It's Not You, It's the System
It's Not You, It's the System
Lauren Kay Roberts
It's Not You, It's the System is a podcast from Lauren Kay Roberts, an anticapitalist, trauma-certified coach and recovering political staffer. This podcast is a space to for you to stop blaming and shaming yourself for your struggles -- because the truth is, we're all swimming in toxic systems that impact us on every level. We're talking about systems like capitalism, cisheteropatriarchy, white supremacy, ableism, family patterns, generational trauma, and many more that play out in our relationships, our workplaces, our economy, our government, and even our bodies. You're not flawed, defective, or broken. You can totally heal, grow, and show up with more integrity...but please stop trying to "fix" or "improve" yourself, okay? Let's get your messy family stuff and internalized oppression out of your way so that you can make the impact you're here for!
12. Is an "intentional" relationship with Instagram even possible? feat. Tristan Katz and Brooke Monaghan
If you listen in on one of my calls with two of my dearest friends, Tristan Katz (they/he) and Brooke Monaghan (she/her), you’ll hear pretty much what’s in today’s episode: Amy-Sherman-Palladino-level fast-talking, lamenting the ups and downs of running a business on the internet while managing brain chemistry, and a looooot of back and forth about wtf we are each doing about Instagram.
Feb 10, 2023
44 min
11. Be your whole self (and stop being your friends' free therapist) feat. Laneen Wells
Today, I’m chatting with my friend and client Laneen Wells (she/they)! You might know Laneen on the internet as the Creative Strategist, Brand Designer, and Lover of Snacks behind Sublation ("SBLTN”) Studio, a design and discussion studio offering creative services focused on intersectionality, accessibility, and diversity through inclusive practices, education, and advocacy.
Jan 27, 2023
42 min
10. Talk to your coworkers (or: unionizing your "progressive" workplace) feat. Hayley Banyai-Becker
It’s our first guest episode! I’m so glad to have my friend, colleague, and fellow Democratic Socialist Hayley Banyai-Becker here to share her experience of unionizing her former workplace — one that professed “progressive” values but ultimately wasn’t down to practice them when it came to their workers.* Plus, you’ll hear why building people power is where it’s at if we want real change, as well as get some tips for organizing in your own workplace and community.
Jan 13, 2023
55 min
9.  What got us here won’t get us there.
If we want different — for ourselves and the collective — we have to *be* different. Tune in to hear how I’m integrating this lesson for 2023, even as I dive back into the wild world of electoral politics for the first time in 8 years.
Dec 31, 2022
32 min
8.  How I'm going to stop doing what doesn't work (Instagram) and do more of what does
I’m answering two common questions about leaving Instagram (or doing anything else counter to capitalism): What if I change my mind? How will I market my work? My answers might surprise you.
Dec 9, 2022
26 min
7.  I'm breaking up with Instagram. (Mostly. Probably.)
We’re getting into my (likely) plan to ghost Instagram in 2023 and alllll the reasons why. Plus, you’ll hear me in real time trying to talk myself into why I should stay. Ugh.
Dec 4, 2022
37 min
6.  Trust the Timing (A Tarot Spread for Composting, Planting, and Harvesting)
Today I’m sharing a Tarot spread that reminds us to compost what we’re ready to let go of, plant seeds for what we’re creating, and trust divine timing as we prepare for harvest.
Nov 26, 2022
28 min
5.  You Have More Power Than You Realize (and Why It's Okay to Skip "Holidays")
I’m sharing 3 strategies for protecting your time and energy as the “holiday” season gets going. And no, I’m not just talking about skipping the party…but that’s probably a GREAT idea.
Nov 20, 2022
21 min
4. You Don't Have to Stick It Out (My Experience of Narcissistic Abuse)
Turns out that I wasn’t the problem in my relationship… my ex was a narcissist. Today I’m telling this story to remind you that just because you *can* deal with a tough situation doesn’t mean you *should*.
Nov 11, 2022
56 min
3. When the System Makes Someone Act Like an Asshole: A Boundaries Story
Sometimes, we have draw a hard line to take care of ourselves when a relationship becomes difficult — or just plain shitty. Today I’m sharing the story of a friendship that I recently ended and the boundaries script I used to stay level-headed and communicate clearly, even when I was upset.
Nov 4, 2022
44 min
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