
If you've struggled with keeping up with your friendships after becoming a mother, this episode is for you!
While it's easy to complain about the disappearing act of some of our friends, it's humbling to realize that we may have not been reaching out either. It certainly takes two to tango and sometimes we have to take the lead to maintain the relationships that are of upmost importance to us.
We know that for some of our friends, figuring out what you need or how to be there for you, is easier said than done.
There may also come a time, when our new life creates a dynamic that does shift the energy within a friendship and we realize that we've outgrown each other. That's ok too.There is no right or wrong. At this stage of our lives as grown ass people, we've earned the right to do what's right for us!
So Mama, if you're seeking to nurture, maintain, repair or create friendships, this is for you!
#motherhood #friendships #lifeafterthebaby #postpartum #womensupportingwomen #parentssupportingparents #momlife #momhumor
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May 11, 2024
19 min

Who am I now? It's a question many moms have asked themselves. The intersection of who you were before pregnancy and who you are post delivery, can be a difficult adjustment during the 4th trimester and beyond.
In this conversation, special guest Diana Hillaire , Founder of @whenshecomeshome and I discuss our experiences of rediscovering ourselves after becoming mothers.
We reflect on our respective journeys to reclaiming our identities and finding balance between motherhood and personal fulfillment.
For more information about Diana | When She Comes Home:
Website:
www.whenshecomeshome.com
Instagram: @@whenshecomeshome
For information about Victoria | New Mommy at 40 Podcast:
Website: www.newmommyat40.com
Instagram | Facebook | TikTok: @newmommy40
To be our next guest, email: [email protected]
Apr 15, 2024
48 min

In this episode, host Victoria Lauture Duncker interviews Michael Petrella, an Infant Swimming Resource (ISR) instructor, about his journey and the importance of teaching self-rescue swimming skills to infants and young children. Michael shares his personal motivation for becoming an ISR instructor and highlights the need for children to learn how to obtain their own air and float in the water. He explains the process of becoming an ISR instructor and the behavioral psychology behind teaching children these life-saving skills. Michael also addresses common myths and misconceptions about infant swimming and the dangers of relying on puddle jumpers and floaties. In this conversation, Mr. Michael Petrella discusses the importance of water safety and the role of ISR (Infant Swimming Resource) and O2 Swim in teaching children self-rescue skills. He also highlights the importance of teaching skills in different water environments and shares real-life examples of lives saved through self-rescue lessons. He encourages parents to take action and find access to lessons, including scholarships, to ensure their child's safety. The conversation concludes with a discussion on the joy of being an instructor and the need for more instructors to meet the demand for water safety education.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Background
01:17 Michael's Journey to Becoming an Infant Swimming Resource Instructor
09:35 What are Self-Rescue Swimming Skills?
10:35 Teaching Self-Rescue Skills to Infants
12:28 Starting Age for Self-Rescue Lessons
13:06 Handling Overconfident and Apprehensive Children
14:17 Challenges Faced in Teaching Self-Rescue Skills
24:09 Dangers of Puddle Jumpers and Floaties
27:57 The Tragic Story of Emi
30:52 Teaching Skills in Different Environments
34:12 Real-Life Examples of Lives Saved
38:11 The Role of Parents in Fostering Water Safety
39:00 Access to Lessons and Scholarships
44:26 The Convenience of Puddle Jumpers
46:35 The Joy of Being an Instructor
51:12 Teaching Children the Way They Learn
54:03 The Need for More Instructors
For more information on Michael Petrella and O2 Swim:
www.mrmichaelpetrella.com
Instagram and TikTok: @mr.michaelpetrella
For more information about Victoria Lauture Duncker & New Mommy at 40 Podcast:
Website: www.newmommyat40.com
Instagram, Facebook and TikTok: @newmommyat40
Email: [email protected]
Mar 11, 2024
55 min

