Home Girls Unite
Home Girls Unite
HomeGirlsUnite
We're Home Girls Unite, a support group for eldest daughters and daughters from immigrant homes, and this is our podcast. Every week, we come together to discuss a topic that is unique to our struggles as eldest daughters who were forced to grow up before our time and mother those around us.
Eldest Daughter Syndrome: Why We Give Everyone Everything But Ourselves
In this episode, Yasin and Kiran explore why so many eldest daughters find it easier to spend money, buy gifts, and provide for others than they do for themselves.From treating family and friends to luxury items, celebrating other people's milestones, and showing love through giving, many eldest daughters have mastered the art of caring for others, but struggle when it comes to receiving that same care.Yasin and Kiran discuss the connection between eldest daughter syndrome, people-pleasing, responsibility, guilt, and the belief that our needs should always come last. They unpack why buying something nice for yourself can feel uncomfortable, selfish, or even undeserved.You can watch this episode on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Book a RANT session⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find us on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Email us:  [email protected]
Jul 11
37 min
Confessions of an Eldest Daughter: Dealing with a last-born mother and wanting to be taken care of.
In this week's episode, Yasin and Kiran unpack two eldest daughter confessions that will resonate with so many women navigating responsibility, family expectations, and healing.The first confession comes from an eldest daughter whose mother moved to another country, leaving her to raise and care for her younger siblings. Together, they explore the emotional impact of parentification, the weight of becoming the "third parent," and how these responsibilities can shape adulthood.The second confession dives into a feeling many eldest daughters know all too well: being caught between craving independence and secretly wishing someone would take care of you for once. Don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with an eldest daughter who needs to hear it. You can watch this episode on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Book a RANT session⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find us on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Email us:  [email protected]
Jul 3
31 min
Financial & Economic Abuse: The Hidden Burden Many Eldest Daughters Carry
This week, we explore financial and economic abuse through the lens of the eldest daughter experience. From being expected to financially support family members, sacrificing personal goals, managing household responsibilities, or carrying the economic burden of an entire family, many eldest daughters experience forms of financial control that are rarely discussed.We unpack what financial and economic abuse can look like in families, relationships, and communities, why eldest daughters are particularly vulnerable to these expectations, and how cultural norms can sometimes disguise harmful behaviours as duty, respect, or responsibility.Whether you're navigating financial boundaries, recovering from financial abuse, or trying to understand your relationship with money, this episode offers insight, validation, and practical reflections for eldest daughters seeking financial freedom and wellbeing.You can watch this episode on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Book a RANT session⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find us on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Email us:  [email protected]
Jun 4
33 min
Confessions of an Eldest Daughter: Fixing Family Problems, Setting Boundaries & Finding Joy
This week, Kiran and Yasin explore two confessions. One story unpacks the emotional burden of constantly fixing parents’ problems while receiving little support in return.The second follows an eldest daughter beginning to prioritise her own happiness, set boundaries, and rediscover joy beyond responsibility. A conversation about parentification, emotional labour, healing, and learning to choose yourself.You can watch this episode on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Book a RANT session⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find us on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Email us:  [email protected]
May 18
32 min
Visiting Home After Moving Out, Life in NYC & Unlearning Eldest Daughter Traits
This week, Yasin and Kiran discuss what it’s like visiting home after moving out as an eldest daughter — and the emotional shifts that come with creating distance, independence, and a new life.They also discuss life in NYC, missing home and creating new community and friendships. Lastly, they talk about some of the eldest daughter traits they are working to unlearn. You can watch this episode on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Book a RANT session⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find us on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Email us:  [email protected]
May 10
42 min
Confessions of an Eldest Daughter: Always taking the blame + dating a fellow eldest daughter
This week, Yasin and Kiran respond to your eldest daughter's confessions, unpacking the emotional weight of boundaries, family expectations, and burnout. We hear from:An eldest daughter dating another eldest daughter, but noticing the difference in how their families respond to boundaries, where one is supported, and the other is labelled “moody” or “rude”An eldest daughter who is constantly taking the blame and feels stuck in the middle of her parents and siblings. These stories highlight the emotional exhaustion many eldest daughters carry, often having to suppress their feelings, manage family dynamics, and keep the peace at their own expense.You can watch this episode on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Book a RANT session⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find us on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Email us:  [email protected]
May 4
26 min
Why Some Eldest Daughters Miss Out on Extracurriculars
In this weeks episode, Yasin and Kiran explore how immigration, birth order, and family expectations shape the opportunities available to eldest daughters.Kiran reflects on growing up as a second-generation daughter, where she had access to extracurricular activities and creative opportunities. Yasin shares her experience as a first-generation eldest daughter, where the focus was on academia, responsibility, and supporting the household, often at the expense of personal interests.This conversation highlights a deeper question:What does this mean for the next generation of immigrant daughters?You can watch this episode on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Book a RANT session⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find us on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Email us:  [email protected]
Apr 26
45 min
Confessions of an Eldest Daughter: Dating an Eldest Son + Marriage Regret
In this week's episode, Yasin and Kiran respond to anonymous confessions about dating, marriage regret and family pressure.This episode explores the complex realities many eldest daughters face when it comes to love, duty, and autonomy, especially within cultural and family expectationsYou can watch this episode on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠ Book a RANT session⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find us on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Email us:  [email protected]
Apr 9
26 min
Eldest Daughters & Exploitation: The Hidden Risks No One Talks About.
In this episode, Yasin and Kiran explore a rarely discussed but critical topic: how being an eldest daughter can increase vulnerability to exploitation, including human trafficking for sexual exploitation.Through reflection and research, they unpack how parentification, family pressure, and cultural expectations can shape eldest daughters into being highly responsible, self-sacrificing, and conditioned to prioritise others, sometimes at the cost of their own safety and autonomy.These patterns, while often praised, can also create risk factors that are not widely acknowledged. This is not about blame; it’s about naming patterns, increasing awareness, and protecting women and girls.Full researchIf you or anyone you know needs support, please contact us. You can watch this episode on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠ Book a RANT session⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find us on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠If you or anyone you know needs support, please contact us. Email us:  [email protected]
Apr 2
56 min
Confessions of an Eldest Daughter: As an eldest daughter, moving out feels like a crime
In this episode, Yasin and Kiran respond to confessions from eldest daughters — opening up to honest conversations about guilt, family pressure, and emotional responsibility.We hear from: An eldest daughter who feels guilty about moving away from her family An eldest daughter who feels stuck in the middle of her parents’ issuesMany eldest daughters grow up being the mediator, the fixer, and the emotional support system for their families. But what happens when that role starts to feel overwhelming?If you’ve ever felt torn between your own life and your family’s expectations, this conversation is for you.You can watch this episode on ⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠ Book a RANT session⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Anonymously send your eldest daughter confessions ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find us on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Email us:  [email protected]
Mar 26
20 min
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