Don't set rules for Dating?!?  That sounds disastrous! If we don’t set rules, they’ll do all kinds of crazy out-of-bounds stuff, won’t they?  Yes, without any rules, it would be crazy, but we don’t say there shouldn’t BE rules, but that as parents there are big questions like when to start dating that we need to coach them into creating their OWN rules for.Our guests in this episode are the authors of "Protecting His Workmanship", a practical interactive and thoroughly Biblical study through which you can allow the Lord to speak His standards of sexual purity into your child’s life. http://www.searchforthetruth.net/store/books/protecting-his-workmanship/ This episode isn't just about sex and dating, but has broad application in helping your kids to develop the wisdom and autonomy to be able to set and stick to their own rules for important life decisions.Finally, we’ll leave you with a couple of practical ways you can put this counter-intuitive concept into practice today.As always, we don’t expect everyone to agree that this concept is correct or is right for your family but if it gets you thinking and more intentional with your parenting then it’s worthwhile.If you’d like to provide feedback, please contact us through our facebook page: facebook.com/ParentingCI 

Aren't we supposed to provide the things our kids want and need?!? How are they going to be good kids if we don't manage their finances for them?In this episode we unpack some of the difficulties and benefits of setting up our kids to make their own economic decisions.Our Son and his wife will join us as a guest on this episode, and discuss how principles of economic responsibility have benefited them as adults and as a married couple.Finally, we’ll leave you with a couple of practical ways you can put this counter-intuitive concept into practice today.As always, we don’t expect everyone to agree that this concept is correct or is right for your family but if it gets you thinking and more intentional with your parenting then it’s worthwhile.If you’d like to provide feedback, please contact us through our facebook page: facebook.com/ParentingCI 

Aren't we supposed to help our kids solve their problems?!? How are they going to function if they don't get their problems solved?In this episode we unpack some of the benefits of coaching our kids to learn to try and solve their own problems before bringing those issues to mom or dad.Our granddaughter will join us as a guest on this episode, and discuss how her mom and dad (our daughter) puts this into practice in their family and how it works out from her perspective.Finally, we’ll leave you with a couple of practical ways you can put this counter-intuitive concept into practice today.As always, we don’t expect everyone to agree that this concept is correct or is right for your family but if it gets you thinking and more intentional with your parenting then it’s worthwhile.If you’d like to provide feedback, please contact us through our facebook page: facebook.com/ParentingCI 

Aren't we supposed to shelter our kids from embarrassment?!?In this episode we unpack some of the benefits of inoculating your kids against embarrassment and long term confidence that can be built with the right intentional support.Our 29 year old daughter will join us as a guest on this episode, and discuss how we embarrassed her and how that helped her in high school and beyond, along with how she's putting this principle into practice with her own kids.Finally, we’ll leave you with a couple of practical ways you can put this counter-intuitive concept into practice depending on what stage your kids are in.As always, we don’t expect everyone to agree that this concept is correct or is right for your family but if it gets you thinking and more intentional with your parenting then it’s worthwhile.If you’d like to provide feedback, please contact us through our facebook page: facebook.com/ParentingCI 

Is it wise to feed our kids appetite for attention?  If so when, and what are the consequences if we're not intentional about it?We'll answer these questions with some examples from our 3 decades of parenting and other resources, then provide some specific ways that you can make some simple improvements that don't even take any extra time.As always, we don’t expect everyone to agree that this concept is correct or is right for your family but if it gets you thinking and more intentional with your parenting then it’s worthwhile.If you’d like to provide feedback, please contact us through our facebook page: facebook.com/ParentingCI 

This month, we unpack the benefits of airing your dirty laundry for your kids to learn from.After a brief explanation of the concept, we’re joined by our 22 year old son for some real-life application of how this has helped him from his perspective growing up.Finally, we’ll leave you with a couple of practical suggestions for how you can put this counter-intuitive concept into practice in your family.As always, we don’t expect everyone to agree that this concept is correct or is right for your family but if it gets you thinking and more intentional with your parenting then it’s worthwhile.If you’d like to provide feedback, please contact us through our facebook page: facebook.com/ParentingCI 

This month, we explore what things should be priorities ahead of the kids which counter-intuitively is better for them.After a brief explanation of the concept, we’re joined by our 20 year old daughter for some real-life stories of what this has meant to her from her perspective growing up.Finally, we’ll leave you with a couple of practical ways you can put this counter-intuitive concept into practice depending on what stage your kids are in.As always, we don’t expect everyone to agree that this concept is correct or is right for your family but if it gets you thinking and more intentional with your parenting then it’s worthwhile.If you’d like to provide feedback, please contact us through our facebook page: facebook.com/ParentingCI 

Isn't it safer to have "no" be your default answer when your kids make a request? In this episode, we take a look at some counter-intuitive benefits to being more intentional when rarely saying no, and instead, saying yes more often.After a brief explanation of the concept, we’re joined by our 29 year old daughter for some real-life stories of what this has meant to her from her perspective growing up, and her own application in her parenting.Finally, we’ll leave you with a couple of practical ways you can put this counter-intuitive concept into practice depending on what stage your kids are in.As always, we don’t expect everyone to agree that this concept is correct or is right for your family but if it gets you thinking and more intentional with your parenting then it’s worthwhile.If you’d like to provide feedback, please contact us through our facebook page: facebook.com/ParentingCI 

Why wouldn’t you tell your kids that you’re proud of them?!? In this episode, we look at what it means to be proud of something, and propose an alternative that can actually build up our kids even better.After a brief explanation of the concept, we’re joined by our 20 year old daughter for some real-life stories of what this has meant to her from her perspective growing up.Finally, we’ll leave you with a couple of practical ways you can put this counter-intuitive concept into practice depending on what stage your kids are in.As always, we don’t expect everyone to agree that this concept is correct or is right for your family, but if it gets you thinking and more intentional with your parenting, then it’s worthwhile.If you’d like to provide feedback, please contact us through our facebook page: facebook.com/ParentingCI 

The first episode of the Parenting Counter-Intuitively podcast sets the foundation for the series and the tag-line that sets up what subsequent episodes will be built on.The Parenting Counter-intuitively podcast is intended to pass along some wisdom from a couple parents that have made it through the parenting years and provide some counter-intuitive strategies to get beyond the day to day.In this episode, we’ll discuss why having “good kids” is not the goal of parenting, provide a couple examples from our experience, and give you a practical takeaway to help you determine what success looks like for your children.Your definition of success might be very different from ours, and we certainly don’t expect everyone to agree with us on every point or every episode, but if it gets you thinking and being more intentional, then it’s worthwhile.If you’d like to provide feedback, please contact us through our facebook page: facebook.com/ParentingCI