Send a text We explore findings from three recent scientific studies that show how flexible expectations, strong relationships, and emotional meaning shape a lifetime of sexual satisfaction in marriage. Bouchard KN, Cormier M, Huberman JS, Rosen NO. Sexual script flexibility and sexual well-being in long-term couples. Journal of Sexual Medicine. 2023. Tavares IM, Rosen NO, Heiman JR, Nobre PJ. Longitudinal associations between relational and sexual well-being. Family Process....
Mar 9
36 min
Send us a text In this episode, we share a few more segments from our live Q&A at the 2025 Annual Retreat; all of these had to do with the pursuer-responder dynamic. Specifically, we covered questions about: What is God teaching me through the pursuer-responder dynamic?Is compromise the answer to sexual desire discrepancy?What if, despite the sterotype, the husband doesn’t want sex?How should a wife deal with the role of reluctant dual-pursuer? Register at intimatecovenant.com/Alabama for...
Feb 9
32 min
Send us a text What happens when a room full of couples asks the questions most people are afraid to say out loud? We lean into the hard stuff: purity culture hangovers, what “counts” as sex, how to tell the truth without breaking trust, and how aging bodies can still enjoy rich, connected intimacy. Recorded live at our Intimate Covenant Marriage Retreat, this candid Q&A blends biblical wisdom, practical tools, and warm honesty to help you move from silence and shame to clarity and closen...
Jan 26
46 min
Send us a text Today we’re sharing some excerpts from our live Q&A session during a recent Marriage Day in Illinois. Listen to our responses to questions about: How to find unity of spiritual purpose when we have different passions?As a wife, how do I avoid nagging in my role to be a helpmeet?How can we create a community for porn recovery and support for betrayed spouses?Practically speaking, how do we pray together as a couple?How do I deal with with sexual dysfunction?Warning: This pod...
Dec 8, 2025
38 min
Send us a text We trace how Darwin and Freud shaped cultural ideas about sex and how these philosophies have infiltrated even modern religion. Darwin and Freud both rejected a divine order of the universe or a spiritual guide for moral and ethical living. Their influences profoundly shape the course of modern philosophy and our current society.Many modern Christians have unwittingly adopted influences from Darwin and Freud into their own theology, especially in how we approach sexuality and s...
Nov 3, 2025
42 min
Send us a text Augustine and subsequent Medieval sexual theology have profoundly influenced modern Christian teachings on sexuality, often causing unnecessary shame and restrictions that aren't biblically based. During the Middle Ages, the influence of Augustine, with echoes of Greek philosophy, intensified into even more unnecessarily restrictive laws and unbiblical teachings about sex. Contrary to Augustine and classic Catholic doctrine, celibacy is not more holy than marriage. The Bible te...
Aug 4, 2025
36 min
Send us a text Matt and Jenn explore how ancient Greek philosophy has shaped modern Christian attitudes toward sexuality, creating an unbiblical culture of shame and stigma around sexual desire. • Plato's dualism in the 4th century BC separated body and soul, viewing bodily desires as inferior to spiritual pursuits • Stoicism further emphasized suppression of passions, teaching that sex was only acceptable within marriage and solely for procreation • The Apostle Paul directly confronted thes...
Jul 14, 2025
44 min
Send us a text Matt and Jenn use a cooking analogy to explore how great married sex requires more than just "spices" – it needs solid foundational ingredients of spiritual, emotional, mental, and physical connection. • Adding more spice to bad ingredients doesn't make a dish better; it likely makes it worse. • In struggling marriages, focusing solely on sexual excitement without addressing overall closeness leaves couples unsatisfied • All aspects of intimacy (spiritual, emotional, mental, p...
Jun 30, 2025
38 min
Send us a text Difficult conversations are at the heart of successful marriages, yet many struggle with vulnerability and emotional expression. We explore practical ways to share feelings authentically and address how to reveal past mistakes you've been hiding. Sharing your feelings can be a difficult conversation for some. This is a skill which may require intentional practice.Vulnerability is the heart of intimate relationships. Revealing the fullness of yourself is the only way to be loved...
May 19, 2025
44 min
Send us a text In this episode, Matt & Jenn tackle the concept of "organic sex" and whether truly spontaneous intimacy is even possible in a long-term marriage. The myth that good sex should just naturally happen without planning or effort has damaged many marriages and created unrealistic expectations. • Sex is natural but not naturally perfect - it requires intentional cultivation • Many couples believe the Hollywood myth that passionate encounters should happen effortlessly • Th...
Apr 14, 2025
42 min
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