“Adoption was never a last resort for me. I always wanted one biological child and one adopted child.”
In this episode, host Victoria Lauture-Duncker interviews Daisha Enos, a 44-year-old wellness and health coach, about her journey to motherhood at 40. She discusses the comments and questions she received from family members and friends about her decision to have children later in life. While she always believed that she’d be a mother, of two - one biological child and one adopted child, she never dreamed of getting married.
After meeting her now husband Aron, she knew she had found the icing on the cake! Daisha and Aron, mutually agreed to spend the first few years of married life together and wait to start their family. She credits him for being supportive early of her wishes for their family dynamic.
The story behind their adoption process is a MUST LISTEN. It is truly a testament in that when something is meant for you, it is meant for YOU!
My biggest takeaway from my chat with Daisha?
Being specific about what you want and going after it can lead to incredible outcomes. Also, that it’s important to have a positive mindset and be open to learning from setbacks and challenges. Incredible!
#adoption #advancedmaternalage #blackmoms #wellness #manifestation
For more information about Daisha Enos
Website: www.daishaenos.com
Instagram & Facebook: @daishaenos
For more information about Victoria Lauture Duncker & New Mommy at 40 Podcast:
Website: www.newmommyat40.com
Instagram, Facebook and TikTok: @newmommyat40
Email: [email protected]
Feb 26, 2024
1 hr

Despite their decision to not have more children, Liza Poor, a 41-year-old actress and singer, unexpectedly became pregnant with her third child. She expresses both excitement and concerns about integrating a new person into their family dynamic. She is a proud body positive mama and encourages supportive care and outlook for plus-size mothers.
Takeaways
Age can impact pregnancy experiences, including fertility and physical discomfort, but not always!
Parenting styles and approaches may change as parents gain more experience and self-confidence.
Each child is unique and may require different parenting strategies.
Independence is an important aspect of child development, but boundaries and guidance are still necessary.
Integrating a new person into a family dynamic can bring both excitement and concerns, especially when there is an age gap between siblings.
Maintaining sibling roles and responsibilities is important to ensure a healthy family dynamic.
Body positivity and self-advocacy is crucial for plus-size mothers, and having a supportive healthcare team is essential.
For more information on Liza:
Website: www.lizapoor.com
Instagram: @LizaPoor
TikTok: @liza.poor
YouTube: @Liza Poor
For more information about Victoria and New Mommy at 40 Podcast:
Website: www.newmommyat40.com
Instagram: @newmommyat40
Facebook: @newmommyat40
YouTube: @newmommyat40
Feb 14, 2024
49 min

In this episode, host Victoria Lauture Duncker interviews her guest Tanji Garcia about her journey to motherhood at the age of 40. They discuss the pressure and expectations of having kids in their 20s and how it influenced their relationships. Tanji opens up about the challenges of infertility and the emotional journey of fertility treatments.
They touch on topics such as the first night with a newborn, struggles with breastfeeding, and the recognition and healing of postpartum depression and the impact of social media on the perception of motherhood.
Overall, they encourage open conversations about postpartum experiences and the need for self-compassion and understanding.
Takeaways
The pressure and expectations of having children in your 20s can influence relationship decisions and create feelings of disappointment.
Personal challenges and experiences shape our expectations of marriage and family life.
Infertility and fertility treatments can be emotionally challenging, but they can also lead to the joy of having a baby.
Age should not define our ability to be good parents or experience the joys of motherhood. Motherhood is challenging and requires support and self-care.
Breastfeeding struggles are common, and it's important to seek help and not feel guilty.
Postpartum depression is a real and valid experience that should be recognized and addressed.
Balancing motherhood and personal identity is a journey that requires self-reflection and self-compassion.
Social media can create unrealistic expectations and it's important to prioritize mental health over comparison.
Chapters
00:00
Introduction
01:06
Long-Time Friendship and Working Together
02:03
Family Background and Cultural Differences
03:04
Influence of Parent's Marriage
03:47
Influence of Family Life on Partner and Marriage Expectations
06:08
Pressure and Expectations of Having Kids in 20s
07:46
Learning to Work Through Relationship Problems
09:11
Dealing with Disappointment and Stigma of Having Kids Later in Life
09:43
Navigating Life as a Single Person
10:40
Overcoming Personal Challenges and Learning Interpersonal Communication
12:44
Desire for Warmth and Family Dynamics
13:56
Perceptions of Age and Motherhood
15:25
Challenges and Timing of Starting a Family
16:28
Rekindling the Relationship and Proposal
19:23
Struggles with Infertility and Fertility Treatments
26:35
Joy of Having a Baby Through IVF
36:58
The Reality of Motherhood
37:50
The First Night with a Newborn
38:50
Lack of Support
39:23
Challenges of Being an Older Mom
40:20
The Importance of a Support System
41:50
Struggles with Breastfeeding
43:32
Recognizing Postpartum Depression
47:21
Journey of Healing from Postpartum Depression
52:00
Balancing Motherhood and Personal Identity
55:53
Letting Go of the Past
57:18
The Pressure to Be Perfect
58:11
The Importance of Self-Care
01:01:00
The Impact of Social Media
01:06:18
The Need for Open Conversations about Postpartum
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Feb 2, 2024
1 hr 10 min

