Anxiety and Dating, why are we so anxious around dating?  When we find ourselves in a position in our lives and we are dating again, putting ourselves out there. Why is it a feeling of dread? Why is it not something that we can look forward to? It's not like we haven't done it before (before our marriages or long-term relationship). Dating is natural, otherwise we wouldn't have found ourselves in a long-term relationship.  So why do we get ourselves into such a state, to the point of Anxiety.  What are we telling ourselves about dating and how can we change this? If we have suffered bad experiences in our history we can bring these scars into new relationship, but how constructive is this? If our aim is to move forward, how will bringing in old scars achieve a healthy relationship going forward?  We all have wounds from our past, but they don't have to define our future. Its working out how to leave these in our past and work towards a healthy, happy future with someone new. This is possible, we just have to establish how to let go of the past. Release the thoughts that are creating the Anxiety, let go and be happy! This affects so many people and therefore I wanted to share with you the wonderful knowledge of Donna Reynolds. Having gone through Divorce herself  and started to re-discover herself. She became that girl again, the girl who wants to help others.  Going through the stress of Divorce and experiencing Anxiety and Panic Attacks, she felt she really wanted to help other people who are having a similar experience or are suffering from Anxiety for their own reasons. She lives by the mantra “when we change the way we look at things the things we look at change” by Dr Wayne Dyer.To find out more about Donna Reynolds, please visit:https://donnareynolds.co.uk/

How To Embrace Vulnerability As Your Greatest Strength“Vulnerability is not winning or losing; it’s having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome. Vulnerability is not weakness; it’s our greatest measure of courage,” affirms research professor and author Brené Brown in Rising Strong.” Brené Brown is a researcher, author and storyteller who’s spent the past two decades studying courage, vulnerability, shame, and empathy.What do you associate with the term vulnerability?Perhaps it’s weakness, fear, hurt or betrayal.These are the deep-seated emotions people experience when they reveal aspects of themselves to others. Vulnerability is not a sign of weakness and can be your greatest strength.Vulnerability is a double-edged sword. Those who protect themselves to avoid getting hurt, fail to appreciate intimacy and close relationships.Everyone is vulnerable, no matter how much they try to avoid it. We are born vulnerable and stay that way for our entire childhood. Our relationship with vulnerability is something we are acquainted with, yet abandon as we merge into adulthood.Your association with vulnerability requires a shift in awareness in order to strengthen your emotional well-being.As the owner of Pi Society, I decided that we needed to explore the subject in more detail as vulnerability is a huge subject when it comes to dating. My guest today is Dr Vikki Barnes. Dr Vikki Barnes is a Consultant Clinical Psychologist and international speaker, specialising in Positive Psychology and Happiness. She is the founder of Positive Wellbeing, a business that supports the mental health of individuals and organisations, enabling them to flourish.  For over 10 years, Vikki has worked in the NHS and Virgin, in both clinical and strategic roles, offering assessment, therapeutic intervention, consultation and evaluation, and embedding positive psychology into the ethos of organisational structure. She designed and led a national wellbeing programme, training a team of wellbeing ambassadors to ensure long lasting impact, with outstanding results.  Vikki’s particular passions include authenticity, wellbeing of people and wellbeing of the planet and she has written a book about these topics entitled Free Happiness! To find out more about Vikki, please do visit:Positive Wellbeing (drvikkibarnes.com)For a copy of her amazing book:Free Happiness: The art and science of positivity: Amazon.co.uk: Barnes, Dr Vikki: 9798526546591: Books

Have you ever noticed you date the same kind of person over and over again? This might not be your imagination or coincidence. It could be Attachment Theory at work, which says we each have a specific attachment style.We connect to the people around us. We attach to parents, partners, kids, and friends.Research has found we typically have an attachment style – we connect with people in the same pattern over and over again.Our attachment style can be a scary predictor of our relationship success. Our patterns of attachment typically are set in childhood and tend to follow us around wherever we go.How you learn about relationships drives your thoughts, emotions and decisions, creating what of people you attract in life! As the owner of Pi Society, I decided that we needed to explore the subject in more detail as confidence is a huge asset to have when we are dating. My guest today is John Kenny. John has worked with thousands of clients for well over a decade, firstly as a counsellor and since 2012 as a Coach. Since 2016 John has focused on relationships as they influence your life in so many ways. It was his unhealthy relationship with himself that led to him to having continuous painful and unhealthy relationships and self-sabotage!As a counsellor he has learnt a lot about himself, but realised that he hadn’t moved on despite what he knew. He embarked on a new career into coaching once he realised how this can help to make positive changes.The understanding he has gained on his journey, all the study that went alongside it and personal change has led him to be able to work with clients to understand themselves and others, live with confidence and experience the best relationships possible what you want has become his passion in life.

