Building community and connection when you’re starting over in a new place can be really tough. And it’s especially hard when you’re doing it every 2-3 years! So, what can we do to make starting over after a military move a little easier on ourselves? This week, military spouse & podcast host Alison joins me to share the good, the bad, and the ugly of “starting over” as a military spouse - and what she created to provide more support to our community during these times of transition.    We’re exploring: How we can support each other as military spouses during (and after!) a move Thinking outside the box in military life How Alison is contributing to the military spouse network with her podcast, The Unspoken Life of the Military Wife Some of the BIGGEST struggles that can come up with frequent moves, and finding resources to help! Moving to a new duty place as an introvert One of the BEST pieces of advice Alison was given when she was put on her first ship And so much more!   Connect with Alison on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themilspousepodcast/   Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call   Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/   Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Get ready for a giant permission slip as we debunk some post-deployment myths! You’re not alone if you’ve experienced pressure to fill countless desires either before or after your spouse's deployment. Get ready to set some new boundaries! In today’s episode, we are discussing decorating for homecoming, hosting family and friends, sex, cooking ALL the meals and everything in between!   I’m exploring: Military 101: POV: What this stands for specifically as related to the Military How to NOT feel bad about your boundaries Top 5 Tips to navigate common requests in a way that feels good for both of you What to do if your spouse is using their return as an excuse to do ONLY the things they want to do Decorating for your spouse’s return and how to get signs made for free The psychology behind THIS does not lead to great things What you AREN’T responsible for when it comes to their demands And so much more!    Grab the Deployment Survival Guide Here: http://lindsaycavanagh.com/deployment-survival-guide   Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call   Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/   Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

It's easy to get caught in the magic of planning for homecoming, almost creating this fairy tale in our heads of how great it will be. I don't care how many deployments you have done, this adjustment period of reintegration can be COMPLICATED. There are not enough people talking about HOW to deepen your marriage with someone you haven’t seen or talked to in months and WHAT the appropriate preparation is. Let’s dive into this episode, where I’ll help you set realistic expectations so it can go smoothly for you. I’m exploring: Military 101 - O.H.A - What this stands for and when you can use it Why you will have to learn how to live together again and my best tips for this How our expectations might not match the reality of what will happen The TOP questions you can start asking your spouse in the weeks leading up to their arrival The story of our first reintegration and how it was NOT what I expected at all My BEST tip that can help you avoid this type of fight altogether Ideas for reintegration with kids And so much more!    Grab the Deployment Survival Guide Here: http://lindsaycavanagh.com/deployment-survival-guide   Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call   Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/   Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Being a Military spouse is not your ONLY identity, but it is a big part of it. This is something that other people might not understand because they aren’t exposed to this type of lifestyle. Joining me today are Kodie and Felicia, two Military spouses who built a deep and fast relationship because of this lifestyle and have created a safe space for you to come and feel inclusive while normalizing everything that’s going on. Through curveballs that are thrown your way during deployment, negative experiences you might be going through or finding your own support system, we will cover IT ALL to help you be prepared, find friendship and have fun!   We’re exploring:  Military 101: A.I.T: what it is and what it stands for How Kodie & Felicia became BFFs  Organic Friendship and Military challenges  How being a Military spouse impacted them professionally and personally Kofe Confessions and how it’s a space where comments can be demystified  Their TOP tips for deployment and how communication plays a key role How knowing the stages of deployment will help you And so much more!   Check out Kodie & Felicia: ​​​​https://msha.ke/kofeconfessions/#links Connect with them on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kofeconfessions/ Grab the Deployment Survival Guide Here: http://lindsaycavanagh.com/deployment-survival-guide   Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/   Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Whether you’re prepping for your first deployment or you’ve been a part of the Military for 30 years, the gift behind what Becky & Joanna have created is something we ALL can benefit from! Join us as we discuss taking deployment from a season focused on counting down the days for your spouse to return into a season where you can be focused on making every day count! Whatever season you're in, we're going to make it easier for you.   