How can people be better at penetrative sex? Because it is absolutely true that a lot of people are having really bad, penetrative sex, and I think it gets a bad rep. Yes, I do believe that more people with vaginas can have vaginal orgasms, But I do think that the people with penises, I need to do it slightly differently, and we need to talk about it differently. So here's my multiparty serious on how to have better penetrative sex with someone with a vagina. Okay, my tip number one Is this all about positions and whether you're with a partner or whether you're with different partners, everybody is going to like a different position because, especially when you have a vagina, we have quite different vaginas, right? We have different lengths. We have different, you know, needs. We have different preferences on. Those are things that you need to talk about with your partner. So if you like something different in your partner, let's say you like doggy, but they like missionary. I prefer, and I personally recommend to start with position that they like Maura and I mean the person of the China, because it's just better if the orgasm first, since they can orgasm multiple times right and the Penis will probably need to have a little bit of brake afterwards if it comes down to positions. I also prefer to do things that give more pressure on the cliff, so I love her on top. But I mean the vagina on top, because they can really control where the pressure on the clip goes. I also love spooning because you can squeeze your legs together and you can use your hand. So this is just part well, because it's a huge episode, Syria.Check out the replies and reactions on Beams.fm

Let's talk about squirting. It's a super hot topic and It seems to be pretty hot to watch, right? It's like really popular in porn. But the question is, is squirting just pee, or is it something different? That is today's question in Lies About Sex with cat from UNGIRL. Yeah, well, it's a difficult question to answer. It's a yes and a no. So basically there have been some studies, probably not enough. But squirting usually contains urea, which is kind of like pee and also ejaculate kind of fluid. So it's sort of like hybrid between cumming and peeing, which makes it something completely different in its own. So I don't think anybody should be ashamed or think Oh my God, I'm peeing myself or peeing the bed. No, you're just having a normal sexual response and apparently it’s pretty fun to do! Also, I think that people enjoy having it happen to their partners, So really, it's not something to be ashamed of, but had you squirt in the first place? Basically, it's all about the G-spot stimulation, which is really just on the kind of first entry point and curved upwards in the vagina. Stimulate that and you’re gonna stimulate the urethral sponge. That's going to help you release and just feel super amazing. So try to relax, get a towel down and feel good about yourself. Feel super sexy and get that, g-spot stimulation and join me next time!Check out the replies and reactions on Beams.fm

We all want multiple orgasms, right? Well, what if I told you that everybody can actually experience it even if you have a penis? Well, that's today's episode on Lies About Sex with Cat from UNGIRL, and if you're like me and you've never heard of multiple male orgasms, then listen up. Basically, the orgasm is separate from ejaculation, so if that's new to you, that basically means you can orgasm without cumming. I know it sounds weird because we kind of associate orgasm with come right, but it's actually the ejaculate that stops people from having multiple orgasms. It's the orgasm that's kind of the fun one and also less messy. But but how do you actually do it? Well, number 1 is, and I know you're going to hate me when I say it. It's to try to stop yourself from ejaculating, which actually comes a few seconds after the orgasm so you can have the orgasm and then stop yourself from ejaculating. But it takes a little practice. You have to train your pelvic floor muscles, and that is going to take some time, and it basically is a dry orgasm. The second option is, and it's probably the more fun option, is stimulate other areas, especially your prostate, because that's essentially the Male G-spot . A lot of people do this. They have dry orgasms, and it means you can have multiple orgasms, have more sex, have longer sex and have more fulfilling sex. So if you like that tip, join me my next episode because I have so many more.Check out the replies and reactions on Beams.fm

