Zara and I had the pleasure of sitting down with Berthe and Maturin for an exclusive interview regarding marriage, and marriage with children. They gave very unique insights, and we're quite fortunate to have been able to learn from them.  Enjoy!  =============================================================== DONATING or SHARING …. are the two biggest things that you can do if you want to support and/or be involved in some way. I want to keep doing this, and with your help, I can keep on keep’n on ;D Here’s the donation link: https://anchor.fm/LoveHaShem/support If you share via Instagram, feel free to tag @flowmindset: Thanks for listening! -------------------- (^_^) Stay connected via Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/flowmindset/ YouTube: www.youtube.com/user/TheLinguisticFight Twitter: https://twitter.com/Flow_Mindset Tumblr: linguisticfight.tumblr.com/

Get Real, Get Married is written by Aleeza Ben Shalom, and we highly recommend it. Keep an open mind.  For our related Publish0x blog regarding this book -- check out this link HERE   https://www.publish0x.com/loveviahashem/get-real-get-married-00-first-commit-xryenkz?a=Jrb2Rv1AbW&tid=LoveViaHashem =============================================================== DONATING or SHARING …. are the two biggest things that you can do if you want to support and/or be involved in some way. I want to keep doing this, and with your help, I can keep on keep’n on ;D Here’s the donation link: https://anchor.fm/LoveHaShem/support If you share via Instagram, feel free to tag @flowmindset: Thanks for listening! -------------------- (^_^) Stay connected via Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/flowmindset/ YouTube: www.youtube.com/user/TheLinguisticFight Twitter: https://twitter.com/Flow_Mindset Tumblr: linguisticfight.tumblr.com/

Get Real, Get Married is written by Aleeza Ben Shalom, and we highly recommend it. One of the important aspects to takeaway is knowing yourself, and just how important that is.   For our related Publish0x blog regarding this book -- check out this link HERE   https://www.publish0x.com/loveviahashem/get-real-get-married-00-first-commit-xryenkz?a=Jrb2Rv1AbW&tid=LoveViaHashem =============================================================== DONATING or SHARING …. are the two biggest things that you can do if you want to support and/or be involved in some way. I want to keep doing this, and with your help, I can keep on keep’n on ;D Here’s the donation link: https://anchor.fm/LoveHaShem/support If you share via Instagram, feel free to tag @flowmindset: Thanks for listening! -------------------- (^_^) Stay connected via Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/flowmindset/ YouTube: www.youtube.com/user/TheLinguisticFight Twitter: https://twitter.com/Flow_Mindset Tumblr: linguisticfight.tumblr.com/

Welcome to Season 2 of Love via HaShem! In this episode, we’re talking about the tools below, and how they can help strengthen your relationship. Slack Google Keep Google Drive Google Photos Alexa (Amazon Echo) Keep in mind that tools are only as good as how you use them. Also, how the marriage is in other areas might be more important - consider taking care of them first. All in all, where you focus your attention in your relationship is up to you. Hard work and learning is a part of the mix in the journey for nuptial success. =============================================================== DONATING or SHARING …. are the two biggest things that you can do if you want to support and/or be involved in some way. I want to keep doing this, and with your help, I can keep on keep’n on ;D Here’s the donation link: https://anchor.fm/LoveHaShem/support If you share via Instagram, feel free to tag @flowmindset: Thanks for listening! -------------------- (^_^) Stay connected via Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/flowmindset/ YouTube: www.youtube.com/user/TheLinguisticFight Twitter: https://twitter.com/Flow_Mindset Tumblr: linguisticfight.tumblr.com/ Duolingo TinyCards Flashcards - tinycards.duolingo.com/users/Icystrider My Blog - http://flowmindset.wordpress.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lovehashem/support

