brad Gage Logo by Nolan Fabricius Theme Song by Russell Henson
Oct 3, 2023
35 min
Men's Dating Coaches and the Modern Manosphere with Michael Le
Brad talks to Michael Le (aka "Dr. Silk"), a men's coach, about how conversational artistry is pretty much the most important thing in talking to women. Michael talks about his emphasis on empathy, curiosity, and listening when it comes to engaging with women, or anybody successfully. Brad's past episode about Pickup Artists and YouTube Dating Coaches caught Michael's attention, and the two talk about thoughtful, modern tactics in dating, as well as an explaination of the Andrew Tate phenomenon, MGTOW (men going their own way), and "black pill" mentalities. Michael's Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@realmrsilk Hosted and Produced by Brad Gage Logo by Nolan Fabricius Theme Song by Russell Henson
Jul 21, 2023
34 min
Millennial and Gen X Talk About Masculinity and Addiction - with Tom Matlack
Brad talks to writer, entrepreneur, and guy who helps men get sober - Tom Matlack. Tom is one of the authors of the book The Good Men Project: Real Stories from the Front Lines of Modern Manhood and you should definitely check out his writing by searching his name in Substack. What starts as a conversation of masculinity perspectives from a millennial guy versus a Gen X dude, turns into a deep assessment of life as a recovering alcoholic and money-obsessed individual. I’m so grateful to Tom for being so vulnerable, and zeroing in on why the dream of success and money is never really the answer to our inner troubles. Tom's Substack: https://substack.com/profile/7575118-tom-matlack Hosted and Produced by Brad Gage Logo by Nolan Fabricius Theme Song by Russell Henson
May 24, 2023
32 min
The Lie That Self-Objectification is Empowering with Dr. Caroline Heldman
On today’s episode, Brad is talking to Dr. Caroline Heldman - a professor of Critical Theory and Social Justice at Occidental College in Los Angeles. She is also Executive Director of The Representation Project and has been featured in some of the most important documentaries on the subject of gender studies including Miss Representation and The Mask You Live In. Caroline is a friend who has been instrumental in guiding Brad through his journey of exploration on the subjects of modern masculinity, rape culture, gender equity, and intersectional feminism. Basically, if Brad am ever confused about what to do or who to talk to about a certain subject, he's lucky to be able to reach out to Caroline. Today, we are chatting about the topics in her new book: The Sexy Lie - which is an update and deeper dive on her viral TED talk of the same name. If you are interested in getting the book, there’s a link in the description or you can go to https://www.sororitymansion.org/books Hosted and Produced by Brad Gage Logo by Nolan Fabricius Theme Song by Russell Henson  
Mar 29, 2023
31 min
Saying the Things Men Aren't Supposed to Say
I think a lot of guys feel the exact same way as me. So why don't they talk about it openly? Because the patriarchy and modern masculinity tell us that if we do, we're breaking the bro code and we are the worst thing imaginable - feminine. But it's not gendered to feel emotions, it's human. Written and Hosted and Edited by Brad Gage Subscribe for more conversations around modern masculinity and the inner lives of men.
Mar 22, 2023
3 min
How I Stopped Watching Tubesite Porn
Research shows that tubesite porn use is leading men to be less engaged in real relationships, have more erectile dysfunction, and have less motivation to make human connections. Plus, the main porn industry is fraught with abuse and inequity. This is not a deep dive about the injustices of porn, while there are many. This is a practical, reasonable guide for guys who want to ween off of a genuine compulsion. Written and Hosted and Edited by Brad Gage Subscribe for more conversations around modern masculinity and the inner lives of men.
Mar 15, 2023
5 min
The Importance of Male Friendship
Guys, for the sake of your health, check in on the men in your life. Lean into the camaraderie you have in your community. And if you don’t have it, be brave and do the work to go get them. At least making male friendship connections should be a little less hard than dating. Written and Hosted and Edited by Brad Gage Subscribe for more conversations around modern masculinity and the inner lives of men.
Mar 9, 2023
4 min
How Prisoners Taught Me Feminism
This is a story about a group of the most traditionally masculine men possible - convicts, felons, and murderers - talking about feminism. Brad was inspired by the documentary "The Feminist on Cell Block Y" about program that helps teach prisoners about toxic masculinity, patriarchy, and how they can reach their personal goals in healthier ways. The film is a testament to rehabilitation, education, and how love within a community can heal the wounds we have within ourselves. Written and Hosted and Edited by Brad Gage Subscribe for more conversations around modern masculinity and the inner lives of men.
Jan 11, 2023
7 min
Why I Won't Watch HBO's Euphoria
Euphoria is a groundbreaking TV series in a lot of ways, but it wasn’t until I understood how the show sexualizes teenagers that I realized why I had always felt uncomfortable at the idea of watching it. I explain how much the things we watch actually affect our view of the world, and why images of sexy teens can be harmful. Written, Produced, Edited, and Hosted by Brad Gage READ the Jessica Valenti piece "The Euphoria Problem" https://jessica.substack.com/p/the-euphoria-problem?s=r
Jan 5, 2023
6 min
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