
Hey beautiful people! What if you didn't have to lure anything into this moment — no worry, no anxiety, no "hurry up and get to the next thing" — and what if the good stuff started showing up on its own? In this mini meditation episode, I talk about taking custody of your own consciousness, getting out of the hurry-up cycle, and learning to just sit in right now. There's only one Now, baby, and it's right here. Stick around for the little guided meditation at the end. In this episode:The "hurry up" trap — how we rush through every single moment to get to the next one, only to rush through that one tooWherever you go, there you are: why nothing actually happens in the past or the future, only right nowEckhart Tolle's simplest doorway into the present — just ask yourself, "Am I still breathing?"Puppies versus politics — choosing what you let into your moment, being for peace instead of against warBliss blips: those little unprovoked blips of bliss that show up for no reason at all, and why they're tied straight to your meditation practiceA short guided meditation using a soft drishti, an environmental scan, and the Om Shanti mantraMentions and shoutouts:Joe Dispenza and the retreat that stuck with meWherever You Go, There You Are (I'm pretty sure that's Jon Kabat-Zinn)Eckhart Tolle, Yogananda, Dan Siegel's "flip your lid," and Mother Teresa's "I won't march against war, but I'll march for peace"The Vedas on life as a show we get to watchSeptember retreat at ilovetherapy.com with Sonic Yogi and an amazing Atlanta cellist joining usIf you've ever had a bliss blip, I want to hear about it — email me at [email protected] (it's Cheri with a C — wasn't my idea). And come meditate with us at ilovetherapy.com. Connect with me @thestresstherapist on Instagram and @stresstherapy on Twitter. Georgia residents — book a free consultation at thestresstherapist.com. Produced and edited by Owen Flake
Jul 1
22 min

Graduation season is here, and Cheri has a message for every new grad that she wishes she'd heard at 22 instead of figuring out the hard way: nobody is coming to save you. Not your parents, not your therapist, not the perfect partner, not your followers. And once you really get that, it's not depressing — it's the most freeing thing in the world. In this quickie episode, Cheri unpacks what it actually looks like to show up for yourself. She talks about why obsessing over how you look to attract the "right" person is a losing game (spoiler: all the dudes look the same after 60 anyway), why disappointment is almost always a sign you were outsourcing your wellbeing, and how taking 100% responsibility for your life is where the magic actually starts. She also gets into the social media trap — how scrolling through someone else's feed means you're paying attention to their agenda instead of your own — and makes the case for being the master and commander of your own attention. You don't have to record your life. You don't have to report on it. The quietest lives can be the richest ones. The episode wraps with a short seated meditation on letting thoughts come and go without judgment, plus a homework assignment: next time you're standing in line at the grocery store or waiting at the dentist, leave the phone in your pocket. Just stand there. Notice what you're thinking. That's it. It used to be normal. We've lost it. Time to get it back. A few things Cheri wants you to walk away with:You are the person you've been waiting for. Be her. Be him.Pick the kindest partner. Looks fade, kindness compounds.Walk away from people who aren't bringing out your best — no animosity, no diagnosis, just go.Disappointment = you were relying on something outside yourself. Take that as data.Sitting and doing nothing is not lazy. It's a skill, and it's becoming a rare one.Connect with Cheri: Instagram: @thestresstherapist Twitter: @stresstherapy Retreats and offerings: ilovetherapy.com Georgia residents — book a free consultation at thestresstherapist.com Produced and edited by Owen Flake.
May 19
15 min

Hey beautiful people! It's Maycember — that wild stretch of end-of-school-year chaos and springtime new beginnings. Instead of piling more onto your plate, I'm sharing a few tiny cognitive tweaks that can shift everything, plus a quick moment of stillness to get you through. I also open up about a recent scary diagnosis and why I'm refusing to own it. Rare but possible, baby. In this episode:Why you should never "own" a diagnosis (mental or physical) — the language we use shapes our identity and our healingThree cognitive flips that change everything: "I have to" becomes "I get to," "what if" becomes "even if," and the quiet magic of "wouldn't it be nice if…"A 16-second bliss break you can do anywhere — shoutout to my friend Davidji for this oneMentions and shoutouts:Catch Stress Therapy the show on New Reality TV (Roku, Apple TV, Fire TV)Huge congrats to the Chamblee High School varsity tennis team heading to state finalsStanford is studying energy healers and their effect on cancer cells — science is catching up to the woo wooSeptember 23–27 retreat with a sale running this week at ilovetherapy.comIf you spot a "Rare But Possible" t-shirt out there, please send it my wayConnect with me @thestresstherapist on Instagram and @stresstherapy on Twitter. Georgia residents — book a free consultation at ilovetherapy.com.Produced and edited by Owen Flake
May 2
10 min