This piece is called Sweet Evening, and it's performed by yours truly ;D  I decided to hop back on the guzheng after some time away, and I felt the desire to share some of this love with you... hoping that you enjoy!  ---- Sending you sunshine and love! (^_^* -----  (scroll to the bottom to find some general wiki information about the guzheng)  =============================================================== DONATING or SHARING …. are the two biggest things that you can do if you want to support and/or be involved in some way. I want to keep doing this, and with your help, I can keep on keep’n on ;D Here’s the donation link: https://anchor.fm/LoveHaShem/support If you share via Instagram, feel free to tag @flowmindset: Thanks for listening! -------------------- (^_^) Stay connected via Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/flowmindset/ YouTube: www.youtube.com/user/TheLinguisticFight Twitter: https://twitter.com/Flow_Mindset Tumblr: linguisticfight.tumblr.com/ Duolingo TinyCards Flashcards - tinycards.duolingo.com/users/Icystrider My Blog - http://flowmindset.wordpress.com ================== The zheng (Chinese: 箏; pinyin: zhēng; Wade–Giles: cheng) or guzheng (Chinese: 古箏; pinyin: gǔzhēng; lit.: 'ancient zheng'), is a Chinese plucked zither with a more than 2,500-year history. The modern guzheng commonly has 21, 25 or 26 strings, is 64 inches (1.6 m) long, and is tuned in a major pentatonic scale. It has a large, resonant soundboard made from Paulownia. Other components are often made from other woods for structural or decorative reasons. Guzheng players often wear fingerpicks made from materials such as plastic, resin, tortoiseshell, or ivory on one or both hands. The guzheng is ancestral to several other Asian zithers such as the Japanese koto,] the Korean gayageum and ajaeng, Mongolian yatga,the Vietnamese đàn tranh, the Sundanese kacapi and the Kazakhstan jetigen. The guzheng should not be confused with the guqin, a Chinese zither with 7 strings played without moveable bridges. The guzheng has gone through many changes during its long history. The oldest specimen yet discovered held 13 strings and was dated to around 500 BC, possibly during the Warring States period (475–221 BC). The guzheng became prominent during the Qin dynasty (221–206 BC). By the Tang Dynasty (618–907 AD) the guzheng may have been the most commonly played instrument in China. The guzheng is plucked by the fingers with or without plectra Most modern players use plectra that are attached to up to four fingers on each hand. Ancient picks were made of mundane materials such as bamboo, bone, and animal teeth or by finer materials such as ivory, tortoiseshell, and jade.  Traditional playing styles use the right hand to pluck notes and the left hand to add ornamentation such as pitch slides and vibrato by pressing the strings to the left of the movable bridges. Modern styles use both hands to play on the right side of the strings. There are many techniques used to strike notes. One iconic sound is a tremolo produced by the right thumb rotating rapidly around the same note. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lovehashem/support

Welcome to Season 2 of Love via HaShem! This is the first episode of this season - S02E01 . I'm happily joined by my awesome wife Zara, and together we're hoping to bring you more content to boost your knowledge and understanding vis-a-vis love and relationships! So, what’s this 100/100 business about? Well, over the years, we’ve heard and seen quite a few examples where couples would go for a state of equality - known as 50/50. This episode explains why that is difficult, and mostly not the way to go for relationships, even though it sounds like a very fair option. To oversimplify - 50/50 starts to become troublesome for a couple to maintain because it assumes perfect conditions where each person has the ability, time, or other resources in place to make their part of the deal work. You can see where this can be headed -- to a state of inflexibility. I handle the counter - you clean the floor. So, what happens if the baby is crying and you can’t do the floor in a timely manner? Well, under the 50/50 idea - that work just doesn’t get done … and it bottlenecks in the undone pile until you do the “responsible thing” and clean the floor like you’re “supposed to.” Can you see where this starts feeling unloving and cold? Quite unromantic if you ask me ;D So, what’s the answer? If you left to help the kid … I say “no worries” --  I’ll take care of your part too. Here we have it - flexible - loving - kind - and an idea that works! That is 100/100. =============================================================== DONATING or SHARING …. are the two biggest things that you can do if you want to support and/or be involved in some way. I want to keep doing this, and with your help, I can keep on keep’n on ;D Here’s the donation link: https://anchor.fm/LoveHaShem/support If you share via Instagram, feel free to tag @flowmindset: Thanks for listening! -------------------- (^_^) Stay connected via Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/flowmindset/ YouTube: www.youtube.com/user/TheLinguisticFight Twitter: https://twitter.com/Flow_Mindset Tumblr: linguisticfight.tumblr.com/ Duolingo TinyCards Flashcards - tinycards.duolingo.com/users/Icystrider My Blog - http://flowmindset.wordpress.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lovehashem/support

