Join your triumphant trio as they talk with Dr. Laura Anderson about the literal pain and trauma that purity culture leaves in its wake. Did you, for instance, know that sex is supposed to feel good????? And that feeling good includes not having pain? "When Religion Hurts You: HEALING FROM RELIGIOUS TRAUMA AND THE IMPACT OF HIGH CONTROL RELIGION" Dr Laura Anderson, PHD Pre-Order: https://drlauraeanderson.com/book "Transforming the Sacred Wound" by Peter Levin (Audio Book Only)

It's an episode about motherhood! It's an episode about feminism! It's an episode about feminism and motherhood and all of the fun messages we were taught about being a Good Christian Girl™! In this episode we get into all the nitty gritty of what it means to identify as a woman in The United States of Evangelical America.

Your fave middle-aged mom apostates connect with their friend Shaunea, a black woman who grew up in almost exclusively white spaces when her white mother converted to Christianity in the 1980’s. Listen and discover a long-suppressed reality - when people are not able to be themselves, where belonging is conditional to how one looks, acts, talks, and moves through the world - including the color of their skin (sorry, D.C. Talk - being colorblind isn’t a thing and it’s actually racist, heads up!)….well, it doesn’t do anybody any good to continue to allow that system to flourish and persist.

I went to Christian School my whole life and all I have to show for it is student debt and religious trauma.

If your parents “dared to discipline” their “strong-willed children” the Dobson way, you probably got a good amount of spanking, control, and fear in your childhood. Parents were told that breaking the spirit of a child would ensure they would become good little Christians and (just as or more importantly) good little Republicans. Amazingly, many of us didn’t end up that way - and the Boomers who listened to Focus on the Family’s terrible advice haven’t learned how to apologize for their behavior. And some of them are just left to wonder why their children have betrayed them.

Growing up neurodivergent and in the throes of evangelicalism, a high control and fear-based religion, offered DL Mayfield one choice...to be the best darn good girl she could be, the bestest christian and martyr for the lord, and to do it with perfection and grace. And so she did. FOR YEARS, DECADES even!Come along on a wild ride as we hear how DL Mayfield (Lindsay's sister!!!) has begun to disentangle her life from the world she grew up in after her autism diagnosis...and now she's Holy Ghosting.

When we were kids, we were told to listen to “the voice of God” which was usually something someone else told us, and rarely, if ever, something we actually “heard” with our ears. Even our own intuition couldn’t possibly be right, so we spent our childhoods and young adulthoods under the impression that we couldn’t make a decision lest we be out of God’s will. In the Bible, there are SO MANY stories about people using divination to understand what they perceived the will of God to be - and some of those stories (Gideon, for instance) are held up as triumphs…whereas others are condemned (King Saul consulting a medium or fortune teller - Jehova was like, NOPE, you’re not King anymore). What is divination, anyway? Will you be smoted from the earth if you use it? (spoiler: no)  Divination is the practice of getting insight into a question or situation, it's not scary at all, we promise.Things you can read about divination (if you dare!)Divination is terrible and a sin: https://www.gotquestions.org/Bible-divination.htmlReferences in the Old Testament to Divination: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Witchcraft_and_divination_in_the_Hebrew_BibleA Very Fun Article About Christians and Magic: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Christian_views_on_magic

Not since Carman personally slayed the DEVIL himself when he called for Revival in the Land has there ever been such a meaningful movement of the awakening of the Christian spirit's openness to the Holy Ghost.Not until now.Asbury University has experienced a celebrity-level Revival in the Land amongst its student body. But, REVIVAL...what is it good for?Dr. Amy Ferrell "I hope for everyone's sake that if there is any kind of awakening that it is to the truths of this world. Especially the truth of our complicity in harm, like racism, patriarchy, ableism, homophobia, transphobia, Christian exceptionalism ("We're the good and right ones"), saviorism, martyrdom, emotional repression, binaries, paradigms of control using manipulation, coercion, intimidation, and punishment, and I could go on. Hoping we all can wake up and see through the illusions of the world and of us."Revival is never said in the New Testament, but 2 Chronicles 7:14 is used to justify "healing the land" of America from things Christians don't like.Watch the Carman Revival In The Land video with us at Patreon.com/holyghostingBiola Revival Article: https://charismamag.com/charisma-archive/spiritual-awakening-continues-to-shake-biola-university-in-california/

It’s no surprise “God Hates Divorce” or at least “God Hates Divorce for Women” in evangelical christianity. There’s only one thing that will end a marriage in God’s eyes…ADULTERY. But even then, sometimes it’s best to forgive (the man) and stay married! We’re all big fans of personal choice over here, even if you signed a legal (gasp!) document one time when you were 20 (oh, was that just Meg?!) you don’t HAVE to stay in a relationship you don’t like (you don’t even have to say your reason). Join us for a healing episode celebrating the TABOO of divorce!

A lot of things were considered real bad in the 80’s and 90’s - especially for evangelical kids like your fave trio, Lindsay, Meg, and Sarai. The devil, yikes! Having boobs, terrible! Even thinking about or knowing anybody who drank any kind of alcohol?? NO! And especially…DRUGS. Then again, in the 80’s and 90’s, drugs were bad for everyone, because Nancy Reagan said so. This season is all about Taboos! In this episode, we delve into the realm of substances and how we’ve learned where, when, and how substances harm or help us. Book Recs: In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts by Gabor Maté, MD This Naked Mind by Annie Grace