It's so easy to think our kids need fixing....but it's almost always an US problem or an environment problem. Most parenting "scripts" don't work because they're attempting to fix the child. Behavior is always communication and it's our job to translate that. If motherhood is making you overwhelmed, overstimulated, and burnt tf out, I can help. You may know me as the author of Oh Crap Potty Training and Oh Crap, I Have a Toddler but in the last few years, I've been obsessed with moms...and they are not okay. My work has veered off into helping moms find ease and confidence in their mothering. If you are struggling, check out Happy Mom, my online community supporting moms into a more fun motherhood. Happy Mom: https://bit.ly/4v9Fz5NFor potty training help, get started with our Oh Crap Chat: https://bit.ly/4cMpso
Jul 7
13 min
After taking a pause from the podcast, Jamie is back — not because of the algorithm, consistency pressure, or content treadmill… but because she finally had something she genuinely needed to say. This episode starts with a reflection on stepping away from content creation and the overwhelming response from listeners whose lives were impacted by the podcast. But it quickly evolves into something much deeper:A conversation about trauma, therapy, motherhood, somatic healing, lineage, and what happens when women stop shrinking themselves.Jamie explores:Why talk therapy can sometimes keep us stuck in the story of our trauma instead of helping us move through it The difference between pathology and mythologySomatic healing, movement, and releasing emotions through the bodyWhy parenting often activates unresolved childhood woundsThe challenge of healing while actively raising childrenHow women are conditioned to suppress powerful emotions and “stay calm” at all costsCommunity, maternal energy, and the need for real connectionWhat it means to reclaim space, power, and feminine energyJamie also shares a deeply personal experience involving movement, dance, grief release, ancestral reflection, and a moment that shifted something profound inside of her. This isn’t an episode about parenting tactics.It’s about:The stories we inheritThe stories we tell ourselvesAnd the possibility of rewriting themIf you’ve been feeling emotionally stuck, disconnected from yourself, overwhelmed by motherhood, or exhausted from overanalyzing your healing journey… this conversation may resonate deeply.
May 12
28 min
This episode is a little different.It’s a personal update — and an honest look at where I am in my work right now.Over the past few months, I’ve been feeling something I can’t ignore anymore:This one-way conversation isn’t working for me.In this episode, I share:Why I’ve been skipping podcast episodesMy recent hearing loss and tinnitus diagnosisWhy content creation has started to feel drainingThe emotional toll of online criticism and “feedback” Why social media isn’t built for real conversationThe problem with parasocial relationshipsWhy I don’t want to monetize with adsAnd why I’m choosing to pause the podcast (for now)But this isn’t just about what I’m stepping away from.It’s about what I’m moving toward.After hosting live classes and group calls recently, something became really clear:I don’t want to talk at you anymore. I want to talk with you.So I’m shifting my work toward:More real-time conversationsLive Zoom calls and community discussionsA new membership space: Managing Modern MotherhoodMore intentional, sustainable content (including YouTube)This is a pivot.Not an ending — but a recalibration.If you’ve been here for a while, I appreciate you deeply.And if you’re coming along for what’s next… I’m really excited about where this is going.As always — put your phone down, and rock on.👉 Sign up for my newsletterJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapeeBrick for Phones(Save 10%)
Apr 3
11 min
We’re in the middle of what many are calling a capability crisis.Kids are struggling to do basic things — not because they can’t… but because they haven’t been taught how.In this episode, Jamie introduces the concept of scaffolding — the process of gradually building skills over time, starting much earlier than most parents think.Because here’s the truth:Kids don’t magically wake up at age 9 knowing how to clean, cook, or take responsibility.Those skills are built slowly — beginning as early as 18–24 months. But many parents unintentionally delay this process by:Doing everything for their kidsRushing through tasks instead of letting them helpAvoiding mess, frustration, or inconvenienceUnderestimating what their kids are capable ofAnd over time, that creates dependency instead of independence.In this episode, Jamie breaks down:What scaffolding actually looks like in real lifeWhy toddlers saying “I help!” is a critical momentHow helping too much sends the wrong messageWhy struggle is necessary for self-esteemHow to introduce responsibility in age-appropriate waysWhy it’s never about perfection — it’s about participationIf you want your kids to grow into capable, confident humans…this episode will shift how you think about parenting.👉 Sign up for my newsletterJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapeeBrick for Phones(Save 10%)
