Some words in marriage hurt loudly. Others hurt quietly. In this episode, Michelle Hays breaks down why the word “whatever” is one of the most dangerous in a relationship. You’ll learn how this small word acts as emotional shutdown, why it makes your partner feel unimportant, and how repeated moments of disengagement erode connection over time. Michelle also shares practical tools to replace “whatever” with language that creates emotional safety, repair, and closeness.🔗 Website: www.monarchforlove.com 📘 Book: www.awakenedheartsbook.com Instagram: @Monarchforlove TikTok @monarchforlove

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Ep. 195 - Stop Saying “I Love You.” Start Saying This Instead

Monarch for Love is where heart meets humor, healing, and a whole lot of honesty. I’m Michelle Hays, a Heart-Centered Marriage Coach, Columnist, Author, Speaker, and lover of big feelings and even bigger breakthroughs. Around here, we talk about what really happens after “I do."Think of this podcast as your weekly dose of soul food for relationships: part pep talk, part permission slip, and part practical guide to building love that lasts. Whether you’re navigating unmet expectations, emotional distance, or just trying to keep the romance alive between laundry loads and life’s chaos—I got you.Because love isn’t something you find or lose. It’s something you choose. And when you choose love on purpose, something beautiful happens: you feel seen, safe, and truly connected. Come be part of a heart-forward community of listeners who are learning, laughing, and loving on purpose because your marriage deserves more than just survival—it deserves to thrive!