We’re diving into: Military 101: The term ‘down range’ and what it means if you hear the phrase How Becky & Joanna started their businesses and blog  The story behind Military life bringing them to their dream career and how they had to take that first step An uplifting, encouraging and forward-looking space you can join (I’ll be there, too!) Their TOP 8 tips for getting through deployment Tons of free resources you can start using today And so much more!   Follow them on IG: https://www.instagram.com/pillardeploymentretreat/   Jo’s personal blog: https://jomygosh.com/   Get a deployment countdown box: https://bravecrates.com/   Sign up for the 2022 Retreat: https://pillardeploymentretreat.com/   Listen to workshops from 2020 & new episodes every month: https://pillardeploymentretreat.com/podcast    Grab the Deployment Survival Guide Here: http://lindsaycavanagh.com/deployment-survival-guide   Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call   Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/ Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Deployments are hard. ESPECIALLY if you're going in blind and trying to figure it out as you go, which is what happened with today’s guest, Meredith Snyders. She’s sharing her story about overcoming mistrust in friend circles and how she turned that negative experience around so we can benefit from it. Whether you’re looking for a distraction from the struggles of deployment or a way to admit that you’re tired of pretending to be doing great when you’re not, this episode is for you.   We’re diving into: Military 101 - F.O.U.O - what it stands for and when you might see this How normalizing Meredith’s difficulties turned into a workbook for others Isolating situations and relatable early experiences during deployment A healthy way to stay busy as a positive distraction while you’re struggling What can happen if you don’t feel like you have a community you can trust And so much more!    Get Meredith’s Book Just Stay Busy: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09RLRHMR1   Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call   Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/   Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Are you worried about a lack of communication while your spouse is gone? Do the thoughts of dealing with challenges while they’re away bring you all sorts of uneasy feelings? Today, I will help you work around the most common communication challenges during deployment, different types of scenarios you can expect and how to maximize ALL of the options that you DO have so you can feel better, more prepared and with surprises along the way!  I’m exploring: Military 101: FA or Field Artillery Branch My 4 BEST Tips for managing deployment communication Learning to build a strong foundation with words What you can do if you HAVEN’T heard from your spouse  Who you can call on for support while your spouse is away Being careful what you say during deployment and my secret workaround  And so much more!   Grab the Deployment Survival Guide Here: http://lindsaycavanagh.com/deployment-survival-guide   Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call   Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/   Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Whether this is your first deployment or your tenth, I want to give you a REALISTIC picture of what goes on during deployments and help you prepare to better manage them with more ease and happiness. Join me as I unpack the MOST common myths and fears associated with deployment, discuss the top things that people worry about, and debunk a few not-so-good rumors.   I’m exploring: Military 101: Statistics of women in the Military Top 7 MYTHS about Deployment that you need to know about  Discussing the TRUTH about long and short deployments What to do when communication feels out of your control How recognizing that it WILL be challenging can help you feel BETTER  Cheating in the Military and stats that might SHOCK you And so much more!  Grab the Deployment Survival Guide Here: http://lindsaycavanagh.com/deployment-survival-guide   Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call   Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/   Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

It's one thing to miss your significant other on a normal day but another thing entirely to miss them on holidays or other important dates. Whether you’re heading into your first holiday without your spouse, are as prepared as you think you can be or have recently been totally caught off guard with it all, I can’t wait to share my tips with you! You will learn how to ask for help when you need it, set boundaries without feeling bad and figure out your own unique and special ways to feel connected while they are away.   I’m exploring: Military 101: AOR: what it is and why it’s important My top 6 tips for getting through and THRIVING during the holidays  How you can ask for support and set boundaries with those you love Things to look out for when it comes to arranging holiday plans My own deployment holiday examples and what I do NOW How to prioritize YOUR needs during big events (without feeling guilty) This ONE expectation to help you through the day And so much more!   Grab the Deployment Survival Guide Here: http://lindsaycavanagh.com/deployment-survival-guide Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call   Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/   Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869