🔸 Shame exile - part 3. A little thing for a little wound.

🔹 Parts:

• E: Shame grows out of the house, Mud stamps
• E: An open wound, waiting to be soothed, a soft collar. Not asking, not demanding.

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:

My tone was off. I can kinda forget my role when someone is working like this.

My skeptical sounding questions were not intended to be "devil's advocate", but protector's advocate! Mio and exile didn’t need me facilitating their side of things, so I was keeping an eye on concerned protectors.

A more direct approach: “hey protector, I'm here, step back”, didn’t feel right for a protector who had already interfered. She built a house, I'll walk around and check for leaks and unlocked doors.

I was a little too late offering my take on the “I need love and connection” question… I interpreted her “it starts w me” as being a singular statement about Self with parts.

But despite my lone-wolf lifestyle, I'm not a cynic about love between people. I just know we can’t control others. So you want love inside? Starts w you. Want love outside? Same!

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