The Importance of Gains: What is a gain? It is a positive outcome we receive through a choice we make or a choice we do not make. An example: I gained my peace of mind by not going back to the dysfunctional person. Why does this matter? Gains are the benefits we receive with a positive, healthy change. If we let ourselves recognize and magnify the gain, it helps our body adapt and adjust quickly to the new state of affairs rather than linger in the yearning, ...