When people are asked what aspects they value in a potential partner they tend to list physical qualities, socially desirable characteristics, and unrealistic expectations.  Furthermore, we tend to make judgments about the other person's trustworthiness, competence, and likability within the first tenth of a second, during the first glimpse of that person. This episode is also available as a blog post: https://lovelifeprof.com/2017/08/25/what-to-look-for-in-a-potential-partner/ Find my book, Love Demystified: Strategies for a Successful Love Life at https://amzn.to/398rk93 and follow me on all social media @LoveLifeProf --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

So, after you have met someone, how can you be sure this is the right one?  Are there some personality characteristics that you may not see initially but are ones that can stop a relationship from becoming a loving one? This episode is also available as a blog post: https://lovelifeprof.com/2017/08/13/red-flags-what-to-watch-out-for-when-you-are-dating/  Find my book, Love Demystified: Strategies for a Successful Love Life at https://amzn.to/398rk93 and follow me on all social media @LoveLifeProf  --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

As my husband and I are celebrating our 50th wedding anniversary I started to wonder what has caused not just our relationship but our love to last. This episode is also available as a blog post: https://lovelifeprof.com/2017/06/26/what-makes-love-last/  Find my book, Love Demystified: Strategies for a Successful Love Life at https://amzn.to/398rk93 and follow me on all social media @LoveLifeProf --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

In a truly intimate relationship, the rejections, irritations, and disappointments are as much a part of loving as are the securities, pleasures, and dreams.  No marriage is made in heaven and no relationship is built on only the heavenly feelings.  But no one ever forewarns us about the trials and tribulations.     Instead we believe that if it's really love it will be sunny days forever, with no dark clouds to muddy up the horizon.  After all, we were always told that love is never having to say you're sorry. This episode is also available as a blog post: https://lovelifeprof.com/2017/06/02/when-the-unpleasant-feelings-emerge/ Find my book, Love Demystified: Strategies for a Successful Love Life at https://amzn.to/398rk93 and follow me on all social media @LoveLifeProf --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

It is easier to interact with people who have the same opinions that you do.  It is easier to stay in your own social media silo.  You may not have even considered thinking about things from another person’s perspective. Yet there are many benefits to understanding another person’s thoughts, motives, and emotions. Taking the other person’s perspective can help you (a) reduce conflict, (b) solve problems more effectively, and (c) enlarge your view of yourself. This episode is also available as a blog post: https://lovelifeprof.com/2021/06/25/the-benefits-from-understanding-another-point-of-view/ Find my book, Love Demystified: Strategies for a Successful Love Life at https://amzn.to/398rk93 and follow me on all social media @LoveLifeProf --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

You might see your partner and yourself through the lens of many assumptions.  Then you begin to act toward your partner in ways that confirm these assumptions.  Instead of changing your assumptions, you become disillusioned that love is not what you thought it should be. This episode is also available as a blog post: https://lovelifeprof.com/2017/09/19/assumptions-that-cause-disillusionment/  Find my book, Love Demystified: Strategies for a Successful Love Life at https://amzn.to/398rk93 and follow me on all social media @LoveLifeProf --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

We expect our feelings never to change.  We are constantly presented with the image of true love as an unchanging state of bliss where the initial feelings of passion, togetherness, and tender caring are the only feelings we should have if we are in love. This episode is also available as a blog post: https://lovelifeprof.com/2017/05/08/when-your-feelings-change-are-you-no-longer-in-love/ Find my book, Love Demystified: Strategies for a Successful Love Life at https://amzn.to/398rk93 and follow me on all social media @LoveLifeProf --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

Judging is a great destroyer of relationships, and it can destroy your self-confidence as well. Yet we all do judge others. This episode is also available as a blog post: https://lovelifeprof.com/2017/02/18/why-judge/ Find my book, Love Demystified: Strategies for a Successful Love Life at https://amzn.to/398rk93 and follow me on all social media @LoveLifeProf --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

When was the last time you listened to your heart? This episode is also available as a blog post: https://lovelifeprof.com/2017/02/03/listen-to-your-heart/ Find my book, Love Demystified: Strategies for a Successful Love Life at https://amzn.to/398rk93 and follow me on all social media @LoveLifeProf --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

How do you deal with a compulsive liar if you don’t agree with him? And why does he impulsively and compulsively lie? This episode is also available as a blog post: https://lovelifeprof.com/2017/01/27/what-do-you-do-when-a-powerful-person-is-an-insecure-liar/ Find my book, Love Demystified: Strategies for a Successful Love Life at https://amzn.to/398rk93 and follow me on all social media @LoveLifeProf --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app