Sabrina Zohar: How to Stop Chasing People Who Don’t Want You from On Purpose with Jay Shetty

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Sabrina Zohar: How to Stop Chasing People Who Don’t Want You

1 hour 26 minutes Posted Oct 7, 2026 at 7:00 am.

Introduction

Sabrina's Turning Point: "Why Am I Like This?"

Familiarity Vs. Safety

How Childhood Attachment Shapes Us

Nervous System Triggers & Protest Behavior

Building Confidence & Setting Incremental Boundaries

Boundaries Vs. Walls

Guilt, Control, And People-Pleasing

Is There Such A Thing As "The One?"

Unhealthy Relationship Dynamics

Short-Term Discomfort Vs. Long-Term Unhappiness

The Fallacy of "Right Person, Wrong Time"

The Anxious-Avoidant Dynamic

Attachment Style Myths

Seeking Connection Vs. Testing For Validation

Peaceful Love Vs. "Trauma Tingles"

Green Flags & Early Dating Distractions

Stop Taking Things Personally

Pacing Emotional Intimacy

Why We Pursue Unavailable People

Overcoming Situationships

The Lonely Side of Healing

Finding Closure Within Yourself

Weaponizing "Therapy Speak" To Avoid Accountability

Overcoming Singlehood Scarcity

Falling For Potential Vs. Accepting Reality

Sabrina On Final Five

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Jay sits down with dating and relationship coach Sabrina Zohar to unpack why we chase the familiar over the safe, how childhood attachment shapes adult dating patterns, and the real difference between boundaries and walls. Together they dig into anxious-avoidant dynamics, chemistry versus compatibility, why we fall for people's potential instead of their reality, and practical tools for healing and showing up differently in love.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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Read Sabrina’s book | https://sabrinazohar.com/book

Website | https://sabrinazohar.com

YouTube | https://youtube.com/@sabrina_zohar?si=92IqIf9b6jaIAoj5

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