"I'm over it." "I give up!" "I have no idea what I'm doing, so I make it worse." "I can't keep doing this." "They're killing me." "I'm just avoiding them until they move out." "I just want to run away/disappear/hide all day..." Its burnout, and there's a logical explanation and fix for it.  Raising kids is so wonderful and terrible and the best opportunity to grow ourselves. And sometimes we're ready for it to be over. Listen in as I shed some light on what's going on. You're not alone and it's not a lost cause. Things can get better... and before they move out. To learn more about parenting, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

We've heard words like enmeshment or codependency within a peer to peer relationship, but did you know that they can also be at play with us and our teens? It messes with us when they don't want to play along with our ideas of what the family should be like, or how they should lead their lives.  When we misattribute who's responsible for creating our feelings and who needs to change before they can be resolved, what can already be difficulties get 10x bigger. Add fuel to the fire, no more! In today's episode I talk about a couple of key ways to be a cohesive, interdependent family. One that's emotionally intelligent. So that you can deescalate situations with love, rather than melting down. xoxo Here's the course I mention, Family Connection Design Course, in this episode. To learn more about parenting your teen, visit me at Heatherfrazier.comhttps://heatherfrazier.com/

  "You can have it all", we're told, as if it were the best prize ever. So we shoot for it and try to hold all the balls in the air and beat ourselves up when we discover that it's hard to live up to society's standards. Today, Monica and I talk about perfectionism in our parenting, how it affects our kids, how to identify unhealthy tendencies in our kids, and when they point out our mistakes. (Sometimes in very harsh ways).  Our approach to such struggles makes all the difference in our level of parenting happiness, and today's episode will help you pivot where you may not have even seen needs. xoxo To learn more about parenting your teen, visit me at heatherfrazier.com About my guest: My name is Monica Packer. I'm a recovering perfectionist, podcaster, and Progress Coach. I save women from themselves, by helping them ditch perfectionism, step into their gifts, and move towards real progress. Welcome to a community who knows life is about progress, not perfection!  To get Monica's free value exercise, click HERE You can also find Monica at her website and instagram @aboutprogress

Okay, in today's episode I keep it real with the fact that sometimes we just want to be on vaca, far from everyone... including our kids. (Ohh! I said it. And without feeling any mom guilt or shame, to boot.) We all have human monents, and I'm here to normalize that fact. So sit back, push play, and prepare to feel better about not loving parenting your kids every second of every day- no guilt attached. It's possible, and even ideal, as the end result is being a better parent.  To get my 4 simple strategies on how to negotiate phone rules, curfews, chores, cars, etc.. with your teen, click HERE.  To learn more about parenting your teen, visit me at heatherfrazier.com  

Lying, vaping, cussing, fighting, and being obnoxious in class. Parents get a call or email from their teens' teachers and the shame sets in. Gossiping, bullying, and causing neighborhood backlash and you want to hide under a rock.  Our teens do stuff that we don't appreciate and we try everything to get them to knock it off. Yet they persist. Good news, your kid isn't bad and you aren't a terrible parent. Listen in as I teach you what to focus on that will make the difference, break down the three reasons why our kids do the things they do, and the best perspective to love and teach them.  If your kid is the one causing the problems, I love you and this episode is for you. xoxo To learn more about parenting your teen, visit me at heatherfrazier.com  

Having heard it all- a few times over, there are repeat parenting offenders that never end well when you're trying to parent your teens. Listen in as I outline ten of the most popular such as contempt, control, and power struggles. Also, these ten common pain points often come up when trying to negotiate things like phone rules, curfews, dating, and other points which parents and teens need some kind of understanding... and so I've got the perfect cheat sheet to easily navigate these rough waters. You can get the PDF here.  To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com    

Do you have a hard time knowing what is true? You're not alone. We tend to not want to see what IS, our brains spin tails about future truths, and others project thier judgments on us like truths. All the while, we parents are trying to love and teach our kids the best we can. With so much confusion, it's easy to not know which end is up when it comes to truth, even when we are interenested in knowing what it is.  Listen in as I teach about the two kinds of truths, how to use truth to benefit your parenting, and why knowing the difference matters. xoxo To learn how to better negotiate with your teen, click here for a free PDF on 4 practical strategies. To learn more about parenting your teen, come visit me at heatherfrazier.com  

What do you think about being selfish? In todays episode, I outline the two ways we can be a selfish parent and where each one leads. I also outline five key pieces of how "selfish" plays out in ideal parenting.  Don't worry, you're not going to feel bad about about the time you spend sitting in your car or needing a break every once in awhile- I've got a fresh persepective for you that will help your good parenting be easier to sustain and understanding that will foster emotional maturity in all directions. xoxo To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com 

"shhhhh. Don't talk aobut what is difficult for your family right now." (Except that this is my favorite thing to talk about.) Far too many parents believe the misconception that it's a bad thing to show your struggles. We've been handed down the unhelpful tradition of silence through our family or culture. While updating social media on your teen vaping may not be the answer, neither is keeping all your struggles to yourself.  Our parenting pain needs to see the light of day to heal. This means getting the proper help, love and support in safe circles. So why do so many parents think it's an act of betrayal or weakness to so? Listen in as I outline the two most common reasons. xoxo To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com

Anxiety is currently a buzzword, and for good reason. It wreaks havoc for our kids, thus for us as their parents. We often experience it as well.  It’s easy to feel helpless against the crush of anxiety, but that doesn’t have to be the case any longer. In todays episode of Pivot Parenting, I talk with the anxiety coaching expert, Jill Freestone We talk about the kinds of anxiety, how they present, how we can help our kids through it and every other question on anxiety that you’ve been worrying about. You don’t have to watch your teen reeling while you sit helpless any longer. xoxo To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com About my guest: As a life coach, Jill Freestone  focuses on helping teens and adults handle anxiety and big emotions. Jill has additional training in anxiety, emotions, relationships, mindfulness, meditation, trauma, somatic processing and much more. She loves her work, but her happy place is in the outdoors. She is an avid hiker, biker, and outdoor adventurer. She is the mother of three amazing daughters and wife to an incredibly smart and handsome husband, whom she adores especially because he was willing to write this bio. You can find Jill here: Website:  https://jillfreestone.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jillfreestonecoaching/ 5 Lies of Anxiety PDF to help you stop suffering from Anxiety: https://jillfreestone.com/anxiety-five-lies/ podcasts: https://jillfreestone.com/podcasts/