
In this episode, Derek and Scott interview speaker and author, Jordan Raynor. Jordan is a leading voice of the faith and work movement, and in this episode we get very practical as we discuss the connection, challenges, and opportunities of work and marriage.Questions for Discussion:1. Spend some time thinking about Jordan’s statement – who do you do your work with?2. How can you not let your work/jobs negatively affect your marriage and family?3. How can you be fully present both at home AND at work?Resources:Books by Jordan Raynor – Redeeming Your Time, The Sacredness of Secular Work, The Word Before WorkWebsite – Jordanraynor.comJordan’s Podcast – Mere ChristiansBook – Every Good Endeavor, by Tim KellerScripture:Genesis 1:26-28Revelation 21Isaiah 65:17-23
Jun 25, 2024
35 min

In Part 2 in a series on emotional intimacy, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss how to practically grow in emotional intimacy with your spouse. Check out Part 1 of this 2-Part series if you haven't already! Scriptures:Genesis 2:25Galatians 6:2Ephesians 5:31-32Matthew 18:15-17Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 Resources:Podcast – More Than Roommates - Episode 80 – Fully Known, Fully LovedPodcast – More Than Roommates - Episode 64 - Questions to Ask Your Spouse Every WeekBook – Untangle Your Emotions, by Jennie AllenBook – The Voice of the Heart, by Chip DoddBook - The Naked Marriage, by Dave and Ashley WillisQuestions to Discuss:1. How do you handle an “emotional mismatch” in your marriage (when one more readily expresses/shares/shows their emotions)?2. What prevents you from being emotionally intimate with your spouse (i.e., technology, invalidation)?3. How can you create more time and space for emotional intimacy?
Jun 18, 2024
26 min

We don’t often talk about emotional intimacy in marriage—we get to be fully known and fully loved in marriage. In part 1 of this 2-part series on emotional intimacy, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss what it means to be emotionally intimate in marriage.Scriptures:Genesis 2:252 Corinthians 12:9-10Resources:Book – The Voice of the Heart, by Chip DoddBook - The Naked Marriage, by Dave and Ashley Willis3 Questions to Ask Your Spouse:1. Is there anything that I’m holding back from or not confessing to my spouse?2. How can we be more emotionally intimate with each other (i.e., clear out time and space for emotionally intimacy)?3. Am I providing a safe space for my spouse?
Jun 11, 2024
24 min

Are you and your spouse thoughtful about your views and practices about drinking/alcohol? In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss how to be more thoughtful about decisions you make about drinking and alcohol.Scriptures:John 21 Corinthians 6:121 Corinthians 10:31Ephesians 5:18Isaiah 5:22-23Questions to Discuss:1. When did you have your first alcoholic drink (if ever)?2. How can you and your spouse be more thoughtful about alcohol and your marriage?3. Have a conversation with your spouse and an age-appropriate conversation with your kids about alcohol.Resources:Christ-Centered Recovery - Regeneration Recovery & Celebrate RecoverySubstance Abuse Resources
Jun 4, 2024
27 min

Many of us struggle with anger in small and big ways. How does your anger impact your spouse and your marriage? In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss how anger impacts our own marriages and how anger can affect your marriage as well. Scriptures:Proverbs 15:1Ephesians 4:26-27Proverbs 21:19James 1:19-20, 4:1 Questions to Discuss:1. What are the small day-to-day things that get you frustrated?2. Do you find yourself quick to anger or slow to anger? What would your spouse say about you?3. What are the triggers that you’ve identified that make you quick to anger both in life in general and in your marriage?Resources:Book – Unoffendable, by Brant Hansen
May 28, 2024
26 min

Like it or not, our struggles affect our marriages more than we realize. In this episode of More Than Roommates, Gabrielle and Scott talk with Ann Daly about struggles, recovery, and your marriage. Because of Jesus, life change is possible for everyone and for every marriage.Scriptures:James 5:16Proverbs 28:13Genesis 2:24Galatians 1:10Romans 5:3-51 Peter 4:19Galatians 6:9Hebrews 3:13Resources:Regeneration recovery – change is possible!Regeneration Struggle Finder – What are you struggling with?Celebrate RecoveryQuestions to Discuss:1. Do you tend to identify yourself by your sin or by your relationship with Jesus Christ?2. How do your issues/challenges affect your marriage?3. What lies do you tend to believe? Who does God say you are? (Replace the lies with Truth).
May 21, 2024
23 min

In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss things we do that may seem weird to the world but allow us to be different in our marriages than the struggling marriages we all see around us. These are decisions we’ve each made that may seem unique but allow us to strengthen our marriages.Scriptures:Romans 12:21 Peter 2:11Philippians 3:20-212 Timothy 2:4Resources:Podcast & Blog Post - 5 Weird Decisions that Make My Marriage AwesomeQuestions to Discuss:1. What are the things you do in your marriage that make you different than the marriages of the world? (Romans 12:2)2. Where do you see your marriage blending in with the marriages of the world/non-Christian marriages?3. Would your non-Christian friends look at your marriage and see something unique or different?
May 14, 2024
28 min

Do you and your spouse have inside jokes, traditions, or rituals that make your marriage unique and build a culture of exclusivity in your marriage? In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss the importance of building a strong culture in your marriage that makes it different than any other marriage on the planet.Scriptures:Genesis 2:24-25Revelation 2:4Proverbs 5:18Resources:Blog Post - How Inside Jokes And Rituals Can Strengthen Your MarriageDiscussion Questions:1. What are some of your inside jokes or rituals in your marriage?2. How can you build the culture of your marriage? What are the things that are like glue that bond your marriage together?
May 7, 2024
22 min

Everyone of us struggles with temptation—even Jesus faced temptations! What are the temptations we need to avoid that can wreck our marriage? And how is marriage uniquely designed so that we can help each other flee from temptations?Scriptures:Proverbs 5Proverbs 18:8Proverbs 13:201 Peter 1:16Questions to Discuss:1. What does it look like for you to flee from temptation?2. What temptations do you face? How can your spouse help you?3. How can you move the line, magnify the consequences, and map out your escape?4. What would be helpful for you to confess to your spouse and to your community to help you with your temptations?Resources:Book - Think Ahead: 7 Decisions You Can Make Today for the God-Honoring Life You Want Tomorrow, by Craig Groeschel
Apr 30, 2024
26 min

On this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek and Scott have an authentic and honest conversation with Aaron Smith from the ministry Marriage After God. We discuss pornography, intimacy issues, and the challenges many couples face. Aaron and his wife Jennifer hope to inspire individuals to draw closer to God and their spouse as they chase boldly after God’s purpose for their life together.Scriptures:Hebrews 4:151 Thessalonians 5:16-18Questions to Discuss:1. How are you and your spouse doing at consistently praying together?2. What’s one step you and your spouse can take to pray together on a more consistent basis?Resources:Aaron & Jennifer Smith’s Website – Marriage After GodThe Smiths new book – The Marriage Gift: 365 Prayers for Our MarriageAaron and Jennifer Smith’s Marriage Podcast – Marriage After God
Apr 23, 2024
33 min
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