Welcome to Love via HaShem. This lesson is about Mashpia. After finding someone, write down your list: How do you feel around people? (determining chemistry) Ask about relationship with each parents Who is their Mashpia? What do you want out of life? What is something that their mother/father does which they like? What is something that your own mother/father do which you like and want to emulate in some way? It’s best to look introspectively at yourself, lest we get too interogative with the other person. Understanding ourselves can be just as important. Mashpia (Hebrew: משפיע‎) lit. "person of influence", pl. Mashpi'im (Hebrew: משפיעים‎) -- https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mashpia Who is their Mashpia? Is there anyone (elder prefered) guides them? When they are going in the wrong direction, who sounds the siren? Be careful of someone who has no points of authority, counselors, or advisors. It’s quite possible that they don’t like people telling them what to do. When you try to give them advice, maybe they won’t be so receptive. Perhaps they’ll tell you to stop acting like their mom, or to stop “preaching” at them, when all you’re trying to do is positively offer advice. Some people just want affirmation - “yes” humans around them, to make them feel good about every decision.  Everything that a person has, doesn’t have, says, and doesn’t say, all can be telling about them, their personality, and what direction they’re going in life. Let’s determine whether it’s the same path that you’re walking on. Write about what you want out of life. Where do you want to be in a year? Perhaps, you’d like to have your own business up and running by then, or to get healthy by changing how to eat and exercise …. Or whatever it is …. Understand yourself, and come to understand the other person. It shouldn’t be that a child wants to be NOTHING like their parents, or that NOTHING from them is worthy of passing down. That’s a red flag. So, find out what is it about their parent’s child-raising that they like. #Random … Speaking of children, never criticize your spouse in front of the children. Better yet, never criticize your spouse in front of anyone. Don’t scream/yell for/at that person who is close to you from another room. They’re not an animal. As much as possible, try to go up and talk to your dearest. :) ===============================================================  DONATING or SHARING …. are the two biggest things that you can do if you want to support and/or be involved in some way. I want to keep doing this, and with your help, I can keep on keep’n on ;D Here’s the donation link: https://anchor.fm/LoveHaShem/support If you share via Instagram, feel free to tag @flowmindset: Thanks for listening! -------------------- (^_^)  Stay connected via Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/flowmindset/  YouTube: www.youtube.com/user/TheLinguisticFight  Twitter: https://twitter.com/LinguisticFight  Tumblr: linguisticfight.tumblr.com/  Duolingo TinyCards Flashcards - tinycards.duolingo.com/users/Icystrider  My Blog - http://flowmindset.wordpress.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lovehashem/support

Seeing life as a race, makes a position of stale complacency of where you are, an impossibility! You cannot simply lie down in laziness, when you understand that this life is race, and the runners of this race, if they are temperate in all things, will succeed. Temperate is another way of saying ☯ balanced (think Yin and Yang). Don’t eat too much, don’t eat too little, be aware of how much you spend watching this, doing that, drinking here, and talking over there. The balance has to be just right. Talk to HaShem about clarity, and understand yourself and those matters/skills/things which you want to master. Success and mastery often doesn’t come all at once, so steady and mindfully face yourself, and what’s around you. And looking inwardly, if you’re disciplined, you’ll follow whatever it is that you’re preaching, staying authentic, and keeping the course.   [LVH 48, Torah 24, 1 Cor 9 Part 5] {E048 - Run the Right Race; Stay the Course 👟} Learn about the Five Levels of Pleasure HERE https://www.aish.com/sp/f/Five_Levels_of_Pleasure.html  Here are the pesukim (verses) below -  1 Corinthians 9 AMP (Amplified Bible)   24 Do you not know that in a race all the runners run [their very best to win], but only one receives the prize? Run [your race] in such a way that you may seize the prize and make it yours! 25 Now every athlete who [goes into training and] competes in the games is disciplined and exercises self-control in all things. They do it to win a crown that withers, but we [do it to receive] an imperishable [crown that cannot wither]. 26 Therefore I do not run without a definite goal; I do not flail around like one beating the air [just shadow boxing]. 27 But [like a boxer] I strictly discipline my body and make it my slave, so that, after I have preached [the gospel] to others, I myself will not somehow be disqualified [as unfit for service]. =============================================================== DONATING or SHARING …. are the two biggest things that you can do if you want to support and/or be involved in some way. I want to keep doing this, and with your help, I can keep on keep’n on ;D Here’s the donation link: https://anchor.fm/LoveHaShem/support  If you share via Instagram, feel free to tag @flowmindset: Thanks for listening! -------------------- (^_^) Stay connected via  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/flowmindset/ YouTube: www.youtube.com/user/TheLinguisticFight Twitter: https://twitter.com/LinguisticFight Tumblr: linguisticfight.tumblr.com/ Duolingo TinyCards Flashcards - tinycards.duolingo.com/users/Icystrider  My Blog - http://flowmindset.wordpress.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lovehashem/support