In today’s episode, we meet Jenese Raspberry, a mother of two who is sharing her delivery story at age 38, of her second child, a beautiful and healthy now 6 year old girl.
It is a story of faith, community, & surrender, that also serves as a look into the appalling and unacceptable rise of maternal mortality rates, particularly of black and brown women in the United States.
#childbirth #maternalmortality #maternalmortalityrate #momlife #expecting #blackmaternalhealthawareness #blackmaternalhealth #pregnancy #blackandbrownmoms #faith
#survivor #community #resilience #thriving #advancedmaternalage #joy #happiness #over35 #over40
Nov 6, 2023
51 min

Welcome to Season 3 of New Mommy at 40 Podcast!
We're starting off with a burst of joy and laughter as we welcome our guest and new mom, Ch-a Mosley. Ch-a shares her story with us of her becoming a first time mom at the age of 47. She has built a loyal and inspired audience via her social media platforms (@pregnancyoverforty) to spread hope to those who are looking to be or will find themselves as moms/parents. She is charismatic and just a breath of fresh air! Her story is a reminder for all of us to live in the moment, to have gratitude everyday for both the highs and the lows and that by choosing joy, you will land on your feet despite the difficult times.
For more information on Ch-a Mosley
Instagram: @pregnancyoverforty
TikTok: @pregnancyover40
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Oct 16, 2023
51 min

Victoria wraps up Season 2 of the award nominated, New Mommy at 40 Podcast by getting personal and sharing the last few months of her motherhood journey - transitioning from being a mother of a baby/toddler to a full blown child in the making, navigating tantrums.
In recognition of the closing of Fibroid Awareness Month, she shares of her own fibroid story and how dealing with them head on, created an opportunity to have her daughter years later. Victoria also shares the physical pain she experienced over the years, particularly during sex and the irony of now being middle aged, feeling in her sexual prime AND fibroid free, but on the struggle bus finding the time for intimacy.
This one is full of emotions, laughs, and maybe even some TMI, but definitely relatable to many!
For more information on Victoria/New Mommy at 40 Podcast
Website: www.newmommyat40.com
Instagram & Facebook: @newmommyat40
Email: [email protected]
Jul 31, 2023
41 min

Special Guests and SAHM's, Kendra Dayhoff and Cathryn Bieg, along with your host, Victoria, share resources they've discovered which have helped with adjusting to their new roles and the importance of finding & creating community along the way.
Some resources mentioned:
Macaroni Kid: https://national.macaronikid.com/
Moms Club International: https://momsclub.org/
Postpartum Support International: https://www.postpartum.net/
For more information Cathryn Bieg:
Instagram: @cathrynbieg
Website: www.cathrynbieg.com
For more on Victoria Lauture Duncker & New Mommy at 40 Podcast:
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#stayathomemom #sahm #sahmlife #parenting #mom #oldermom #over40 #expecting #pregnant
Jun 26, 2023
39 min
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