Most people think that confidence is innate, something you are born with. In fact the opposite is true. Confidence is born out of necessity, life experience and the realisation that without it you will not be heard. In other words it is a quality that we learn to develop over time as we discover how fundamental it is to success in all areas of our lives.Take a minute to picture some scales with confidence on one side and fear on the other. When we put weight behind fear we act out of fear and we become stressed and rushed. We often end up making poor decisions approached from a position of lack, limitation and being closed off to potential.When the scales are tipped towards confidence we are in our power, calm, open to choices, potential and learning and become a safe pair of hands that others turn to for leadership.As the owner of Pi Society, I decided that we needed to explore the subject in more detail as confidence is a huge asset to have when we are dating. My guest today is Ellie Louis.  I connected with Ellie who had recently moved to North Devon. Ellie contacted us, after I was interviewed on Spotlight and said that Pi Society was just what people needed who had just relocated and wanted to build up a local social life whilst being single. We chatted and I found out about her story, which was incredibly inspiring and she told me what she does today which enthused me to ask Ellie to talk today.Her mission and the purpose of her business is to take people out of their fear and into their confidence. She does this through leadership and public speaking courses that she tailors to the needs of the businesses that she works with.The measurable results for her clients is in employee well-being, compassionate leadership and highly creative and productive teams no longer held back by communication drag.Links through the podcast.Chris Hadfield TED Talk Via Institute for personal strengths  Link to the exclusive Pi Society Confident Speakers Course Ellie is offering an exclusive Confident Speakers course for Pi Society members only at a huge discount from £1000 per person to £399. Full details 

Have you been called too direct, too pushy, too aggressive?Getting called these things gets old. You work hard and you feel like it is not appreciated. It is time to be respected and loved for who you are. Strategic planning is your specialty, but it is failing miserably in the relationship game.At work, you know how to line things up, how to strategically plan, but in relationships, this doesn’t seem to be working. Isn’t it time to learn a new way of manifesting love? Do you feel like something is missing in your life and you don't know what it is or what to do about it?You are at the top of your game in your professional life, but there still is something missing and you can’t pinpoint it. Are you ready to get the most out of life, both at work and in your relationships? Are you living to work instead of working to live?It’s time to live life to the fullest. Manifest your full potential through a new way of looking at life, listening, and learning. My guest today is the most amazing, Mariquita Solis –Mariquita Solis is a Joyful Relationship Coach who specializes in Feminine Empowerment to transform the lives of her clients. Mariquita spent many years in self sabotaging relationships that were detrimental to her health and self esteem.  Her mantra, “What is wrong with me?” has been replaced with “What is right with me?”  She spent more than 40 years in battle with herself working to silence her inner voice and power. Going from failed relationship to failed relationship, she wore her battle scars like badges of honor and let them inhibit love in the next relationship.  She fell into patterns of living her life for others and putting her needs last. It was not until she acknowledged the cries of her inner child that her life changed.Mariquita has always known that helping others is the gift the Universe bestowed on her. Her life is guided by her divine, power center as she lives in alignment with her calling. Today, she uses her deep wisdom combined with her training in Feminine Empowerment Transformational Coaching and Greaterness Coaching to transform the lives of her clients.If you’re in need of some advice please do visit Mariquita Solis’s website where you can find details:I would like to offer your listeners a Free "Bring Back the Joy Session" to gain clarity on what needs to shift in their life to get the love and relationship that they deserve. Mariquita Solis – Joyful Relationship Coach Specializing in Feminine Empowerment

How Mindfulness can help you find a Healthy Love that LastsAre you sick of getting stuck in the same old dysfunctional relationship patterns?  When you look back over your past relationships do you see patterns? Whether it’s being drawn to bad boys, ending up with narcissists or falling for someone who needs looking after, it’s not unusual for us to end up in the same kind of toxic relationships again and again. So how do you break the pattern? Many couples push relationship distresses under the rug without resolution and find much later that they are unable to recover from these festering sorrows. Identifying and exploring these typical relationship damagers might have helped. Had the partners recognized them as they were occurring, they might have had a different perspective and learned some new ways to cope before it was too late. By understanding what their dysfunctional patterns are, couples can strive to overcome them.My guest today is the most amazing, Lauren SmithLauren is a full-time designer and author based in New Jersey. An example of a typical millennial dater, she has spent years researching and growing through bad breakups to blaze a Mindful Dating path for other self-aware daters.Mindful Online Dating TipsBe authentic in your descriptions: Be clear about what you want and don’t want early on, and avoid lying or embellishing.Take recent photos, skip the filters. You were born beautiful!Don’t message for too long before meeting, otherwise you risk developing an ideal or fantasy image of the person.Save yourself time by calling them on the phone (or video chat) at least once before the physical date. This will rule out any obvious incompatibilities as early as possible.Be clear about your expectations before and after the date, as far as how far you're willing to drive, any budget limitations, or any sexual boundaries.Dating more than one person at a time can prevent you from getting too attached to someone before properly vetting them.Be respectful when breaking it off with someone. And definitely don't ghost!If you would like to find our more about Lauren and how to access her journal, please do visit:  https://mindfuldatingjournal.com/ 

