The trends around parenting swing like a pendulum from authoritarian to permissive. Instinctively we know either extremes isn't ideal, but we may not know the literature around it. Studies show that authoritative parenting produces the healthiest outcomes in teens. Authoritative can be found in between the two extremes but leaning more towards authority than permissive. We all yearn for a harmonious family environment, but have you ever thought about the role hierarchy plays in achieving this? It's often seen as negative, but can be essential to maintaining order. Parenting isn't all about softness and leniency, sometimes it requires firmness, boundaries, and non-negotiable expectations. The power of proactive parenting can't be overstated - it's not just about reacting to issues, but preventing them. Just think about how establishing safety and structure within the family can nip potential problems in the bud. Let's explore together the concept of authoritative parenting as a tool for creating a safe environment for our children to grow. The journey of parenting is a marathon, not a sprint. So let's invest in it intentionally and positively shape the future of our children. Come along and let's redefine our parenting journey together.

Hilary Weeks, a top 10 Christian Billboard singer, connects with her audience by unlocking and expressing the feelings of the heart through music. Her song "Keep Going" addresses depression and has helped thousands of people individually. This interview with Hilary will make you ask how you can use music in your family’s dynamic so that it harbors safety, healing, and connection. Keep GoingIG handles:@hilaryweeksmusic@drtimthayne

Eric Turner shares stories from his life that lead him to work at Trustyy. Coming from a family that often lived paycheck to paycheck, he joined the Marines right after high school. He got to visit home after boot camp. September 11th, 2001, he was sitting on a plane ready for takeoff when he heard about the attack on the world trade center. Eric served several tours and learned a lot about leadership being in charge of 25 other marines and 50+ local police. While still in the reserves he has transitioned his career into tech and become a vital member of the Trustyy team. He has a passion for the mission of Not By Chance and Trustyy, which is to improve intentional family living. If you want to stay up to date with Trustyy and help with beta testing, sign up here. https://trustyy.com/#

Michel Benyo is a grief coach. She specializes in helping Children deal with loss in their life. Having children of her own and losing one put her through a heart wrenching journey. While grieving, she learned how to help her daughter with her grief. As you listen to Michelle's stories and practical advice, you will feel better equipped to help those in your life deal with their grief. So many of us avoid grief, but there's a reason "good grief" is a common phrase; it's because there is a good way to do it. notbychance.comhttps://www.facebook.com/goodgriefparenting/

Sherry Fernandez was a hippy turned business woman. With insane drive and 

Dianne Kosto is a mother and CEO of Symmetry Neuro-Pathway Training. Dianne had a son who was kicked out of military school and almost kicked out of a treatment program for teen boys. She fears what could've happened if she hadn't found Neurofeedback. Neurofeedback is a non-invasive alternative to medication. It is painless, drugless, free of harmful side effects, and produces noticeable improvements that can enhance the effect of other traditional therapies. If you are interested in looking more into Neurofeedback, then reach out to Dianne at Symmetryneuropt.comTakeaway: look into various options for your kid's health because there is never a silver bullet. 

Dr. Thayne interviews his wife, Roxanne, on the power of storytelling. You must be as entertaining and compelling as your competitor (social media) to influence your teen. Become a master storyteller to encourage your teen to take action, adopt value, and come closer as a family. After this episode, you will ask yourself what stories you have that would impact your teen. Challenge: Find a story in your life that teaches a principle. Take your time to craft it into something compelling and entertaining. And when you share your story, hold back from explaining the principle; let them discover it themselves.

Dr. Thayne speaks about the role of fear when we are trying to be our teen's number one influencer. Fear is natural and can be healthy in doses, but when it isn't handled right, it can spiral out of control and have a domino effect on the family. Tim explains that you have to recognize the fear first. Then you can address it by talking yourself down from expecting the worst and taking action despite your fear. Challenge: When you feel fearful, articulate what you are afraid of. Communicate with someone, talk yourself down from catastrophising, and act despite your fear. Get a copy of the Not By Chance Yearbook at https://notbychance.com/yearbook/

Listening is one of the most influential things you could do.  We might think that listening is too passive to possibly have an influence. Most of the time, however,  no one cares to be swayed by someone they feel doesn't understand them. Dr. Tim Thayne gives some practical tips on how to listen to your teen. Some of them include going into the conversation being willing to have your mind changed. Challenge: Prioritize listening. Let go of the need to control the conversation. At the end of the day ask yourself how you did.

 Along with being a deliberate example, parents need to be aware of the values you are modeling.  Today’s episode explores some virtues that seem to be less common in today’s self-centered and fast paced world.  We also discuss how to create moral literacy with stories.