🔸 "So used to not being wanted." We negotiate with two protectors: "don't-trust" and its critic. They're trying to solve the same problem, and let us go to even younger exiles than we've met before.

🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):

• The exiles: always feeling let down, ignored, and feeling like there must be something wrong with her.  
• Age ~3 and infancy. 
• They need what they always need.

🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
I don't ask people how long they have to chat. I almost always have as much time as feels right (and so I rarely watch the clock). If they sound eager to go, then I don't know if it's due to other obligations, just gotta pee, or if I've said or done something to chase them off.  

A simple problem to solve? Just ask, right? But I can think of good reasons not to... Advice?

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