Learn more about Weekend Getaway Marriage Conferences. The Summer Special, on until July 18th, gets you $180 Off of registration. It's the lowest rate they offer all year.Welcome to episode #162! This week, Matt and Braden talk about why we need to to have a better strategy than just "bouncing our eyes" when it comes to battling lust.Bouncing your eyes is only a temporary strategyWhen we are building new and good habits and breaking the bad patterns with addiction, bouncing our eyes away from images or people we are struggling with lustful thoughts about, can be a temporary way to deal with our triggers. However it cant be a long term-strategy as it is only a surface level behaviour. We need to do the work of going deeper and allow God to heal our hearts. The goal is to see people the way Jesus does and to show love to others. We need to see people the way Jesus does and when we do, we aren't enslaved to lust, but captivated in God's love for others.We cant blame lust on othersLust is when we devour another persons beauty or when we are fixated on people being objects to be used for selfish purposes. It is okay to find people attractive, as God has wired us to recognize beauty. But it becomes a problem when we make the choice to fantasize about people, or to see people as a piece of meat and nothing more. One of the things we need to learn to do, is to not blame others for our "lust problem", as we have a choice in every circumstance. Otherwise we are enslaved to others and whether they are dressed inappropriately or not. That isn't to say we aren't careful and cautious about being in situations we know we can be compromised in, but that we cant bank on every circumstance going our way. We will encounter people that are attractive, people that dress inappropriately, and images that are tempting. But we have a choice in those moments, and as God works in our hearts, we can be content in His love for us and not longing for the sin that we once knew.  Share this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! Watch the podcast on YouTube here.ResourcesPure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for men and womenBook a FREE call (men)Course for marriagesFamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageOnline marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days freePodcast HostsBRADEN HAFNERBraden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.comMATT CLINEMatt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca. Learn more about Weekend Getaway Marriage Conferences. The Summer Special, on until July 18th, gets you $180 Off of registration. It's the lowest rate they offer all year.

Learn more about Weekend Getaway Marriage Conferences. The Summer Special, on until July 18th, gets you $180 Off of registration. It's the lowest rate they offer all year.Ask a questionHave a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to [email protected] or [email protected] this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! Watch the podcast on YouTube here.ResourcesPure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for men and womenBook a FREE call (men)Course for marriagesFamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageOnline marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days freePodcast HostsBRADEN HAFNERBraden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 15 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.comMATT CLINEMatt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca. Learn more about Weekend Getaway Marriage Conferences. The Summer Special, on until July 18th, gets you $180 Off of registration. It's the lowest rate they offer all year.

Mary Derkson lets us in on some of the struggles women face while addicted to an issue that culture mostly deems a male problem.

In this week's episode, Braden and Matt discuss the importance of doing accountability properly so that it can be a powerful tool in breaking free from a porn addiction! They'll work through four pro-tips for how to do powerful accountability well.

Matt and Braden discuss the lies we believe when we are battling a porn addiction. Whether it is lies about our identity, our relationships, or about the battle we are in, these lies are destructive and keep us stuck. In this episode, the lies will be exposed for what they are and you'll learn the powerful truths that can set us free!

Pure Victory Podcast co-host Matt Cline quit porn for years, but then fell right back in. He shares what he learned through relapsing and why he now doesn't fear slipping again in the future! If you wonder if you can ever get truly free, you need to listen in!

Global porn use is up more than 11% during the COVID-19 pandemic. This week's podcast is full of keys to conquer porn during the quarantine and set yourself up for victory when social distancing is a thing of the past.

Learn more about Weekend Getaway Marriage Conferences. The Summer Special, on until July 18th, gets you $180 Off of registration. It's the lowest rate they offer all year.Welcome to episode #207! This week, Matt and Braden talk with Nadine Crain about purity culture, what it is, how to address it and how to discuss purity and sexuality with your kids and within the church. What is “purity culture”?Purity culture came about in the ‘90’s when the “true love waits” movement happened. It was created in response to raising statistics of teenage pregnancies. Sex education in schools was not what the churches were wanting, so they were pushing the “true love waits” teaching. It was reactionary, but was coming from a good place of wanting to lead youth to how they can follow God and not fall into sin. Unfortunately, it became very black and white - if you stay pure, you are blessed, and if not, your worth suffers. It’s so focused on behaviour and shame and not based on the grace of God. So while there are good attributes to the movement, it has left a lot of people who grew up with it full of shame when they "mess up" and even when they don't, they get to marriage with no concept of how to have a healthy sex life. We need to approach purity from a theological standpoint. Purity has been associated with sex and marriage rather than being in God’s presence. Purity is meant for us to be in God’s presence. Nothing that we do will undo what Jesus did to get us into God’s presence. Having this understanding takes a lot of pressure off of wondering if we can approach God after we’ve messed up. God cleanses us, not anything we do. When looking at purity culture as staying away from sex until marriage and never addressing it until you say ‘I do’ leaves us unequipped to deal with sex in marriage. It’s important to find the middle ground between “don’t have sex” and “do whatever you want”. That middle ground is found in the conversations. Parents, leaders and teachers need to be open to the curious questions that teens and young people will have and be a person that they are comfortable to approach. Gauge the appropriateness of the age but keep the conversation open so when they are at the age to start dating it's more than just the “one sex talk”. Parents and leaders’ job is to guide to help them make wise decisions and be informed and equipped to make the decisions. By building up the theological explanations in your kids, then they will have what they need. It will help them develop in their relationship with God and can help them on the right path or find it again if they veer off. Ask a questionHave a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to [email protected] or [email protected] this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! Watch the podcast on YouTube here.ResourcesAnatomy for Kids by Shelly Mettenwww.nadinecrain.com to connect with Nadine Crain Pure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for men and womenBook a FREE call (men)Course for marriagesFamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageOnline marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days freePodcast HostsBRADEN HAFNERBraden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.comMATT CLINEMatt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca. Learn more about Weekend Getaway Marriage Conferences. The Summer Special, on until July 18th, gets you $180 Off of registration. It's the lowest rate they offer all year.