Do you feel like you are stuck?You feel confident in your career. It’s not always been easy, but you’ve got the creativity, leadership, determination and discipline to make it happen.When it comes to relationships you still struggle.Perhaps you’ve been single for way too long. You start and stop relationships that never last that long or feel that good. Or you find yourself repeating the same negative patterns over and over again in the relationship that you are in. And you’re tired of occasional, empty sex that leaves you feeling even more empty and alone than before. You know you want a true partner. Someone that loves and accepts you for exactly who you are. You feel safe in their arms. And who also challenges you – to be more of yourself. To have adventures. Someone there for the long-run.Andrea is a certified Sex, Love and Relationships Coach. Before becoming a coach, she worked as an innovator, global award-winning digital strategist and designer in the corporate world. Learn what the next right step for you is to get the love you want, connect with Andrea at  https://www.lushcoaching.com/ 

No matter the challenges of your life whether you are dealing with anxiety, poor sleep, stress, weight control, depression or any other problems, your reality is only just one thought away from becoming different.A lifestyle of health, happiness and fulfilment doesn’t only have to be a dream: you can reclaim your inner harmony and become your most contented, hopeful and de-stressed faster than you think.Permanent changes works when we work from the inside out approach.As the owner of Pi Society, I decided that we needed to explore this subject more in a podcast. My guest today is Paula Fenegan, she is a Wellbeing / Nutrition Coach & Reflexologist based in Honiton, East Devon  and she love all things holistic.  She is passionate about natural health solutions. She believes working with the body is the best way to maintain health.  The body has an innate sense of healing and it will  always try to heal itself, given enough time and the right raw ingredients. Health is not only about the food we eat but also our reactions to the different stresses in our everyday lives. 

Whether you’re dating, in a relationship or enjoying the single life, lacking body confidence can seriously impact your self-worth, decisions and how you live your life. Love and dating are the areas of your life that can take the biggest hit from having zero body confidence. If Instagram posts of people showing off their rolls and stretch marks aren’t helping you learn to accept your body, there are a few simple hacks that could change your mindsetMy guest today is the most amazing, Cathy Houghton –Cathy Houghton is the founder of Blossom Health Coaching, based in Newton Abbot. She is passionate about helping clients find their inner peace and balance around food, eating, their bodies and themselves.  Cathy is a Health & Food Coach, a Disordered Eating & Weight Loss Practitioner.   She supports women, particularly those in mid-life, on improving their relationship with eating, and boosting their wellbeing. If you’re in need of some advice please do visit Cathy’s website where you can find details on her flexible coaching packages for wellbeing, disordered eating, weight loss, and the menopause. Cathy offers a free 30 minute conversation to anyone interested in finding out more.  She also has a monthly newsletter giving tips, advice, and special offers, that people can sign up to from her homepage.  Her online coaching provides a confidential safe space for women to be heard, learn, grow, and change. https://www.blossomhealthcoaching.co.uk/     [email protected]    https://www.facebook.com/blossomhealthcoaching www.linkedin.com/in/cathy-houghton-blossomhealthcoaching 

Survivors living with or healing from a form of abuse should think about self-care as a vital step in their healing process. Having lived through the trauma of an abusive partner, you probably rarely got to feel cared for or made a priority. You most likely put your own needs on the back burner to take care of the things your abuser demanded of you. You may have been made to feel like doing things you enjoyed was selfish. It’s time to change that mindset. As psychotherapist Michael J. Formica said, “The simple fact is that when we do speak our needs … we become more substantial. We define ourselves more clearly and assert our presence. In asserting our presence, we become more present.” Healthy relationships include time for yourself and your own interests, but even alone time can be limited by work, school, or other areas in your life. Self-care means using the time that you have to take the best care of yourself possible, whatever that looks like. Have fun and relax in a way that lets you feel free and happy. My guest today is Jeannette Brown. Jeanette runs the amazing Community Interest company More Positive Me who works with people who have been impacted by domestic abuse. Their goal is to make sure that anyone impacted by domestic abuse finds the strength and skills within them to lead fulfilled and happy lives. If you’re in need of some advice and would like to know more about Jeanette’s work, visit morepositiveme.com where you can find out more about their courses.