Does the vagina become loose the more sex you have? Well, the vagina does become wider and it does actually become longer, which is super cool! Like the cervix moves when you’re aroused and the vagina expands up to 200% because the vagina wants you to have pleasurable sex! It doesn't want you to be uncomfortable and feel super tight when you're putting something in it. But what happens to after sex? That is the question in today's episode of Lies about Sex with Cat from on. So I think everybody's heard of this loose vagina myth, right? But luckily, the vagina is much more advanced than this. Basically, when you start becoming aroused, lots of things start changing in your body. So blood flows to the genitals , the cervix retracts and lubricant starts becoming produced by your body. That's what makes sex enjoyable, and that's what makes it much more comfortable to insert something into the vagina. But after sex and after usually orgasm, your body goes into rest mode and those functions and those states go back to normal, which includes the size, thankfully! Also, having a tight vagina is not usually a good sign. It usually means either you're not aroused, or maybe you have something like vaginismus, which is a painful condition about the vagina. And it's not something to aim for! Sex is about pleasure not pain, so I hope you join me next time to learn more.Check out the replies and reactions on Beams.fm

How can you give better oral sex to somebody with a vulva? Well, because trust me when I say not, everyone is good at it. Actually, a lot of people don't really enjoy getting head! And I know that's a bit surprising, especially maybe for people with penises, because yeah, like getting oral sex is like effin amazing. Trust me, I love getting oral sex too, but a lot of people don't do that well! First of all, a lot of people they find the touch a little bit like too light, and it's like super tickly sometimes. So I would recommend that if you're with somebody who feels that way in the introduce in harder touch like your fingers or well, like, level it up, bring a sex toy into it like get a vibrator or if they're into it like a little bit of vaginal stimulation, like something like a small dildo, though, are yeah, I just use your fingers because trust me when that, like, levels up that feeling I am not lying. It feels so much more amazing. At least to me. Secondly, I think this is the better tip. Actually, make your partner feel like they're the most beautiful thing you've ever set your eyes on And make them know how delicious god damn delicious they are! Because a lot of us feel shame and embarrassment about our vulva. A lot of people make some horrible comments about vulvas. So if you can make them know how much of an absolute snackkk they are, you are going to be a better lover. Trust me when I tell you so I hope you enjoy.Check out the replies and reactions on Beams.fm

Dear UNGIRL. My boyfriend hasn't gone down on me. We've been together for three years and I think he's done it like three times. I'm starting to feel really self conscious. Like the vulva smells bad. Is there something wrong with me? What should I do? Okay, welcome back to dear. UNGIRL. The sex and relationship advice show with Cat. Trust me when I say this, you are a snack. Oh, my God. A tasty snack! The amount of people who would be willing and so goddamn happy to eat you out. This is not on you, I think your boyfriend is valid if he just is not into giving head because, actually, you know, we can't expect these things of our partners. Not Everyone is going to like this doing the same thing, and we can't force each other to sort of, like, fulfil our sexual needs. However, if he is expecting you to do it to him, none other than that I'm sorry, but like if he's expecting something that he can't give you in return, unless that's something that you kind of have already negotiated and discussed. That's just not all right. And if he is in any way making you feel bad and making you feel self conscious about your smell, your taste or whatever, That's another no. Your sexual satisfaction is entirely valid in your relationship, and quite honestly, you would find a million people who would be more than happy to fulfil your needs. So I think, have a conversation and put your sexual needs first, because trust me, you're worth it!Check out the replies and reactions on Beams.fm

Sex is so much more than penetration, and I think these underrated sex experiences are actually going to make your sex life so much better. So here's the list of things that don't involve penetration. Number one grinding. Oh my God, it's not just for teens. Grinding is so hot like you're basically riding each other, snogging each other's faces off. It's so intimate and also kind of like cute at the same time. Plus, when you're riding somebody, your stimulating the clitoral network by putting pressure on the pubic mound. So it's a win-win Number two massage. Like if somebody is good at massage, I am basically like Okay, I've just died & gone to heaven like I am. I'll do anything for you. A really good massage, especially if you level up and you bring some massage oil into it. You put on some candles. It's just like so orgasm. I don't know if anyone's looked at massage like, if you haven't, we'll look at it as a whole as fuck seriously. Number three. Mutual masturbation. Like I think this is totally underrated, and I think it should get way, way will be more popular than it is because there’s nothing hotter than looking at your partner and just showing this totally vulnerable but like intimate and sexy thing that you're doing together but also individually. Number four nipples, everybody, everybody can come through nipple stimulation. Isn't that amazing? So think outside the box and you'll have much better sex!Check out the replies and reactions on Beams.fm

