You’re hurt about something that’s happened in your relationship. But should you say something? Is it just your thoughts? When should you speak up and when should you change the way you’re thinking about something? This is exactly what we’re talking about in today’s episode! Ready? Let’s dive in. Mentioned in the episode: 1:1 coaching with Rebecca - [email protected] to feel calm when they're not responding - Private podcast

Do you see other people posting their engagement photos, or baby shower pictures and feeling envious? Or maybe you see people posting their travelling pictures - and start to feel dissatisfied with the lack of travelling you’ve done lately? Or maybe you see your best friend’s boyfriend spoiling her with expensive gifts, and you start to compare that to your own relationship - where your partner's idea of romance is splitting a chicken masala from the local takeaway. Comparison can leave us f...

Ever felt an intense feeling of shame when someone is upset with you? Well... I've had a couple of situations happen recently. One with my wife and one with a close friend of mine - where I experienced feelings of both shame & anxiety, after making a mistake. My brain jumped to thoughts like: 'I'm not good enough' 'I'm a bad friend' I even started catastrophising to... 'What if my friend doesn't forgive me?' 'What if the whole friendship group falls out with me over this?' So today...

Today I'm answering a question from a listener. "My boyfriend of 1.5 years and I started out having an open relationship. Turned out that this wasn't a good fit for me due to my insecurities and brought on anxiety that was unmanageable. "Now my boyfriend has agreed to be in a monogamous relationship with me. I find my self feeling "guilty" that he is now in a different style of relationship than what he initially wanted, and worried that he will inevitably change his mind and we will have t...

Is your fear of losing them pushing them away? Are you feeling so anxious that it’s getting in between you and your partner - or maybe you and your friends - when all you want is to feel closer to them? In today’s episode, I’m talking about 5 ways a fear of losing someone actually pushes the people we love away. And I’m offering you practical ways to start to challenge these subconscious patterns, and create connection with them instead. Mentioned in the episode: 1:1 coaching with R...

Don’t like thirst trap pictures on Instagram. Don’t reply if your ex messages you. Don’t go for drinks with your female co-worker, unless other people are going. Sometimes we set rules for our partners as a way to avoid or manage our own fears and anxieties. Other times, we really don’t want to be okay with a certain kind of behaviour. In this episode, I help you get better at making that judgement call - and manage your mind in the face of any behaviour in your relationship. Mentioned in...

Today I’m answering real-life questions from listeners on their real-life relationship problems. Including: A person whose partner has expressed frustration when she’s upsetAnd boundaries around following people of the opposite sex on Instagram. Unless you’re the person that wrote it - you likely aren’t in either of those exact situations. That’s okay! Don’t skip the episode - because the way I coach on these topics is likely to help you see your own relationship mind drama in a new way, an...

Do you find yourself getting a little too attached too quickly in dating? Maybe you’ve met the person twice, but find your mood is completely dependant on whether they’ve replied to your message yet. Or maybe you feel like dating is a rollercoaster, and even when you didn’t really know the person - the rejection feels unbearable. If so, this episode is for you! I’m talking about why people get so attached in early dating, the signs to look out for, and what to do to stop this pattern and dat...

Do you ever worry that you’re just not lovable? When someone rejects you, or if someone has cheated, left, or rejected you in the past - does your brain jump to: I’m not good enough. There’s something wrong with me? If so - this episode is for you. We’re talking about what it really means to be lovable, and why how much someone loves you actually has nothing to do with you as a person. Mentioned in the episode: Your Self-Trust Bubble: How to stop spiralling in the face of rejection1:1 coach...

Protect your peace, it’s their job to meet your needs, heal before you get into a relationship… The online space is LOUD and full of well-intended relationship advice. But of course - the most common advice can sometimes be a little black-or-white - when in reality, relationships are filled with shades of grey. So we’re going to discuss more nuanced approaches to common relationship advice in today’s episode. Mentioned in the episode: Your Self-Trust Bubble - How to stop spiralling in th...