Have you ever said, "We got in a big fight about something so small and stupid!" It happens in every marriage when there is emotional pain behind a "small and stupid" logistical problem. In this episode, Jenna and Aaron reverse engineer their fight about a toothbrusher charger and how something so small and stupid had the potential to create a lot of disconnection but didn't. >>> Would you consider financially supporting our shows? <<<We set-up a secure way for you to do that. This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!

Do you know what prolongs most conflict? The thing that keeps people stuck in disconnect? The pursuit of fairness.Why? Because it hinders love itself. Jesus didn't model fairness in His life or sacrifice. He modeled sacrificial love. Love, as Jesus modeled it, will transform your marriage. >>> Would you consider financially supporting our shows? <<<We set-up a secure way for you to do that. This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!

In this episode, our friends Megan and Dalen Philp (not Philips...woops sorry guys) share the hope they found in their marriage of 20 years after they began to deconstruct the gender roles that they'd held onto so inflexibly for so many years. >>> Would you consider financially supporting our shows? <<<We set-up a secure way for you to do that. This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!

In this episode, we break down 10 helpful beliefs about sharing pain. Get the infographic notes here.>>> Would you consider financially supporting our shows? <<<We set-up a secure way for you to do that. This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!

Jenna and Aaron share 7 unhelpful beliefs people have (they themselves used to have) about sharing pain with your spouse. Stay tuned for an episode on the helpful beliefs!Here is a review of those 7 unhelpful beliefs:Tell them everything I’m thinkingReveal to them how they hurt meGet them to see how they failed meI can resolve my hurt by hearing an apology/admission of guiltThis is urgent. Don’t go to bed angry (two sleepy dysregulated people are horrible communicators)The goal of conflict is to eliminate future pain or to become pain freeIt’s a one and done. If we can have this convo long enough we will fix it once and for allPlease rate, review & share the podcast!>>> Would you consider financially supporting our shows? <<<We set-up a secure way for you to do that. This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLab------------------------------------------------------------Aaron run's online small groups for men wanting to get connected, pursue growth and walk in sexual wholeness. Check out  his book on the same subject.  Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn.------------------------------------------------------------For more on what the Zints have to offer, check out ZintSquad.com where you can book couples coaching & individual coaching. >>> Would you consider financially supporting our shows? <<<We set-up a secure way for you to do that. This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLab>>> Would you consider financially supporting our shows? <<<We set-up a secure way for you to do that. This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!

In this episode, we interview our friends Anna & Alan Mullikin who share about the breaking of a ten year cycle. We were so encouraged by their story and know that this testimony is for everyone who's felt hopeless in their own cycles of pain and hurt in their marriage. You can follow Anna at Please rate, review & share the podcast!>>> Would you consider financially supporting our shows? <<<We set-up a secure way for you to do that. This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLab------------------------------------------------------------Aaron run's online small groups for men wanting to get connected, pursue growth and walk in sexual wholeness. Check out  his book on the same subject.  Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn.------------------------------------------------------------For more on what the Zints have to offer, check out ZintSquad.com where you can book couples coaching & individual coaching. >>> Would you consider financially supporting our shows? <<<We set-up a secure way for you to do that. This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!

We interviewed our friends Joaquin and Renee Evans pastor a church called Bethel Austin in Austin, Texas. In this episode they share about what it requires of them to co-pastor a large church while staying connected in their marriage and in their family life. They hit on:BoundariesIntentionalitySigns of disconnectionTime to get away just the two of themStaying connected to mentors and peersPlease rate, review & share the podcast!>>> Would you consider financially supporting our shows? <<<We set-up a secure way for you to do that. This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLab------------------------------------------------------------Join Jenna's life-changing Habit Mastery Course!------------------------------------------------------------Aaron run's online small groups for men wanting to get connected, pursue growth and walk in sexual wholeness. Check out  his book on the same subject.  Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn.------------------------------------------------------------For more on what the Zints have to offer, check out ZintSquad.com where you can book couples coaching & individual coaching. >>> Would you consider financially supporting our shows? <<<We set-up a secure way for you to do that. This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!

In a previous episode, we when into depth about no requiring an apology from your spouse when you felt hurt from them but rather focusing on sharing your heart in order to be known. This is one side of the coin for us. And an important one at that. The other side is that due to not requiring apologies from each other, we wind up giving way more genuine apologies than ever before. In this episode, we talk about how the lack of requiring an apology from each other and the grace that accompanies that allows for genuine repentence and a desire to change in order to take better care of each other's heart. Isn't this the basis of Romans 2:4, that His kindness is meant to lead us to repentence and not his anger, guilt or shame? That's what He does for us and we want to be more like Him. This is one of the ways we do that.Please rate, review & share the podcast!------------------------------------------------------------Join Jenna's life-changing Habit Mastery Course!Registration for next round begins January 3, 2024.------------------------------------------------------------Aaron run's online small groups for men wanting to get connected, pursue growth and walk in sexual wholeness. Check out  his book on the same subject.  Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn.------------------------------------------------------------For more on what the Zints have to offer, check out ZintSquad.com where you can book couples coaching & individual coaching. >>> Would you consider financially supporting our shows? <<<We set-up a secure way for you to do that. This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLab>>> Would you consider financially supporting our shows? <<<We set-up a secure way for you to do that. This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLab>>> Would you consider financially supporting our shows? <<<We set-up a secure way for you to do that. This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!

Choosing a spouse is choosing the person you'd like to offer the most forgiveness to of anyone else over a lifetime. Why? Because the intimacy in marriage creates more opportunity for hurt than any other relationship. Therefore, to have a thriving marriage, we must lean into the heart of Jesus and forgive each other like He forgave us. Generously, for the big and the little trangresses, without measure. Especially when we feel we've been hurt by our spouse so often or so deeply, it can feel like an injustice to offer forgiveness. It feels unfair. Like they don't deserve it. It feels like "healthy boundaries" to withhold it. And yet, Jesus showed us a better way. One that actually produces transformation. That way is forgiveness. It's part of what loving your spouse means and love never fails.Please rate, review & share the podcast!------------------------------------------------------------Join Jenna's life-changing Habit Mastery Course!Registration for next round begins January 3, 2024.------------------------------------------------------------Aaron run's online small groups for men wanting to get connected, pursue growth and walk in sexual wholeness. Check out  his book on the same subject.  Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn.------------------------------------------------------------For more on what the Zints have to offer, check out ZintSquad.com where you can book couples coaching & individual coaching. >>> Would you consider financially supporting our shows? <<<We set-up a secure way for you to do that. This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLab>>> Would you consider financially supporting our shows? <<<We set-up a secure way for you to do that. This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!

Have you ever been trying to honestly explain what you're thinking or feeling and say the words "Part of me feels..." or "Part of me thinks..."? Most people do intuitively. In this episode we talk about how to utilize this phrase into our communciation with our spouse to give the most accurate picture of what's happening inside of us. We also explore how this is used in therapy and how you can use it to bring more compassion and connection within yourself. Please rate, review & share the podcast!------------------------------------------------------------Join Jenna's life-changing Habit Mastery Course! Registration for next round begins January 3, 2024. ------------------------------------------------------------Aaron run's online small groups for men wanting to get connected, pursue growth and walk in sexual wholeness. Check out  his book on the same subject.  Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn.------------------------------------------------------------For more on what the Zints have to offer, check out ZintSquad.com where you can book couples coaching & individual coaching. >>> Would you consider financially supporting our shows? <<<We set-up a secure way for you to do that. This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!