Mar 24
8 min
Youth sports used to be simple.Kids played with neighborhood friends, parents volunteered as coaches, and the goal was just to have fun.But today?Youth sports have become a multi-billion-dollar industry, and parents are under enormous pressure to keep up.Private coaching. Travel teams. Year-round specialization. Endless tournaments.In this episode, Jamie sits down with Jonathan Carone from Healthy Sports Parents to talk about how youth sports got so intense — and what parents can do to bring some sanity back into the experience.Jonathan shares how a viral video about toxic sports parenting launched his platform and why he believes most parents truly want to do better… they’ve just never been shown how.Together they discuss:How youth sports evolved into a billion-dollar industryThe pressure parents feel to keep up with travel teams and private lessonsWhy kids today feel more pressure than previous generationsThe myth of the college scholarship dreamHow parents accidentally turn sports into a high-stress experienceWhy kids are quitting sports earlier than everThe importance of letting kids fail and develop intrinsic motivationWhy travel sports can either strengthen families… or break them apartA healthier way to approach youth sports and athletic developmentThis episode is a must-listen for any parent navigating the increasingly intense world of youth athletics.👉 Sign up for my newsletterJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapeeBrick for Phones(Save 10%)
Mar 12
1 hr 2 min
Kids collect stuff.Toys. Trinkets. Goody bag junk. Happy Meal prizes. Endless artwork.And before you know it, your house is overflowing.In this episode, Jamie tackles a question parents ask all the time:What do we do with all the kids’ stuff?From toy overload to random plastic junk to piles of artwork, she shares practical strategies to keep your home manageable without constant battles.Jamie explains why modern families often have more clutter than ever before and how bigger homes and more storage can actually make the problem worse.She also shares simple systems that actually work for managing toys and kids’ belongings.In this episode, Jamie covers:Why kids don’t actually need many toysThe toy rotation system that reduces overwhelmHow overconsumption affects kids’ playWhy bigger homes often create more clutterWhat to do with cheap “junk toys” that multiply overnightTeaching kids to make decisions about their belongingsThe difference between art and craftsWhat kids’ artwork is actually worth savingCreative ways to preserve artwork without storing pilesWhy decluttering kids’ stuff matters for your mental loadThe goal isn’t perfection.It’s creating a home that feels manageable, calm, and functional for everyone.👉 Sign up for my newsletterJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapeeBrick for Phones(Save 10%)
Mar 10
23 min
Millennial moms were told they could be anything.Doctor. Lawyer. Entrepreneur. Founder.But no one mentioned the other two full-time jobs:Raising childrenRunning a householdIn this episode, Jamie sits down with Katherine to talk about the generational messaging that shaped modern motherhood — and why so many parents feel overwhelmed, exhausted, and like they’re somehow failing.Jamie brings the Gen X perspective, raised by boomers and depression-era grandparents.Katherine brings the millennial perspective — a generation raised to believe they should excel professionally while also building a perfect home life.And the reality?Something had to give.In this conversation, they unpack:The generational messaging millennial women grew up withThe pressure to “be the best” at everythingWhy motherhood was treated like a side note to career successHow parenting expectations have changed across generationsWhy so many modern parents feel like they’re drowningThe cultural differences around motherhood in the U.S. vs EuropeThe unrealistic expectations placed on modern familiesWhat actually needs to changeThis episode is an honest look at the impossible standard placed on modern mothers — and why it's time to rethink what success actually looks like.👉 Sign up for my newsletterJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapeeBrick for Phones(Save 10%)