Learn more about Weekend Getaway Marriage Conferences. The Summer Special, on until July 18th, gets you $180 Off of registration. It's the lowest rate they offer all year.Welcome to episode #211! This week, Matt and Braden talk about changing our mindset to help find freedom from porn. Challenging lies we believe is uncomfortable. Often it’s the foundation we’ve built and we are standing on. We find comfort in it, even if it’s a shaky ground. We find that we would rather be on the shaky ground than on the firm foundation - where God is calling us to. We have to break the mindset of “I don’t think I’ll ever be free”. We tell ourselves that we can’t do something, even when we are already in the midst of doing it. But we need to tell ourselves we can, and allow our body to relax and let God pull you. We need to let the grace of God replace the vice in our life. 1 Corinthians tells us that because of the grace of God, we have been enriched in every way. Within the context of our sexual sin, God’s grace can empower us and pull us and be the water we rest on. We need to pursue peace and be empowered by the grace of God instead of empowered by our own performance of how long we can be free from a behaviour. The difference is not the capability, it’s the mindset. When Matt succeeded on the wakeboard, it wasn’t because he had a miraculous skill set that appeared ten minutes after he had failed. When it comes to sexual sin, we all have the same capabilities to find freedom, because the ability is within the Holy Spirit. We need to make sure we have the right mindset. When we are focused on our stress and our anxiety, we are tense. When we are focused on the presence of God and the Holy Spirit, we find peace and freedom. Ask a questionHave a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to [email protected] or [email protected] this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! Watch the podcast on YouTube here.ResourcesPure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for men and womenBook a FREE call (men)Course for marriagesFamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageOnline marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days freePodcast HostsBRADEN HAFNERBraden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.comMATT CLINEMatt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca. Learn more about Weekend Getaway Marriage Conferences. The Summer Special, on until July 18th, gets you $180 Off of registration. It's the lowest rate they offer all year.

Learn more about Weekend Getaway Marriage Conferences. The Summer Special, on until July 18th, gets you $180 Off of registration. It's the lowest rate they offer all year.Welcome to episode #210! This week, Matt and Braden talk about the connection between financial things and sexual immorality. We are given the choice between life & death, between blessing and cursing. God implores us to choose life. There is no grey area. When we are not walking with God and walking in sin, there will be physical and spiritual ramifications. Choosing life and walking in the ways of the Lord brings blessings - both spiritual and physical. Take a look at the blessings and curses. If you take a look at the second order of consequences to having sexual sin in your life, it will help you realize where your heart is at so that you can be transparent. Our life has a lot of webs that are linked and we often don’t see how the choices in one area can impact another area. We tend to compartmentalize our life and miss those links. Transparency is the first step. We need to be transparent with God and others. If we feel we can’t pray, ask others to intercede for you. Be honest with God with where you’re at. Jean had to admit to God that he loved the sin but didn’t like the curses that came with it and had to ask for help to overcome and let go of it before he could work at getting free. That is when God showed up for him.Ask a questionHave a question you'd like answered live on an episode? Send a voice recording of your question to [email protected] or [email protected] this with your friendsWho do you know that can benefit from this podcast and other episodes coming in the future? Share it with them so they can subscribe as well.SubscribeSubscribe on any podcast app to make sure you catch new episodes! Watch the podcast on YouTube here.Resourceshttps://www.jeanlouishardy.com/Pure Freedom Community for men 18+Pure Freedom Journey for men and womenBook a FREE call (men)Course for marriagesFamilyLife Canada: Resources and events to strengthen your marriageOnline marriage resources (FamilyLife Canada)Covenant Eyes Accountability Software - use promo code RM30 for 30 days freePodcast HostsBRADEN HAFNERBraden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.comMATT CLINEMatt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca. Learn more about Weekend Getaway Marriage Conferences. The Summer Special, on until July 18th, gets you $180 Off of registration. It's the lowest rate they offer all year.