we're going deep and vulnerable on this episode of live a little, as nikki is saying goodbye to a therapist and is exploring what it means to graduate from therapy and trust yourself. nikki has just finished a year and five months of therapy - 30 to 60 sessions with someone who genuinely got her, after years of bad therapists and therapy at hospital (the place that gave her trauma in the first place). the thing is, she did the work. she got better. she's in a stable place. and now she has to leave. nikki gets brutally honest about why she went into therapy, the moment she realised that therapy isn't the full antidote and the year she's spent analysing herself microscopi­cally, learning why she reacts certain ways, where her trauma sits, what triggers her hypervigilance. nikki's closing thought is powerful: you don't need to understand every feeling before you're allowed to feel it. if you've ever struggled to say goodbye to something that helped you, felt afraid of being without support, wondered if you're self-aware to the point of self-sabotage, or questioned whether you're enough to rely on yourself... this one's for you. don't forget to subscribe and don't miss new episodes every thursday! Follow Live A Little with Nikki Lilly Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@livealittlepodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@livealittlepodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@livealittlepod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

on this episode of live a little, nikki lilly is joined by writer, model, broadcaster and activist munroe bergdorf, and the chemistry between them is immediate and electric! munroe has become one of the most powerful and eloquent voices fighting for trans rights and community liberation. from her ground-breaking memoir 'transitional' to her feature documentary 'love & rage' to her young adult handbook 'talk to me: how to have conversations that matter', munroe has carved out a legacy of radical honesty and uncompromising advocacy. on this episode, munroe opens up about childhood and the experiences that made her go from 'loud' to inward. she talks about the first time she realised she was trans, how puberty changed how her body was perceived by others and the struggle of developing in a way that didn't feel right. nikki and munroe bond over the experience of being bullied and the moment you become aware that people won't just understand you, accept you, get you. that's the shift. munroe also talks about the government coming after trans rights, the ongoing struggle of visibility and safety, and what it costs to hide who you are. if you've ever felt like becoming yourself might cost you too much or questioned whether hiding is safer than being seen... this one's for you. don't forget to subscribe and don't miss new episodes every thursday! Follow Live A Little with Nikki Lilly Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@livealittlepodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@livealittlepodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@livealittlepod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

welcome back to live a little with nikki lilly... this week nikki turned 22, and instead of celebrating, she's processing something she's struggled with her entire life: why birthdays feel like grief, what it means to let things change. nikki talks about grieving her younger self and how this year she is trying to honour the version of herself that is here. also on this episode, she also explores a word she can't stop thinking about: ephemeral. it means fleeting, temporary, something that exists for a time and then passes or changes. and here's what she's learning: just because something ended doesn't mean it failed. along the way, she talks about loss aversion (a psychological concept that losing something feels much more significant than gaining something new) , the "train station theory and she gets vulnerable about why we're so obsessed with permanence in relationships. nikki shares a powerful grounding technique her therapist taught her: drop anchor. when her brain races ahead to future catastrophes, she drops anchor back into the present. if you've ever felt scared of change or wondered how to be present when your brain is always bracing for loss... this one's for you. don't forget to subscribe and don't miss new episodes every thursday! Follow Live A Little with Nikki Lilly Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@livealittlepodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@livealittlepodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@livealittlepod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

welcome back to live a little with nikki lilly... on the episode, nikki is talking about something she's been ruminating on heavily: burnout. nikki wants to preface this by saying it's not complaining - she knows how lucky she is. but here's the thing: gratitude doesn't cancel out struggle. you can be grateful for something and still feel completely lost inside it. what do you do when you start feeling lost in your work? and what happens when the thing you're supposed to be good at starts making you question if you're good at anything at all? after the oscars in march, something shifted... this huge moment happened, and then afterwards came this strange feeling: what now? who am I making content for? what do people actually want from me? nikki also reflects on the broader picture: her friends who just finished university are up against 10,000 people for one job. here's what she's learning: quiet periods don't mean you're failing. silence doesn't mean you're not capable. your achievements are not a reflection of you as a person. if you've ever felt like your job defines your entire worth, experienced burnout in something you love, questioned your abilities when things get quiet, or struggled to separate your identity from your output... this one's for you. don't forget to subscribe and don't miss new episodes every thursday! Follow Live A Little with Nikki Lilly Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@livealittlepodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@livealittlepodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@livealittlepod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

it's a new episode of live a little, nikki is diving deep into something deeply personal: beauty standards. nikki talks about how the constant exposure to our images makes beauty standards today more intense than in previous times, the frustrating packaging of wellness, self-care and "glow up culture" and what all of this means to someone growing up with a facial difference. nikki introduces the concept of roots vs flowers - your flowers are what people notice first (your appearance), but your roots are what keep you alive when nobody's clapping (your kindness, humour, empathy, resilience). she talks about the Alice in Wonderland metaphor of painting roses red and how we internalise comments and comparisons... for better or for worse. if you've ever felt like your appearance defines your worth, spent your life editing yourself to fit a standard or felt trapped by beauty culture... this one's for you. don't forget to subscribe and don't miss new episodes every thursday! Follow Live A Little with Nikki Lilly Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@livealittlepodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@livealittlepodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@livealittlepod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

