Struggling to connect with your partner? Feeling stuck in a cycle of fixing and being fixed?This episode dives deep into the transformative power of vulnerability in relationships, especially for men. You'll hear expert healer Ryan Ginn and Luke Adler explore why one-sided "fixing" destroys intimacy and how embracing vulnerability can unlock a whole new level of connection and healing with your partner.Here's what you'll get out of this episode:Break free from the "fixer" role: Discover why it holds you back and how to step into a more authentic space in your relationship.The power of vulnerability: Learn how to create a safe space for open communication and emotional intimacy with your partner.Uncovering your hidden depths: Explore how unresolved traumas and "shadow aspects" can impact your relationships and what you can do to integrate them for a more fulfilling connection.It's not just for women: This episode tackles the misconception that emotional intelligence is a feminine trait. You'll discover tools and strategies to develop your own emotional awareness.The call to manhood: Embark on a journey of self-discovery and break the code of your true essence. Learn how seeking support from trusted friends and professionals can empower you to become the best partner you can be.Ready to ditch the "fixer" role and build a stronger, more fulfilling relationship? This episode is your roadmap.

Jason Lange and I explore shifting from the habit of using masturbation and ejaculation as a primary tool for self-regulation and emotional release to the practice of checking in with a group. We examine how ejaculation is not just a release of sexual energy but also a release of emotions. Checking in, on the other hand, involves the process of turning towards a men's group and bringing forth one's pain and emotions. The episode emphasizes the benefits of checking in over jerking off, including deepening connections, building resilience, and enhancing communication skills. It also discusses the importance of creating a safe space within a group for vulnerability and authenticity, allowing individuals to heal and transform. The episode addresses the misguided approaches of shame-based pushing and traditional alpha culture, highlighting the power of sensitivity and being with one's emotions. Overall, the podcast promotes the idea that connection and vulnerability lead to true healing and personal growth.

This podcast delves into the resistance to feeling and the tendency to rely on understanding and control as a means of avoiding emotional experiences. Luke and Jason Lange emphasize the importance of connecting with the direct experience of the body and embracing emotions as integral to deepening personal growth. They highlight the role of fear in keeping individuals stuck in their heads and offer insights on how to navigate through it. We discuss the significance of community and the power of shared experiences in supporting emotional healing and transformation. Overall, we encourage men to step into their vulnerability, trust the process of feeling, and recognize the profound impact it can have on relationships and personal well-being.

In this podcast episode, Luke Adler and Shana James delve into the topic of relationships and how vulnerability and healing can build intimacy and connection. They share personal experiences and explore the challenges of staying present in moments of conflict. The conversation highlights the importance of acknowledging and apologizing for past hurts, while also creating a safe space for open communication. They discuss the impact of societal expectations and gender roles on relationships and the role vulnerability plays in fostering a more balanced and loving partnership. The podcast seeks to inspire listeners to embrace vulnerability and prioritize connection in their own relationships.

 My friend Claudia Ponton and I team up to delve into the topic of empathy and its importance in deep, committed relationships. We discuss the challenges of finding empathy in moments of conflict and the need for a deep apology to foster connection. I share a personal experience in my marriage where I had to confront my defensiveness and lack of empathy towards my wife's needs. I explain the transformative power of sitting quietly and tuning into my emotions before extending empathy to another. The conversation explores the dynamics of vulnerability, shame, and the discomfort of sitting with someone's suffering without trying to immediately fix it. Claudia and I highlight the significance of developing empathy skills in relationships and how it can lead to a stronger, more loving connection.

Chinese medicine goes beyond just fixing physical ailments – it offers a blueprint for living a meaningful and empowered life. In this captivating episode, Dr Yvonne Farrell and I explore the difference between agenda and intent in the context of Chinese medicine and highlight the importance of empowering patients to take responsibility for their own health. We discuss the limitations of a fix-it approach and emphasize the need for practitioners to create a space where patients can choose their own healing paths. The conversation also delves into the profound wisdom of the Eight Extraordinary Vessels, shedding light on their role in grounding us in the face of change and discomfort. With a strong focus on authenticity and tribe, we share our passion for building community within the Chinese medicine field and creating a supportive network of practitioners. This episode offers valuable insights and invites listeners to embark on a transformative journey towards holistic well-being.

Jason Lange and I explore the deep sense of hurt that many men experience, particularly in our current polarizing and disconnected society. We emphasize the importance of shadow work, confronting our vulnerabilities, and diving deep into our feelings to find healing and connection. We challenge the notion that men should hide their pain or disconnect from their emotions, and instead, advocate for embracing our full range of experiences to create a life of passion and purpose. By opening ourselves up to feeling, we can tap into our life force and energy, creating a more beautiful world not just for ourselves, but for those around us as well. Through shadow work, we aim to create a culture where it's permissible for men to feel and seek support, leading to profound personal and societal transformation.

This is a 4 minute micro episode from a planning conversation Dr Yvonne Farrell and I recently had regarding our upcoming Heart of the Eight Extraordinary Vessels Training at Breitenbush Hotspring March 28th - April 1st. We talking logistical, when Yvonne started dropping clinical pearls. I had to hit record. She talks about the difference between intent and agenda in various healing practices. Then we discuss how acupuncturists are often trained to fix people, crather than letting go of the agenda and embracing the role of witness. By providing information and empowering patients, practitioners can help individuals take back their sovereignty and heal themselves. The focus shifts from fixing brokenness to developing a deeper relationship with oneself and cultivating compassion. Yvonne closes the 3 minute talk with how being human entails both pain and bliss, and through self-awareness and embracing the journey, individuals can create a more therapeutic environment for themselves and others.

In this podcast episode, I speak with Dr. Robin Hertz Ph.D, Clinical Psychologist. We delve into the concept of holding space and its profound impact on healing and group dynamics. We emphasize the importance of holding space for oneself first, recognizing one's own emotions and presence. We cover the pitfalls of minimizing emotions and offer insights on embracing intensity and allowing emotions to unfold naturally. The conversation highlights the power of group dynamics in facilitating deep healing, as well as the role of modeling vulnerability and authentic expression. The podcast also explores the challenges of rank and sovereignty within a group setting, and the need for discernment when offering advice or guidance. Overall, it offers a rich exploration of holding space as a catalyst for transformation and connection.

Jason Lange and I delve into the transformative power of fighting for love and connection in relationships. We highlight the importance of bringing shadow work into the realm of relationships to prevent the dulling of vital energy and the projection of unresolved pain and wounds onto our partners. We share our personal experiences as men in long-term relationships, discussing how ourwork in the Heart of Shadow program and with each other has positively impacted ourmarriages. We emphasize the need for men to take responsibility for their own wounding and engage in healthy confrontation and conflict resolution to maintain the polarity and vitality of their relationships. Jason and I highlight the significance of men seeking support and guidance from other men, as traditional cultural conditioning often lacks emotional intelligence and sensitivity. The episode concludes by highlighting the rapid healing and growth that can occur through consistent engagement in shadow work within a supportive group setting.