Hey, beautiful people. Let's talk about intuition — that knowing in your gut that you can't quite explain but you absolutely cannot ignore. In this episode, I'm sharing the full story of how I spent months smelling smoke before my office actually caught fire, predicted the flood that came after, and what all of that taught me about trusting the voice inside that doesn't speak in words. We're getting into why meditation is the single best thing you can do to sharpen your intuition, how to tell the difference between ego noise and real guidance, and why "listen to the listener" is the most important thing anyone's ever said to me at a silent retreat. Plus we do a beautiful guided meditation together — heart center breathing up through the third eye — to help you connect with that wise, divine, knowing part of yourself. Because you already know everything you need to know. You just have to get quiet enough to hear it. 🧘♀️ 💡 3 Key TakeawaysIntuition isn't reserved for psychics or special people — it's in all of us. Meditation is what turns up the volume. The more you sit, the more available your wise self becomes.If the voice you're hearing is mean, identity-based, or ego-driven ("you're a bad person"), that's not intuition — that's your ego throwing a fit. Real intuition tends to arrive quietly, from nowhere, and it doesn't attack you.Nobody ever says "I shouldn't have listened to my gut." That alone tells you everything you need to know about how valuable this is.🔥 Episode HighlightsThe full fire premonition story — six months of smelling smoke, middle-of-the-night office checks, a husband who thought I was losing it, and the call from State Farm that proved I wasn'tMy six-year-old telling the police her mommy knew the office would burn down (great for the insurance claim, thanks kid)Predicting the flood days later — and pulling out every piece of paper and fabric just in timeWhy the Waze vs. your gut dilemma is the most relatable intuition test there isA psychiatrist who couldn't wrap his head around acupressure — and how far we've come since then with mind-body-soul connectionThe monk at a silent retreat who said "listen to the listener" and completely rewired my brainA guided heart center to third eye breathing meditation📣 Mentions & References🧠 "Listen to the Listener" — the teaching from a silent retreat that changed everything about how I understand intuition🧘 Heart Center to Third Eye Meditation — a breathing visualization connecting your heart space to your place of knowing💆 Somatic Work — body-based healing and why you can't throw a stick at the internet without hitting that word right now🏥 Chinese Medicine / Acupressure — thousands of years of wisdom we chose to ignore, and we're finally catching up👦 My son's take on therapy — "You think everything affects your mental" — yeah buddy, because it does✅ Try This WeekNext time you get a gut feeling — even a small one, like which way to turn — follow it. Then write it down. Start tracking when your intuition shows up and what it's telling you.Sit for 10 minutes a day this week. Just breathe. The more still you get, the louder that inner voice becomes.Ask yourself: is this thought ego or intuition? If it's attacking your identity, it's ego. If it arrived from nowhere and feels calm but certain, pay attention.🏡 Hang With Me🧘 Retreats — ilovetherapy.com, click on Retreats. Meditation, yoga, and people who get it.💌 thestresstherapist.com — therapy, retreats, and all the things📲 @thestresstherapist on Instagram | @stresstherapy on Twitter🎙️ Produced and edited by Owen Flake.
Apr 15
29 min

Okay, y'all. Your ego has been lying to you — and it's really good at it. In this episode, I'm breaking down the three sneaky ways your ego pulls you right out of your meditation practice every single time: time, body, and environment. We're talking fake sore throats, alarming thoughts about whether you left the front door open, and the "brilliant idea" trap that your ego absolutely loves to use on you. I'll also walk you through a gorgeous flower meditation using the mantra Aham Brahmasmi — because it's time to remind that divine, holy self of yours who's actually in charge. Spoiler: it's not your ego. You are the boss. Let's go. 🌸 💡 3 Key Learning PointsYour ego knows your weaknesses — time, body discomfort, and your to-do list — and it will use all of them to pull you off your cushion. Knowing that is half the battle.That sore throat, achy knee, or urgent thought to check the front door? It might be 100% your ego. Real but not real — but still real. You'll get it when you hear it.The mantra "This is all I'm supposed to be doing" isn't just motivation — it's ego defense. Use it.📣 Mentions & Shout-Outs🧠 Mantra of the episode: Aham Brahmasmi — "I am Brahman. I am the divine. I am connected to cosmic consciousness."🌸 Flower Meditation — A visualization practice for gently setting your ego's interruptions aside, petal by petal.💪 The Cheri Flake Willpower Challenge — 40 days of "I will" and "I won't" — a real-life lesson in what your body will fake to get you to quit.🍬 Hall's Cherry Cough Drop Gate — Possibly the most relatable addiction confession ever recorded.🧘 David G (davidg.com) — Cheri's beloved meditation teacher and the keeper of the Aham Brahmasmi mantra.🏡 Retreats with Cheri — Outdoor saunas, hot tubs, sound healing, group hypnotherapy, yin yoga, all-inclusive, zero dishes. Yes please.💌 thestresstherapist.com — Info on therapy, retreats, and joining the stress-free crew.📲 Follow Cheri: @thestresstherapist on Instagram | @stresstherapy on TwitterProduced and edited by Owen Flake.
Mar 18
33 min