Mar 6
1 hr 6 min
Brick for Phones (Save 10%)If I die in a blizzard… does my kid know where the folder is?That’s not anxiety.That’s logistics.In this episode, I’m talking about something we are terrible at as a society:Preparing for death.Not in a morbid way.Not in a fearful way.In a practical way.Because if you’ve ever lost someone close to you, you know:The week after someone dies is chaos.Paperwork.Phone calls.Passwords.Decisions.Funeral arrangements.Assets.Access.All while actively grieving.In this episode I cover:Why every parent needs a will (even if you “don’t have assets”)Choosing guardians and putting it in writingWhy passwords are everythingWhat’s actually in my “death folder”Trusts, beneficiaries, and pour-over willsMaking funeral decisions in advanceWhy I update my obituary photoWhy you need access to your spouse’s financial infoWhy you should sit down with aging parents nowHow decline can happen fastWhy strength training matters as we ageHow to make it easy on the livingThis episode isn’t morbid.It’s responsible.We need to get better at dying.That means:Having the hard conversation.Writing things down.Organizing your life.Making it simple for the people left behind.You can be lighthearted about it.You can joke about your obituary photo.But you still need the folder.Put your phone down — and go start one.👉 Sign up for my newsletterJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapeeBrick for Phones (Save 10%)
Mar 3
18 min
In this episode, I sit down with Jose to talk about something we don’t discuss enough:Your kids need to see you struggle.Not fall apart.Not spiral.Not dump your emotional processing onto them.But struggle.We talk about:Why shielding kids from every difficulty backfiresThe difference between modeling resilience and trauma-dumpingHow to let kids see you try (even when you fail)Why “protecting” them from stress can weaken themWhat emotional regulation actually looks like in real timeThe power of repair and ownershipWhy competence is built through frictionMasculinity, leadership, and modeling calm under pressureHow parents unconsciously outsource resilience to school and sportsWhy modern comfort culture is robbing kids of growthThis conversation isn’t about being dramatic.It’s about being human in front of your children.Kids don’t need perfect parents.They need to see adults doing hard things — and surviving them.If you want resilient kids, they need to watch you build resilience first.👉 Sign up for my newsletterJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapeeBrick for Phones(Save 10%)
Feb 26
48 min
Today we’re talking about something that’s been itching at me for years:We are not moving at the pace of childhood.We are expecting children to move at our pace — the adult pace, the productivity pace, the overstimulated world pace — and then wondering why behavior is exploding.In this episode, I unpack:Why childhood is inherently slowHow rushing creates behavioral problemsThe difference between micro pace (the hike) and macro pace (your life)Why “I don’t have time” is showing up everywhereVelcro shoes, sippy cups, and lost life skillsWhy simplifying your words changes everythingWhy repeating yourself 50 times takes longer than slowing down onceHow cooperation increases when you match their paceThe environment → behavior connectionWhy 80/20 is the real goalHow overscheduling is stealing childhoodIf your kid is:“Not listening”Melting down constantlyMoving painfully slowStruggling with life skillsOr fighting you every morningYou may not have a discipline problem.You may have a pace problem.Childhood is slow.It is curious.It is stop-and-look-at-the-ant slow.It is puddle-jumping slow.It is shoe-tying frustration slow.And when we try to override that with adult urgency, kids respond.Slow down doesn’t mean do nothing.It means simplify.It means speak less.It means meet them where they are.Try this weekend:Go on a walk.Let your child lead.Feel how uncomfortable it is.Then notice what shifts.As always — put your phone down.👉 Sign up for my newsletterJamie's InstagramOh Crap! Cafe Parenting CommunityOh Crap! Potty TrainingOh Crap! I Have a ToddlerPaleovalley Protein SticksTherapeeBrick for Phones(Save 10%)
Feb 24
17 min
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