It's Not Me, It's You
It's Not Me, It's You
John Kim and Vanessa Bennett
A therapist couple explores and processes their own issues, disproving the misconception that therapists have their shit together and that their relationships are perfect.John Kim, aka The Angry Therapist, is a licensed marriage and family therapist and best selling author of "I Used To Be A Miserable F*ck" and “Single. On Purpose.” Vanessa Bennett is a licensed marriage and family therapist, codependency and mindfulness coach. They both have private practices and live in Altadena, California, where they are raising a baby and two chickens. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Ep 19 Navigating Growth and Differences
In this episode, we discuss ways to approach communicating your needs and desires with a partner and we also examine our still forming thoughts about balancing feminine and masculine energies through introspection, ownership and self-awareness.Please rate and review if you feel like this is valuable and want to help us help others.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Jul 19, 2021
31 min
Ep 18 Examining Ambivalence
In this episode, we record a live Q&A from inside a TAT Lab session. We discuss how self work can sometimes feel like 2 steps forward and 1 step back, and how when ambivalence shows up in ourselves and in relationships we need to examine and act on it. Please rate and review if you feel like this is valuable and want to help us help others. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Jun 15, 2021
30 min
Ep 17 Fantasizing About Others
In this episode, we discuss how fantasy and jealousy can present themselves in relationships and where the line between healthy and not healthy can be drawn for both.Please rate and review if you feel like this is valuable and want to help us help others. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
May 11, 2021
31 min
Ep 16 Letters to Our Exes
In this episode, we share letters that we’ve written to our partners of the past. We discuss the lessons gathered from those relationships, how they’ve transcended over time, and how they show up in our partnership today.Please rate and review if you feel like this is valuable and want to help us help others. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Apr 27, 2021
32 min
Ep 15 Equality in Partnerships
In this episode, we share some exciting news about a new project that we’re working on together and what it’s bringing up for us. We discuss how there tends to be power differentials in relationships and how we can cultivate a dynamic where we’re true partners bringing our own unique things to the table.Please rate and review if you feel like this is valuable and want to help us help others. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Apr 13, 2021
37 min
Ep 14 Answering Your Questions
In the first of a new series within the podcast, we answer questions submitted by the listeners. We talk through and sometimes disagree on questions around how to not be the toxic one in a relationship, how you can make a relationship with an Avoidant work, the reality of “getting over” a relationship, and when two people’s sexual drives aren’t aligned.Please rate and review if you feel like this is valuable and want to help us help others. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Apr 6, 2021
25 min
Ep 13 Needs Are a Two-Way Street
An extra hard day of parenting can test your relationship in many ways, especially in terms of having your needs met. Getting your needs met isn’t just about asking for them. Your partner should move toward you as well, especially if you have difficulty expressing your needs. Needs are a two-way street. Let us explain.Please rate and review if you feel like this is valuable and want to help us help others. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Mar 29, 2021
25 min
Ep 12 Our Top 3 Relationship Killers
Each of us goes over what we think our top 3 relationship killers are. We discuss how they show up, how we can be more aware of them, and how we can work to ensure they don’t show up in our relationships or how to work on them if they do.Please rate and review if you feel like this is valuable and want to help us help others. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Mar 22, 2021
29 min
Ep 11 Two Types of Desire
Sexual Desire. It’s a topic that is always coming up, for us and our clients. How much sex is enough? How come I always want it and they don’t? What’s wrong with me / with them? We break down the two distinct types of desire and why understanding them both can be a massive shift in your relationship. This was a huge lightbulb moment for Vanessa.Please rate and review if you feel like this is valuable and want to help us help others. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Mar 11, 2021
39 min
Ep 10 Love and Money
Money is one of those topics that can make or break a relationship. We discuss how our upbringings and our personal beliefs about money shape us individually but also as a partnership.Please rate and review if you feel like this is valuable and want to help us help others. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Feb 22, 2021
36 min
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