Okay, y’all. Buckle up for a full-body reminder: there is nothing wrong with you. In this episode, I’m throwing down the truth about judgment (yours and everyone else’s), ego meltdowns, pink hair stereotypes, and what happens when you finally shut up long enough to hear what’s going on in your own head. We get real about red pepper anxiety, the silent retreat that changed me, and the quote that’s been living rent-free in my brain: “No one will ever love you the way you want to be loved… because that’s your job.” Spoiler: there’s also a blue breath meditation to clear out your throat chakra so you can speak your truth without all the noise. It’s part pep talk, part truth bomb, and all heart. Let’s go. 💡 3 Key Learning PointsYou’re the only one watching your red pepper game. Everyone else is busy with their own garlic.If you think others are judging you, check your own mirror. We tend to see in others what we’re doing ourselves.Let the ego talk—but don’t let it drive. You’re more than your opinions, your comparisons, and your raking style.📣 Mentions & Shout-Outs🎬 Wayne’s World – Cheri’s forever favorite (and a reminder that taste doesn’t have to be cool to be true).🧠 Quote of the day: “No one will ever love you the way you want to be loved… because that’s your job.”🧘♀️ Silent Retreat Stories – Featuring: raking epiphanies, bug goggles, and red pepper enlightenment.🎙️ Awaken Your Inner Awesomeness by Melissa Oatman – Fellow pink hair goddess and podcaster.💇♀️ Pink Hair as Botox – Cheri’s hairdresser said it best.🎤 Nancy Wilson from Heart – More pink hair legends.🎞️ The Incredible Shrinking Woman starring Lily Tomlin – Yes, we went there.✨ Chakra Talk – Meditation focused on the throat chakra using the “Hum” mantra.💌 ilovetherapy.com – Info on therapy, retreats, and joining the stress-free crew.📲 Follow Cheri: @hestresstherapist on Instagram | @stresstherapy on Twitter
Feb 11
29 min

✨ Episode Summary In this raw and hilarious episode, Cheri Flake (a.k.a. The Stress Therapist) lays it all out about meditation retreats—why they matter, what actually happens, and why silent retreats are the real game-changer. From ego flare-ups to full-on hornet attacks, Cheri shares stories from the cushion with her signature honesty and wit. She also breaks down why most retreats miss the mark after you leave—and how hers are built to help you make meditation a lifelong habit. There’s even a short guided yes/no body wisdom meditation to help you decide if a retreat is calling your name. 🧘 Three Key Learning PointsSilent retreats aren’t quiet escapes—they’re wake-up calls. They show you your mind, your habits, and how to finally befriend yourself.Cheri’s retreats focus on what happens after. You’ll learn how to actually keep meditating once you’re home—no guilt, no stress, no BS.Even imperfect retreats are transformational. Whether it’s a hurricane or a hornet sting, every moment is the practice.💬 Mentions & Shout-Outs🧘♀️ Southern Dharma Retreat Center – Cheri’s favorite silent retreat spot in NC🔊 Sonic Yogi – Providing sound healing at upcoming retreats📿 Jack Kornfield, Sharon Salzberg, David Chernikoff – Legendary retreat teachers🧱 The Brick – A digital detox device Cheri swears by📖 Yogaville – The unexpectedly serious retreat center where it all began🌀 That Time a Hurricane Hit the Retreat – Chaos + enlightenment💕 “Boyfriend Monk” Moment – A hilarious silent retreat crush story💌 Come Retreat With Me – Details at ilovetherapy.com🎧 Produced & Edited by: Owen Flake🎙️ Hosted by: Cheri Flake, The Stress Therapist
Jan 21
30 min

