Life coach Lauren Handel Zander, author of “Maybe It’s You: Cut the Crap, Face Your Fears, Love Your Life,” helps us figure out not just what we want out of life, but how to get there — and it all starts with getting honest with ourselves about money, careers, health, relationships and more. In Mailbag, we tackle credit scores and how to ask for a pay bump when you know someone at the company is leaving.

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices