Burden of Cause What is the "burden of cause"? It is a term I use to describe believing you cause other people to treat you the way they treated you. When we are enmeshed this way, we will internalize people's behaviors as a reflection of some internal flaw or problem that we then must change. This leads us to believe that the other person will change, too, creating a potent fantasy that leaves us hurting, helpless, and confused. Listen in this episode to learn how to ...