🔸 Possible ADHD diagnosis brings up "Not good enough" exile. "Blocking / fear of freaking out" and "Agenda" show up along the way. Strategies for solo parts work.

🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):

• Agenda: concerned about blocking parts, won't be able to manage. And concerned about not getting results from this process.
• Blocking needs to know it will be respected, concerned contact with the exile will be too much, cause freak out, overwhelm of emotion (internally and externally/socially)
• Exile: not good enough. Doing a bad job and it's my fault. And also a fear that it may not be it's fault, meaning we are just not as good as others.

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
Day 3 of fasting energy. I was giving lots of advice, my ideas, and not doing a lot of questioning or parts work especially toward the end. I've mentioned before I have a lot of knowledge re: ADHD, and could talk about it all day, so whenever it comes up, it's hard for me to stay in IFS mode. One way I negotiate that is by "getting it out of the way", meaning offering whatever comes to mind regarding ADHD, and then I won't feel like I'm having to bite my tongue in the future, so we can stick to IFS.


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