Episode Summary: In this heartfelt classic, Cheri Flake (aka the Stress Therapist) returns with timeless wisdom to help you rethink New Year’s resolutions—for good. With her signature mix of humor, honesty, and soul, Cheri shares why the January 1st “fresh start” fantasy sets us up to fail—and what to do instead. You'll learn her favorite fill-in-the-blank method for long-term goal setting, how to actually feel good about your goals (so your brain wants to do them), and why the whole year—not just one day—is magical. Bonus? A deeply soothing guided meditation featuring the mantra “Om” to help you embody your desires from the inside out. 💫 🧠 3 Key Learning Points:January 1st isn’t magical—you are. Sustainable change happens gradually, not in a flash. Stop waiting for a perfect day and start imperfectly now.Feel good = real change. If you feel bad about your goal, your brain thinks you don’t want it. Learn how to trick it into wanting transformation.Chunk it down. Use monthly check-ins and micro-goals to build big dreams into your real life without overwhelm or burnout.📣 Mentions & Shout-Outs:🧘 Upcoming Workshop: From Resolution to Routine – Jan 17, 2026 at Vista Yoga in Atlanta.🌴 Beach Retreat: March on beautiful Jekyll Island – sign up at ilovetherapy.com.🧵 Natural Life: Cheri’s favorite cozy brand – naturallife.com. "You can always change your mind" tee makes a cameo.🎵 Sonic Yogi: Provides the dreamy music during the meditation segment.✉️ Email List: Jump on it at ilovetherapy.com so you “don’t stress or miss one thing.”🎙️ Produced and edited by Owen Flake.💖 Hosted with heart by Cheri Flake, your Stress Therapist.
Jan 7
32 min

The holidays don’t magically create more time — but they do give us an opportunity to choose how we spend our energy. In this episode, Cheri Flake shares practical, compassionate ways to reduce holiday stress by setting boundaries, saying no without guilt, and intentionally choosing joy. Drawing from her 25+ years as a psychotherapist, Cheri explores why over-scheduling leads to burnout, how mindfulness can transform even the most dreaded holiday tasks, and why presence — not perfection — is the real gift of the season. This episode also includes a guided loving-kindness meditation to help you reconnect with peace, abundance, and love during a busy time of year. ✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:How to decide what to say yes and no to during the holidaysWhy complaining increases stress — and what to do insteadSimple mindfulness practices for shopping, gifting, and family gatheringsCreative, thoughtful gift-giving ideas (even if it’s not your love language)How being present can reduce anxiety, irritability, and overwhelmA short, heart-centered meditation to reset your nervous system🧘♀️ Mentioned in this episode:Weekly Meditate & Restore Yoga with Cheri at Vista Yoga (Atlanta)Upcoming Beach Retreat at Jekyll IslandSeptember meditation & yoga retreat (perfect gift idea!)📬 Stay Connected:Email Cheri to receive the Holiday Gift Guide & join the mailing list:[email protected]: thestresstherapist.comInstagram: @thestresstherapistTwitter/X: @stresstherapy🎧 Credits Host: Cheri FlakeProduced & Edited by: Owen Flake
Dec 24, 2025
35 min

✨ Episode Summary:In this heartwarming holiday episode, Cheri pops out of her retreat-mode to drop a cozy, candid Thanksgiving chat straight from her pink treehouse. Inspired by a silent meditation retreat and a real-talk moment with a client, she gets real about why gratitude sometimes feels forced—and how to gently shift into a more loving, ease-filled practice. With stories of chapstick, cranky teens, and making lunches with love, Cheri invites us to stop overthinking gratitude and start living it. This episode ends with a beautiful, breath-centered guided meditation on love and thankfulness.🔑 Key Learning Points:Gratitude doesn't need a journal. You don’t have to write it down to feel it—just find the good in everyday moments and let the thankfulness naturally flow.Resentment vs. Reverence. The way we frame our daily “chores” can turn obligation into a sacred act of service—and that shift changes everything.Love makes life taste better. Whether you're cooking, cleaning, or just breathing, doing it with love transforms your entire experience (and maybe even the flavor).💌 Mentions & Shout-Outs:🧘 Self-Realization Fellowship – Cheri’s recent silent meditation retreat that inspired this soulful drop-in.📚 Gratitude Journals – The pros, cons, and Cheri’s “just live it” alternative.💖 "It's Easy and I Like It" Tattoos – Cheri’s go-to mantra and mini gift from her talks.📺 NewRealityTV.com + URView TV – Where you can find Cheri’s video meditations.📬 Cheri’s Gift Guide & Retreat Newsletter – Sign up at TheStressTherapist.com to get it!📧 Email her anytime: [email protected]💕 Follow Cheri:Instagram: @thestresstherapistTwitter/X: @stresstherapy🎧 Produced by Owen Flake – Mixing the vibes and polishing the magic, thank you for making it all sound so good!
Nov 19, 2025
32 min
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