Have a list. Ask yourself some questions. Get to know yourself. What are you looking for? Understand enough to be able to recognize your spouse. Are you comfortable with that person when you do meet them?  Ask them about their father (if they’re male). Ask about their mother (if female). The relationship with their parents could be telling of their personality and how they will be in their relationship with you. Are they preoccupied with that emotion against their parent? That may translate into that person not YET having the emotional resources to be a spouse. They have unresolved feelings which are hampering and they should get that figured out first.  Are there any hot buttons? -- Do they get suddenly angry at the thought of their father? Do you get the feeling that they just want to escape?  -- get married just to get away from it all? If so, watch out.      Usually if the daughter has an issue with her Mom, it usually changes once the daughter has children.  Does this person talk good about their parents -- Awesome… that’s a GREAT sign!  Don’t make excuses in order to stay with a person -- be fully aware and pay attention to all sides of your conscious. Mindfully consider all these things. Don’t marry out of Rachmones!  Rachmones = compassion/pity/mercy/empathy --- in our instance it refers to pity.   LVH 47 Ahava 24 DatingF6 ============================================================================ DONATING or SHARING …. are the two biggest things that you can do if you want to support and/or be involved in some way. I want to keep doing this, and with your help, I can keep on keep’n on ;D Here’s the donation link: https://anchor.fm/LoveHaShem/support  If you share via Instagram, feel free to tag @flowmindset: Thanks for listening! -------------------- (^_^) Stay connected via  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/flowmindset/ YouTube: www.youtube.com/user/TheLinguisticFight Twitter: https://twitter.com/LinguisticFight Tumblr: linguisticfight.tumblr.com/ Duolingo TinyCards Flashcards - tinycards.duolingo.com/users/Icystrider  My Blog - http://flowmindset.wordpress.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lovehashem/support

Ying Yang Question -  How can you be Free AND a servant!?  OK ... so we have freedom to do; and yet we are bound?        {Check out 1 Cor. Chap 9} It’s like this. We are free to love others as we have the mitzvah to do so, and we can take certain liberties to love others (e.g. showing love with words, actions, kindness, and good works) . The caveat is that we should don’t compromise ourselves. You’re free to do things, but not to the point that it hurts your relationship with Gd. It’s better to refrain if you think that it will harm the relations between you and HaShem. For example, if you know that you personally couldn’t care less about going to the Western Wall to daven (pray), and you’re feeling totally indifferent to that action, you’re certainly free not to go, but at the same time, you should feel deeply the mitzvah to love others and be in with them. The Aibishter (the most High) really likes it when you make an effort to connect, level with, and love others even if you don’t really feel like it. That’s how there’s this ying yang balance. In a good relationship, we don’t have to do everything that we like and because we feel like it. We just should be doing it - and all of the other positive features of having done it will arrive to you, and you’ll be feeling those after-effects. And, if not, do what’s good anyway.     So, gain closeness with others. It’s ok to be flexible to show love to others. It doesn’t affect your authenticity. Imagine that you’re an atheist, and you really don’t like this whole Gd stuff, but you still want to be loving. Well ... feel free to go into Shuls, Churches, and Mosques and the like, to love on other people, understand them, and grow to care.  Our Gd has a big heart, and by obtaining this yin yang “being a servant and being free” balance, you’ll gain one too.   Connecting with others is to love them. Give to them. Speak to people on their level.  Don’t break yourself or your relationship with HaShem, but feel free to be flexible to show that you care to other people.  LVH 46, Torah 23, 1 Cor 9 Part 4 ============== DONATING or SHARING …. are the two biggest things that you can do if you want to support and/or be involved in some way. I want to keep doing this, and with your help, I can keep on keep’n on ;D Here’s the donation link: https://anchor.fm/LoveHaShem/support  If you share via Instagram, feel free to tag @flowmindset: Thanks for listening! -------------------- (^_^) Stay connected via  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/flowmindset/ YouTube: www.youtube.com/user/TheLinguisticFight Twitter: https://twitter.com/LinguisticFight Tumblr: linguisticfight.tumblr.com/ Duolingo TinyCards Flashcards - tinycards.duolingo.com/users/Icystrider  My Blog - http://flowmindset.wordpress.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/lovehashem/support