on this episode of live a little, nikki is joined by the host of hit podcast "the psychology of your 20s" jemma sbeg! jemma and nikki dive into the universal struggle of making plans in your 20s, friendship breakups and the complicated grief that comes with them and how to appreciate the nuance in friendships. jemma also shares some psychology tea: love languages are overused... and do you know where the love languages came from? this one might surprise you... we also find out the advice that jemma secretly hates, the issue with 'five year plans' and nikki dives deep into how jemma has overcome some of her own life challenges... jemma's closing theory - the one that's stayed with her - is the self-absorption paradox: the more you think about yourself, the less able you are to help yourself. get out of your own head and actually live in the world! if you've ever wondered how to navigate a massive life transition, felt the weight of a friendship ending, or realized you're overthinking your entire future... this one's for you. don't forget to subscribe and don't miss new episodes every thursday! Follow Live A Little with Nikki Lilly Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@livealittlepodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@livealittlepodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@livealittlepod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

welcome back to live a little with nikki lilly... and on this episode, nikki brings back 'live a letters' to answer your questions about life! covering everything from anxiety to friendship betrayal, practicing forgiveness and how to be a better friend to yourself, nikki is getting brutally honest and sharing her own experiences along the way. nikki also shares her recent experience with anxiety in cannes (and how to deal with it), sheds light on her own "healing toolkit" and reminds us to take things one day at a time. we wrap on light notes - obsessing over 'off campus' and sharing her current summer wardrobe shopping addiction before heading to greece. if you've ever struggled with severe anxiety, felt betrayed by friends, or just need to know what show to obsess over next... this one's for you. don't forget to subscribe and don't miss new episodes every thursday! Follow Live A Little with Nikki Lilly Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@livealittlepodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@livealittlepodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@livealittlepod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

welcome back to live a little with nikki lilly... on this episode, nikki is talking about something she has never admitted out loud before: sometimes she feels the need to exaggerate her pain so that people believe her. nikki opens up about the "how are you feeling?" and "what's your pain out of ten?" questions that have haunted her entire life - especially in hospital settings. but these numbers have never been simple for her.... nikki has learned early that people respond differently to those numbers. a six sounds manageable. a ten gets taken seriously. so she learned to reach for severity to be seen, heard, and cared for. she talks about the therapy she's going through to work through her complex PTSD, the loneliness of chronic illness and needing to "sit" through her situation. nikki talks about feeling like a broken limb versus a paper cut - always having to be the broken limb to be prioritized. but here's what she's learning: validation and attention should be the same whether she's a six or a ten. honesty doesn't erase pain. if you've ever exaggerated your pain to be heard, felt invisible because your struggles aren't "bad enough," resented people for being able to leave what you can't escape, or felt like you had to perform your suffering to matter... this one's for you. don't forget to subscribe and don't miss new episodes every thursday! Follow Live A Little with Nikki Lilly Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@livealittlepodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@livealittlepodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@livealittlepod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

you might recognise our guest from the hit film 'my fault: london', the bbc series 'a good girl's guide to murder' or even as one of the most exciting new artists... asha banks joins nikki lilly on this episode of live a little! on this episode, nikki and asha talk about being introverts in an extrovert industry, being accomplished at a young age and navigating a world that tries to put you in a box. asha opens up about her incredible career journey - starting in theatre before going into film and tv - and talks about the pressure of proving everyone wrong about their preconceived notions. they chat about stunt work (asha plays a racing driver in 'my fault'), and asha's current obsession with dissecting music and lyrics in depth. they finish with quick-fire questions - from subway takes (asha's hot take: she doesn't like feta cheese) to her final thought about simple joys: buying flowers for people, spending time with friends, and making the most of sunny days. if you've ever struggled with social anxiety or wondered how to make something your own... this one's for you. don't forget to subscribe and don't miss new episodes every thursday! Follow Live A Little with Nikki Lilly Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@livealittlepodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@livealittlepodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@livealittlepod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

on this episode of live a little, nikki is getting deeply vulnerable talking about why she feels unlovable, despite knowing logically that people love her. there's a crucial difference between knowing you're loved and believing you're lovable, especially romantically. nikki gets brutally honest about her rejection sensitivity - she's never been in a "proper" romantic relationship at nearly 22, so when she has a crush, her brain defaults to catastrophizing. underneath it all are deeper layers: growing up with a facial difference in a beauty-obsessed world, health struggles that made her feel like a burden, and the fear that if someone's interested, they must want something from her... but this episode shifts into something hopeful. nikki shares what she's learning in therapy, talks about distinguishing between intuition and fear wearing intuition's outfit and most importantly, she's learning that rejection doesn't have to be a bad thing. it's part of life. nikki's closing message is powerful: you are not hard to love just because you needed care. grab a cup of tea, get cosy and remember - be kind to the parts of you that panic when you want something. don't forget to subscribe and don't miss new episodes every thursday! Follow Live A Little with Nikki Lilly Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@livealittlepodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@livealittlepodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@livealittlepod Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices