This week, I’m back with friend of the show, Dee 'Lil D' Porter, and we had to talk about a phrase that sounds good…until you really sit with it.“You attract who you are.”Do you though?Or are you just letting people stay who never should’ve had access in the first place?We get real about self-esteem, patterns, and the truth about why you keep ending up in the same situations with different people. From wild dating stories to hard accountability, this conversation isn’t about blaming others. It’s about looking in the mirror and asking better questions.Because at some point…you gotta stop saying “this keeps happening to me” and start asking “why do I keep allowing this?”What We Talk AboutThe difference between attraction and toleranceHow low self-esteem shows up in your dating choicesWhy “they like me” is not a good enough reason to stayThe role of boundaries in who gets access to youRecognizing misalignment early and what to do about itWhy potential will keep you stuck longer than realityThe truth about outgrowing people and relationshipsIt’s About DAMN Time…It’s about damn time I stop confusing understanding someone with excusing them.D.A.M.N. ChallengeTake a real look at your life this week.Where are you saying you want better…but still entertaining what doesn’t match?Ask yourself:What am I currently tolerating that I said I wouldn’t?Who has access to me that hasn’t earned it?Where am I ignoring patterns because I see potential?Then make one decision that reflects your standards…not your comfort.Follow Lil D on IG → hereWatch her new show, Love Lessons on YouTube → hereVisit her website → hereConnect with MeFollow me on all platforms: @DaWholeDamnShowFollow It’s About DAMN Time: @ItsAboutDamnTimePodCop the DAMN University merch right here: → Shop now

Some weeks, showing up feels impossible.Not because you've quit.Not because you don't care.You're just... tired.In this unplanned and completely unscripted solo episode, I talk through something I've been wrestling with myself. What do you do when you're mentally, emotionally, and physically exhausted, but your dreams are still waiting on you?This isn't an episode where I pretend to have all the answers. It's a conversation about trying to move forward when motivation is gone, perfection isn't happening, and "doing your best" looks different than it did a few months ago.I share why I believe progress still counts, even if all you have in you is one small step.If you've been feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or like life has quietly passed you by while you've been trying to survive, this one's for you.In This EpisodeWhy being tired isn't the same as giving upHow perfection keeps us from showing upThe power of making your goals impossible to ignoreWhy regulating your nervous system matters more than pushing harderHow the people around you can either fuel your dreams or slowly talk you out of themWhat "1% better" really looks like when you're running on emptyDAMN ChallengeThis week, don't try to change your entire life.Just pay attention.Notice where your mind naturally goes.Notice how your body responds to stress.Notice whether the people around you push you toward your dreams or pull you away from them.Then ask yourself one simple question:What's one small thing I can do today to move my life forward?No heroics.Just one step.If This Episode HelpedIf this conversation resonated with you, I'd love to hear from you. Send me a DM, leave a comment, or share this episode with someone who's been carrying more than they've been saying.And if you're enjoying the show, subscribing and leaving a review is one of the best ways to help more people discover It's About DAMN Time.📲 Connect with Me🔗 Follow me on all platforms: @DaWholeDamnShow🎧 Follow It’s About DAMN Time: @ItsAboutDamnTimePod💥 Cop the DAMN University merch right here → Shop now

Ever been in the middle of sex…and realize you’re not even there?Yeah. We’re talking about that.This episode gets real about what it means to be “good” at sex but still feel disconnected from your own pleasure. If you’ve ever found yourself overthinking, performing, or focusing more on your partner than yourself…you’re not alone.I’m joined by somatic sexologist Janelle Toussaint, and I put myself in the hot seat. We unpack why so many of us struggle to relax during sex, how being stuck in your head shows up in your body, and what it actually takes to experience real pleasure.This isn’t just about sex.This is about presence, control, and finally learning how to receive.What We Talk AboutWhy you might be performing instead of actually feelingThe connection between people-pleasing and sexual pleasureWhat it means to be “in your body” vs stuck in your headHow mindfulness and everyday habits impact your sex lifeWhy asking for what you want feels so hardThe role of safety, communication, and self-awareness in intimacyPractical ways to start reconnecting with your body todayIt’s About DAMN Time SegmentIt’s about damn time you admit the kind of sex you actually want.Not what you think you should want.Not what you’ve been doing out of habit.What you really want.Because you can’t experience it…if you won’t even say it.D.A.M.N. ChallengeThis week, slow down.Pick one moment in your day and be fully present in your body.It could be in the shower.Putting on lotion.Taking a breath.No rushing. No distractions.Just you…being there.Guest InfoJanelle Toussaint is a somatic sexologist and technical product strategist exploring the intersection of intimacy, technology, and human connection. Her work focuses on helping people reconnect with their bodies, understand their desires, and build more intentional relationships.Follow Janelle:Instagram & TikTok: @thesextechnologistWebsite: https://www.thesextechnologist.comConnect with Me🔗 Follow me on all platforms: @DaWholeDamnShow🎧 Follow It’s About DAMN Time: @ItsAboutDamnTimePod💥 Cop the DAMN University merch right here → Shop now

Have you ever been so stressed that your body made the decision for you?That's where I've been.After weeks of traveling, family responsibilities, unexpected car problems, and trying to make sure my daughter was ready for her next chapter at Xavier University, I hit a wall. My shoulders were tight. My brain was foggy. I couldn't relax. I didn't even realize how run down I was until my body finally said, "Enough."In this honest, unfiltered episode, I'm not showing up at my best. I'm showing up as I am. We talk about what happens when stress stops being something you think about and starts becoming something you physically carry.I also share some of the simple things that helped me begin calming my nervous system, from Epsom salt baths and cold showers to magnesium, music frequencies, and something we don't give ourselves enough of... permission to slow down.This isn't about having all the answers.It's about learning to listen before your body forces you to.In this episode, we talk about:What it feels like when chronic stress takes over your bodyWhy your nervous system deserves as much attention as your mindsetThe difference between surviving stress and recovering from itSimple practices that helped me finally relaxWhy baby steps still count when you're running on emptyLearning to recognize your body's warning signs before they become a crisisThis week's D.A.M.N. ChallengeTry one thing this week that's outside of your normal routine to help regulate your nervous system.Maybe it's a walk outside.Maybe it's an Epsom salt bath.Maybe it's deep breathing, stretching, meditation, or simply putting your phone down for twenty minutes.Whatever it is, give yourself permission to pause.Your body has been talking to you.It's about DAMN time you listened.If this episode encouraged you, send it to someone who's been carrying more than they're letting on.Be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and follow the show so you never miss an episode.📲 Connect with Me🔗 Follow me on all platforms: @DaWholeDamnShow🎧 Follow It’s About DAMN Time: @ItsAboutDamnTimePod💥 Cop the DAMN University merch right here → Shop now

Getting back on track sounds easy…until it’s actually time to do it.This week, Jarratt DAMN is joined by returning guest and functional nutritional therapy practitioner Medina “Nia” Henry for a real conversation about starting over on your wellness journey, rebuilding consistency, and why “life be life-in” might be the excuse keeping us stuck.From stress eating and gym anxiety to meal prep, burnout, accountability, and rebuilding self-trust one decision at a time, this episode is less about perfection and more about finally being honest with yourself about what needs to change.Because sometimes the hardest part isn’t the workout.It’s showing up for yourself again.In this episode, we talk about:Why consistency feels harder the second time aroundThe connection between stress, food, and emotional exhaustion“Life be life-in” vs radical honestyMeal prep and reducing decision fatigueGym intimidation and comparing yourself to othersThe importance of honoring the baby stepsWhy the first 30 days is about rebuilding trust with yourselfAnd yes…Jarratt gets called out several times in this episode. Respectfully. 😂Connect with Medina “Nia” HenryInstagram: @QueeniesNutrition🌐 QueeniesNutrition.comConnect with Me🔗 Follow me on all platforms: @DaWholeDamnShow🎧 Follow It’s About DAMN Time: @ItsAboutDamnTimePod💥 Cop the DAMN University merch right here → Shop now

May kicked my natural Black ass.After a month away from the podcast, I'm finally back behind the microphone. Not because everything is fixed. Not because life magically got easier. Simply because the storm let up enough for me to start moving forward again.In this solo episode, I'm sharing what happened during one of the toughest months I've had in a while. Between injuries, financial stress, family responsibilities, and watching my routines completely fall apart, I found myself slipping back into old habits and old coping mechanisms.The frustrating part?I knew better.I've spent years in therapy. I've had hundreds of conversations about healing, mental health, and self-improvement. Yet when life got heavy, I still found myself returning to the same default settings.Comfort TV.Sugar.Isolation.Survival mode.If you've ever felt like all your progress disappeared the moment life got hard, this episode is for you.We're talking about why healing isn't linear, why setbacks don't erase growth, and why sometimes the bravest thing you can do is sit under the underpass, let the worst of the storm pass, and then keep driving.In this episode:• Why stress often sends us back to old habits• The relationship between routine and emotional stability• What happens when survival mode takes over• Why setbacks don't cancel your progress• Learning to give yourself grace during difficult seasons• Continuing to fight for happiness even when life gets heavyIt's About DAMN Time we stop treating setbacks like failures and start seeing them for what they really are.Part of the journey.Connect with Me🔗 Follow me on all platforms: @DaWholeDamnShow🎧 Follow It’s About DAMN Time: @ItsAboutDamnTimePod💥 Cop the DAMN University merch right here → Shop now

This wasn’t the episode I planned to record.It’s late. I’m tired. Life is life right now. Then I got a message from my cousin about his daughter graduating… and it got me thinking.What do we actually say to this next generation?Not the usual advice. Not the clichés. Not the “follow your dreams” speech.Because if we’re being honest… we’ve never seen a world like this before.In this episode, I wrestle with that question in real time. What can we teach them? What do we even know for sure? And why does letting them figure it out feel so damn hard?This is for the parents. The aunties. The uncles. The older cousins. Anybody trying to guide someone… while still figuring it out themselves.And to the Class of 2026… We love you. We got you. Even when we don’t have the answers.In this episode:Why advice doesn’t hit the same anymoreThe fear we don’t say out loud about the futureLetting go of control as a parent and as familyWhat support really looks like nowWhy your actions matter more than your wordsConnect with Me🔗 Follow me on all platforms: @DaWholeDamnShow🎧 Follow It’s About DAMN Time: @ItsAboutDamnTimePod💥 Cop the DAMN University merch right here → Shop now

Sometimes the most productive thing you can do… is nothing.This wasn’t planned. No outline. No script. Just me being honest about something I don’t always get right… rest.I went into this week thinking I needed to travel, be outside, create content, stay consistent, and “make the most” of my time off.My body said nah.So I listened.In this episode, I’m talking about what it really looks like to slow down when everything in you is telling you to keep going. The guilt. The fear. The voice in your head saying you’re about to fall off if you stop.And the realization that maybe… you’re not unmotivated.You’re just tired.What we get into:The difference between being tired and being depressedWhy rest feels uncomfortable when you’re used to being in survival modeHow “time off” can still lead to burnout if you don’t actually slow downThe fear of losing momentum when you stopWhy your body will force you to sit down if you don’t choose toIt’s About DAMN Time:It’s about damn time you stop negotiating your rest.Not two hours. Not “after I finish this one thing.” Not when everything is perfect.If you’re tired… sit down somewhere.D.A.M.N. Challenge:Pay attention to your body this week.If you know you’re tired, don’t push through it just to prove something.Don’t dress up exhaustion as discipline.Rest until you actually feel recharged… then get back to it.Connect with Me🔗 Follow me on all platforms: @DaWholeDamnShow🎧 Follow It’s About DAMN Time: @ItsAboutDamnTimePod💥 Cop the DAMN University merch right here → Shop now

This week started with TikTok ads about male kegels, beet root, and supplements promising better performance.I thought I was about to record a “grown” episode.But the more I sat with it, the more I realized… this isn’t about sex.It’s about the fact that I don’t know how to relax. I don’t know how to let go. I’ve been “on” for so long, my body forgot how to turn off.And it’s showing up everywhere.In my sleep.In my stress.In my body.And yeah… in my sex life too.This episode is for the people who carry the weight for everyone else and forgot how to carry anything for themselves.If you’ve ever been the strong one, the dependable one, the one everybody leans on… this one is for you.What we get into:Why this isn’t really about sex or performanceHow being “always on” shows up in your bodyThe difference between resting and just pausingWhy pleasure feels like pressure when you can’t let goHow stress quietly runs your life if you don’t check itIt’s About DAMN Time:It’s about damn time I stop treating rest like a reward… and start treating it like a requirement.D.A.M.N. Challenge:This week, don’t try to fix anything.Just notice where you’re holding tension.Your shoulders.Your chest.Your stomach.Your breath.Then do one small thing to relax.Not perfect. Not deep. Not life-changing.Just one win.Take the bath.Go to bed early.Sit still for a minute.We’re not chasing home runs.We’re stacking small wins.📲 Connect with Me🔗 Follow me on all platforms: @DaWholeDamnShow🎧 Follow It’s About DAMN Time: @ItsAboutDamnTimePod💥 Cop the DAMN University merch right here → Shop now

What happens when the job looks good on paper… but feels wrong in your body?This week, I’m sitting down with Arylle Young to unpack a post that stopped me mid-scroll: “I quit the job everybody wanted.”At first, it sounded bold. Brave. Maybe even reckless.But this conversation turned into something deeper.We talked about:The quiet tension of staying somewhere that drains youThe lie we tell ourselves about “security”Why quitting without proof of concept is dangerousThe difference between choosing your passion and choosing yourselfScarcity mindset vs. intentional transitionWhy you can’t analyze your way into entrepreneurshipThis isn’t a “burn it all down” episode.It’s about the internal math.The emotional cost.The identity split of holding on to two worlds at once.If you’ve ever thought:“I know this isn’t where I’m supposed to be… so why am I still here?”This one’s for you.In This Episode:When “stable” starts feeling like a trapWhy one of your identities eventually has to dieThe danger of romanticizing entrepreneurshipHow to build revenue before you make the leapWhy service — not ego — drives incomeWhat I’m still wrestling with in my own careerIt’s About DAMN TimeIt’s about damn time we stop glorifying quitting…and start asking what staying is costing us.Connect with Arylle YoungFind her on all platforms: @ArylleYoungShe helps podcasters turn their voice into revenue with strategy, not vibes.📲 Connect with Me🔗 Follow me on all platforms: @DaWholeDamnShow🎧 Follow It’s About DAMN Time: @ItsAboutDamnTimePod💥 Cop the DAMN University merch right here → Shop nowMentioned in this episode:Ready to Make Your Podcast Actually Pay You?If you’ve been thinking about starting a podcast… or you already have one and it’s not making money yet… this is for you. Arylle created a Podcast System Audit to help you get clear on what’s working, what’s not, and how to structure your podcast with profitability in mind from day one. This isn’t about posting episodes and hoping something sticks. It’s about: Building a podcast that opens real opportunities Creating a strategy that fits your life and goals Making money without the long, drawn-out guessing game If your goal is freedom, not just content… start here. Grab the Podcast System Audit here: https://podcashmachine.com/podcast-system-auditPodcast System Audit