So how can you have more sex in a relationship when you're past that spontaneous arousal stage and things are starting to get a little bit harder to have sex. Okay, I know you're going to hate me when I say it, but planning! Planning is really it's a key to having sex. And when I say planning, I don't mean like, get your calendar out and say Right. Okay, darling, we're gonna have sex on Tuesday afternoon. I hope you're home. It's actually much deeper than that. Like, firstly needed a bit of research into yourselves as a couple. So for me& my partner, we realised that both of us, we need a long period of time to build up to sex. Neither one of us is great at kind of just being like, Hey, I'm horny, let’s fuck! We kind of both like two kiss and cuddle and just have this intimate time together and warm up to it. But when life is super busy and you don't have that much time and your work schedules are kind of complete different, we were struggling to find that time space to make that moment happen. So planning comes into it by saying, Hey, I am going to take a period of time where I'm not gonna have any distractions and we're going to sit and watch a movie together because then we’re on the sofa. We can cuddle, We can, spoon, we can kiss, or we're going to wake up. We're gonna have lie in or, you know, a sex lie in on on a Saturday morning. So planning is key. Find what makes it work for both of you and make this space in your life to have more sex! Trust me when it works and join me next time.Check out the replies and reactions on Beams.fm

welcome back to Lies About Sex with cat from UNGIRL. And the lie of today's episode is that sex is always spontaneous and that if you're not feeling, you know, horny anymore in your relationship it it must mean something’s wrong. Well, I'm sure I have felt this. I'm sure pretty much everyone in relationship has felt this, particularly men because men have this pressure to be sexually driven much more. But the reality is when you're with somebody in the initial stage of a relationship, your body and your hormones are different. Your bodies are telling you both to have sex with each other. They want you to get together. They want you to probably have a baby. Sex is also a way for both of you to communicate that you have an attraction towards each other because we use sex as validation. When you've been together for longer, your body actually changes. Those hormones drop and things like bonding hormones like oxytocin actually increase, so your body has a different set of priorities Now it's not saying Hey, fuck each other and have as many babies as possible. It's saying, Why don't you build a home together. Why don't you bring some security to the relationship? So it doesn't mean that you don't have sex or that you don't have any sexual drive anymore. But it means that you have to be proactive about it. So if you've only been in short term relationships where you've always been, you know, horny, it actually feels totally different to have to be actively trying to put yourself in the mood. But join me, that my next episode because this is a big topic. And I've got I've got some tips to make you have better and more fulfilling sex!Check out the replies and reactions on Beams.fm

Dear UNGIRL. My partner says, condoms dont feel good. What can I do to make them feel better? Well, thanks for asking and welcome back to Lies Abour Sex with cat from UNGIRL. And today’s is all about condoms. I'm sure we've probably heard from probably multiple people that condoms just don't feel good. Well, I mean, first of all, your partner should be a lot more proactive and willing to do something about it. I mean, especially since people with vulvas are actually more likely to guess an STI due to the skin around the vagina being a little bit thinner, and bacteria can actually transfer through that easier. Of course, add on to the fact that you know many people with vaginas could get pregnant. So it's just an all around there, like not great . I mean condoms get a bad rap, which maybe was fine when they were made from sheep skin or something, but now there's so many to choose from, I kind of just roll my eyes when I hear this because, you know, why don't you just go condom shopping together? You can make it a really fun and kind of sexy trip together, you can choose some exciting lube to go with it. Plus, you can even buy some sex toys and just indulge and get excited about the night! You know, secondly measure, the penis, because a lot of people complain about the feeling when actually, it's usually due to the condom being a bit too long so it rolls up too much in the end. The point is, you can find a condom that really feels good for both of you !Check out the replies and reactions on Beams.fm