Ep 116 Description:  “You will only save what you love.” —Angelika Rodler   Embracing the natural rhythms of the body and celebrating the power of our feminine side can lead to more fulfilling and empowered births. Therefore, reclaiming the joy and sensuality of childbirth is essential in transforming the way we approach this profound life event.    In this episode, Debra sits with Angelika Rodler, the head of the doulas of Austria and a passionate childbirth educator. She has dedicated her life to empowering women and advocating for a more holistic approach to pregnancy, birth, and parenting.   Tune in as Angelika shares her journey from experiencing her own births to becoming a prominent doula, childbirth educator, and breastfeeding advisor. Debra and Angelika also dive into the fascinating history of the clitoris and its role in childbirth, the importance of understanding our bodies to enhance both pleasure and power during birth, a unique approach to creating hand-crafted yonis, and how this exercise helps doulas and women alike to connect deeply with their anatomy and sexuality.     Connect with Debra! Website: https://www.orgasmicbirth.com  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/orgasmicbirth X: https://twitter.com/OrgasmicBirth  YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/OrgasmicBirth1  Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@orgasmicbirth  Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debra-pascali-bonaro-1093471      Episode Highlights: 02:12 A Changed Woman After Birth 09:12 The World is Waiting for Doulas  15:11 Love Your Yonis 19:13 Talk to the Pussy 21:20 Clitoris and Pleasure in Birth and Life  

Ep 115 Description:  “The more satisfied you are, the less you are in the lack of anything. If we are in the lack, we manifest more lack. And if we are satisfied, then the beautiful things can come in.” —Amira Gorski   In our society, pleasure is often seen as frivolous or indulgent, something to be denied or delayed in pursuit of more "practical" goals. We're taught that hard work, sacrifice, and delayed gratification are the keys to success and abundance. But what if pleasure itself was the path to true prosperity?    Amira Gorski is a leading voice in the orgasmic birth and pleasure coaching movement. As the founder of Lustgeburt, she helps women and couples unlock the transformative power of pleasure to manifest abundance in all areas of their lives.   Tune in as Debra and Amira dive deep into how pleasure can be valuable not only in sexuality but also in other aspects of our lives, the transformative role of surrender in navigating the intense physical and emotional challenges, the need to break down blockages and trauma to create a more open and receptive energy, how to increase pleasure, and the intersection between pleasure and financial freedom.      Connect with Debra! Website: https://www.orgasmicbirth.com  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/orgasmicbirth X: https://twitter.com/OrgasmicBirth  YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/OrgasmicBirth1  Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@orgasmicbirth  Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debra-pascali-bonaro-1093471      Episode Highlights: 03:00  The Beauty of “Lust” 12:32 Experiencing Orgasmic Birth for the First Time 16:43 How Birth is Meant to Be 22:19  A Good Form of Preparation  27:25 Pleasure is a Huge Concept 32:47 Pleasure is Self-Love  

Ep 114 Description:  “We can't make birth better unless we understand what makes birth good.” —Dr. Elisabeth Bolaza    Pleasure is not just a nice-to-have in birth - it's a vital sign of a healthy, empowered experience. Yet for too long, our culture has suppressed and shamed the very idea of pleasure during one of life's most transformative moments.   However, the groundbreaking research of Dr. Elisabeth Balaza is changing that narrative. Dr. Elisabeth is a reproductive anthropologist and the Principal Investigator of The Birth Pleasure Study. As the founder of Sorada Research & Consulting, she is committed to disrupting the status quo and making her work on pleasure, sexuality, and reproductive justice useful to everyday birthing people and their families.   Join this week’s conversation as Debra and Dr. Elisabeth share how prioritizing pleasure, joy, and bodily autonomy at birth can transform the maternity care system, why pleasure is a fundamental part of birth justice, the 5 different forms of pleasure, how the environment and support system around the birthing person greatly impacts their ability to access pleasure and physiologic birth, an important call-to-action for medical provider, and why developing a "birth pleasure management plan" can help birthing people feel empowered and in control.      Connect with Debra! Website: https://www.orgasmicbirth.com  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/orgasmicbirth X: https://twitter.com/OrgasmicBirth  YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/OrgasmicBirth1  Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@orgasmicbirth  Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debra-pascali-bonaro-1093471      Episode Highlights: 03:15 A Discussion About the Birthing Body 10:48 Reframing Our Thinking About Enjoyment and Pleasure  17:22 The Role of Providers   22:58 Focus on Feeling Good, Not Alleviating Bad 29:11 Trust Your Birthing Body  

Ep 113 Description:  “Anytime you're being pressured or coerced into something, you're not giving true informed consent, and that is a form in itself, of obstetric violence.” —Rebecca Dekker   Too often, pregnancy and birth are shrouded in fear, misinformation, and outdated practices not supported by research. Many people are told their bodies are incapable, their pain is inevitable, and their choices are limited. But this couldn't be further from the truth. By challenging outdated assumptions and accessing the latest, most reliable research, families can make informed decisions that honor their unique needs and preferences.    Rebecca Dekker is the founder and CEO of Evidence Based Birth® and the author of “Babies Are Not Pizzas: They’re Born, Not Delivered!” As a nurse, researcher, and passionate advocate, she is dedicated to making the latest, most reliable research on childbirth freely and publicly accessible to empower families to make informed decisions about their care.   Join in as Debra and Rebecca demystify alternative birthing positions and their benefits and list five red flags that you might want to switch to a different provider for your birth, 3 tips for preparing for childbirth and reducing anxiety about childbirth, what to know before scheduling an elective labor induction.      Connect with Debra! Website: https://www.orgasmicbirth.com  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/orgasmicbirth X: https://twitter.com/OrgasmicBirth  YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/OrgasmicBirth1  Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@orgasmicbirth  Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debra-pascali-bonaro-1093471      Episode Highlights: 03:30 Birth Practices: Beneficial or Not 07:55 Watch Out for the Red Flags 15:13 Elective Labor Induction  18:44 Different Birthing Positions and Their Benefits  26:04 What Makes the Difference  

Ep 112 Description:   “It is our birthright. Birth is not this something to get through and suffer through.” —Rebecca Rivers Ellisor    Birth is a sacred, transformative journey that can unlock profound ecstasy and pleasure. This is birth as it was meant to be— a rite of passage infused with joy, wonder, and the electric thrill of new life entering the world.    Rebecca Rivers Ellisor is a passionate advocate for pleasurable, empowered childbirth experiences. As a quantum hypnotherapist, full-spectrum doula, and founder of Born in Ecstasy, she supports women in cultivating the optimal internal and external environment for ecstatic birth and a sacred, nourishing transition into parenthood.   This week, Debra and Rebecca discuss the power of preparation in building a deep bond between the mother and her baby during pregnancy, the value of community support in creating a sacred and nurturing birthing environment, the benefits of shifting fear to empowerment, and tips for balancing motherhood with self-care.      Connect with Debra! Website: https://www.orgasmicbirth.com  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/orgasmicbirth X: https://twitter.com/OrgasmicBirth  YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/OrgasmicBirth1  Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@orgasmicbirth  Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debra-pascali-bonaro-1093471      Episode Highlights: 04:02 Birth as a Peak Experience 09:04 Making Way for a New Being to Thrive  12:38 Positive Birth Despite an Unplanned Pregnancy  17:40 Who to Bring Into Your Birth Support Team  21:46 Meeting Your Baby Beyond Form 27:10 Loving the Whole Journey of Birth  30:04 Birth Deserves Our Care and Attention  

Ep 111 Description:  “We still plan our weddings; we still plan traveling, we know that they're not going to go according to plan, but we plan them. A birth plan is no different. It's what makes us feel most safe.” —Kerry Burke   We are the architects of a bold new narrative around childbirth— one that celebrates our innate power, reclaims our pleasure, and empowers us as active participants in this profound rite of passage. At Peace Birth and Wellness owner, Kerry Burke is a doula and childbirth educator who found empowerment in her own unmedicated birth experience, despite a history of anxiety and panic disorder. Drawing on her personal journey, Kerry now guides expectant families to have informed, autonomous, and fulfilling birth experiences.  Listen in as Debra and Kerry discuss how Kerry's history of anxiety and panic disorder served her in labor, what to do in between the sweet moments of labor, the importance of normalizing yourself to the process, Kerry’s vision for changing societal views on birth, the factors that helped her surrender to the sensations, and her transformative experience becoming an Orgasmic Birth Practitioner.      Connect with Debra! Website: https://www.orgasmicbirth.com  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/orgasmicbirth X: https://twitter.com/OrgasmicBirth  YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/OrgasmicBirth1  Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@orgasmicbirth  Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debra-pascali-bonaro-1093471      Episode Highlights: 02:22 “My Body Can Do This!”  10:16 The 5-1-1 13:41 We are Active Participants of Our Birth Stories 18:44 What To Do During the Sweet Moments of Labor  20:13 Normalize Yourself with the Process  

Ep 110 Description:  “Not only do people deserve a safe birth and a respectful birth, but every person deserves a day that brings you joy.” —Debra Pascali-Bonaro Tragically, pleasure has long been a missing piece in the modern birthing experience. Too often, birthing people are made to feel that expressing or even acknowledging their sexual or pleasurable feelings during labor is taboo or inappropriate. This harmful mindset not only robs individuals of the profound joy and empowerment that can arise during birth but also contributes to a culture of disrespect and trauma surrounding one of life's most sacred events.  Therefore, this week's reflection is centered on the importance of reclaiming pleasure as a fundamental aspect of the birthing experience. Tune in as Debra shares her passionate insights on challenging the societal taboos around sexuality and sensuality in birth and her vision for a radical transformation of maternity care that prioritizes the holistic well-being of birthing individuals. Plus, discover resources that can help you celebrate your body, your baby, and your birth.  Connect with Debra! Website: https://www.orgasmicbirth.com  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/orgasmicbirth X: https://twitter.com/OrgasmicBirth  YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/OrgasmicBirth1  Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@orgasmicbirth  Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debra-pascali-bonaro-1093471  Episode Highlights: 02:32 Doula Skills are Life Skills  06:09 Peaceful Birth, Peaceful World  10:01 The Problem with the Current Birthing Model  14:50 What Can Harm You 18:18 Stay Tuned for Exciting Updates!  

Ep 109 Description:  “Children who know the correct words for their body parts also have a lower risk of being sexually abused. So it helps keep your child safe, in addition to giving them that sense of ownership over their bodies that they'll hopefully carry their whole lives.” —Dorian Solot   The topic of sex and sexuality is still widely considered taboo when it comes to discussing it with children. Many parents feel uncomfortable or ill-equipped to have open, age-appropriate conversations about these sensitive subjects. And there is also a pervasive cultural narrative that children should be "protected" from knowledge about their own bodies and sexuality.    Dorian Solot is a mom, author, and sexuality educator who is passionate about empowering others especially young children to understand and celebrate their bodies. Through her work, including her two new children's books, Dorian aims to break the cycle of avoidance around sex and sexuality education. By normalizing discussions about anatomy, boundaries, and pleasure, Dorian's mission is to foster greater self-awareness, confidence, and safety in the next generation.   In this episode, Debra and Dorian share tips and wisdom on how parents can raise children who love their bodies. Tune in as they discuss the importance of parents using correct anatomical terms with young children, avoiding shame, and having ongoing conversations about sexuality rather than a single "big talk", why this step is necessary for helping kids build awareness and cultivate a positive relationship with their bodies, how this can safeguard children from sexual abuse, and more.     Check Out Dorian’s New Books: All About Penises and All About Vulvas & Vaginas at: https://learningaboutbodies.com/     Connect with Debra! Website: https://www.orgasmicbirth.com  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/orgasmicbirth X: https://twitter.com/OrgasmicBirth  YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/OrgasmicBirth1  Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@orgasmicbirth  Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debra-pascali-bonaro-1093471      Episode Highlights: 02:36 Starting at Home  08:24 Taking the Birth Wisdom to Practice 14:38 How Parents Can Teach Their Kids About Their Bodies 19:07 Befriend Your Body 21:27 How to Succeed with “The Talk”   

Ep 108 Description:  “Pregnancy and new parenthood are not for the faint of heart. But it's okay to feel a little out of sorts. It's okay to feel overwhelmed. That doesn't mean you're a bad person or bad parent— it means you're human. Softening towards yourself is important.” —Olivia Bergeron Postpartum is a time of immense change and adjustment. New mothers are navigating physical and emotional recovery from childbirth while also learning to care for a newborn. It can be an overwhelming experience made more difficult by a lack of support and self-care.  Olivia Bergeron is a licensed clinical social worker and psychotherapist who founded Mommy Groove Therapy and Parent Coaching to help moms and dads through empathy, connection, and self-care. She teaches postpartum doula workshops and provides virtual parent coaching to support new parents' mental health and ease the challenges of postpartum. Don’t miss this week’s episode as Debra and Olivia dive into the importance of validating the challenges of postpartum, giving time for self-care, especially for new mothers, the power of challenging negative thoughts and self-criticism, and the benefits of preparing for postpartum care early on.  Grab Olivia’s Gift for Parents: https://rebrand.ly/qs4parents      Connect with Debra! Website: https://www.orgasmicbirth.com  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/orgasmicbirth X: https://twitter.com/OrgasmicBirth  YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/OrgasmicBirth1  Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@orgasmicbirth  Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debra-pascali-bonaro-1093471      Episode Highlights: 02:47 A Focus on Postpartum Care 10:04 Tips for Managing Stress and Anxiety 14:14 Cultivation Positivity During Challenging Times 18:59 Preparing for Parenthood  

Ep 107 Description:  “We don't get to choose our labor; we get to choose how we respond.” —Tamara Walker While birth plans aim to prepare us for what's to come, the reality is that labor does not always go according to plan. Tamara Walker's story is a powerful example of just how quickly things can change. With her first birth, she felt in control as labor progressed gradually over many hours. However, her second showed her how unpredictable it can be. Tamara is a childbirth educator and doula. With over 20 years of experience in nursing and birth work, she is passionate about empowering birthing people through education. Tamara teaches childbirth classes through Birth Bootcamp and offers doula services to help clients achieve their desired birth experiences.   Listen in as Tamara talks about the stark differences she observed between a hospital birth and one at a birthing center as well as insights from her own labors— one a long but gradual process, and the other taking an unexpected turn requiring intervention on the side of a highway.   Debra and Tamara also discuss how the unexpected can occur in labor and the importance of listening to your body's cues, the importance of open communication and emotional support, the role of education and trust in creating positive birth experiences, the need to choose the right birth support team, and the importance of processing emotions after birth even when the outcome was positive. Connect with Debra! Website: https://www.orgasmicbirth.com  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/orgasmicbirth X: https://twitter.com/OrgasmicBirth  YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/OrgasmicBirth1  Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@orgasmicbirth  Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debra-pascali-bonaro-1093471  Episode Highlights: 03:30 The Importance of Preparation   09:09 Powerful Birth Stories 14:52 Navigating Unexpected Birth Experiences 20:40 Birthing in a Car! 25:13 Preparation for a Positive Birth Experience